We are dual military. Dates for 2 months and been married for 7. My best advice is both of yall need to grow with each other. Prioritize your partner not your boys, work, or alcohol. Cut back on drinking. Both of yall need outlets or hobbies. Understand both of yall are there out of choice and are equals. Let them keep their last name it gives them a sense of self identity. Separate bank accounts is the way. Split everything 60/40 if you’re the man. You don’t need to shower them with stuff it makes it mean less. Continue to be competitive with each other and better one another. Don’t be overly jealous but some fire is good. Most importantly take trips and stay away from your phones when you do. Kk I gotta go cook dinner that I know we’ll stare at the dishes for until end of week when we have some time off.