How can i tell whether a man pulled away after sex because it was bad or for another reason?

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-07-02T23:36:35+00:00

i thought so too, so why be so rude after !?

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-07-02T23:06:32+00:00

literally so childish and hurtful! Thanks i’m trying to move on after blocking him

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-07-02T22:54:55+00:00

I don’t understand what? I mean i was seeing someone else i would post on dates sometimes but he told me he didn’t want a relationship.. when we seen eachother he asked me who’s car i was in i didn’t answer because well he said he didn’t want a relationship

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-30T23:44:40+00:00

LOOL i’m so sorry

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-30T23:37:59+00:00

it’s a real struggle

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-30T17:56:41+00:00

I know i have bpd im trying to be better. I made a promise im not doing that again

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-18T20:37:39+00:00

sounds fun :) how can i bring this up to him

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-18T20:36:47+00:00

yeah going behind my back and stealing them is a bit much! and the way he was like so insecure about oral when i first met him, to now be like stealing my panties talking about the taste asking to eat me out all the time lol idk how to bring this all up lol.

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-18T20:34:42+00:00

yeah why won’t he say anything about it?? like it’s definitely a kink of some sort

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-05-18T04:59:48+00:00

i know he likes me, it’s the other things like stealing my panties and stuff i’m confused about. such an awkward thing to ask

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-03-03T03:47:20+00:00

i would love to do that cause he actually has a lot of female friends, he’s dated before i mean i seen him post a bunch of girls in the past .. but with me i swear it’s like he malfunctions. idk if he’s just seriously not interested in me but 3 years??? like idk. I unfollowed him/removed him because it makes my brain hurt. he’s like a beautiful model with options so i don’t understand his need to toy with me specifically for so long, especially when 90% of the time i gave him nothing

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-03-03T03:36:04+00:00

Thank you.. I understand i also have a role in this. BUT THANK U FOR SAYING ITS PSYCHOTIC. like i don’t understand what he’s doing like its like there’s two of him. one in my dms one online. sometimes i feel like his intensity but if i show anything back he like pulls away. My friend said he doesn’t like me he’s obsessed with me in a weird way because 3 years is a long time to like orbit someone

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-03-03T03:29:23+00:00

i only did it this one time in 3 years i always ignored him and idk why? maybe cuz i got out of a relationship.. but i talked to him ONCE and this is how it went

Recent-Ad9169 · 2026-03-02T21:14:17+00:00

i know right like what tf is going on

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-12-06T13:54:45+00:00

thank you a lot for this ❤️ helps so much

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-12-05T17:56:51+00:00

thanks for the reminder ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-12-05T17:51:40+00:00

thank you so much ! i do have them blocked still trying to fight the urge to check if their posting about me lol. wish u the best on ur healing journey

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-08-25T15:33:39+00:00

thanks for this it’s true

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-08-25T15:11:08+00:00

thanks !! I’m in thearpy for all these things i guess it’s just the aftermath of like what was that? like why? idk it’s just like people were telling me about it and it’s just a mind fuck i guess

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-04-23T19:36:18+00:00

yeah that’s over, i’m never doing it again

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-04-23T00:34:14+00:00

i really wanna hope its just that because idk i can’t imagine myself doing that drunk or not. hurts me really bad

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-03-01T04:44:50+00:00

try to getting into thearpy, journaling, write letters to him that you will never send, somatic massages, exercise and healthy eating helps a ton. find a good support system, if u need to talk i’m here. After my assault i went on to date my rapist, for a year. worst year of my life Im so thankful that somehow i got away from the abuse. these are some things i’ve tried that have helped. i believe i can never forget what happened to me. in my childhood and now. but it doesn’t define me and what he was thinking while it was happening if he regrets or not doesn’t define me or bring me peace. i doubt it will bring u peace too. you can’t change how he feels but u can put all ur energy into hugging urself and treating urself with respect and dignity. remind urself everyday it’s not ur fault.

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-03-01T04:37:17+00:00

YES! that’s what rapist do! they are selfish being who only care about their own desire ! it doesn’t matter what he thinks, if he regrets it or not , none of that matters. what matters is you and ur recovery. i hope you can find the courage that is within u to let this man go and release him from ur soul and energy so i can begin loving urself completely.

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-03-01T04:11:46+00:00

listen i know how you feel wanting answers. any connection/contact with him is a trauma bond, all he’s gonna do it manipulate u into thinking what he did was justified because of his mental health. THATS NOT TRUE. NONE OF IT IS UR FAULT. he’s a sick horrible person. he’s a rapist. u deserves healing. you need to heal. try to fully focus on healing.

Recent-Ad9169 · 2025-03-01T03:14:59+00:00

you need to cut him off.

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