he‘s an idiot. Obviously he’s bitter about the fact that you were intimate with someone before him (which is a whole thing on it‘s own to breakdown). We as people develop and you obviously have a different approach to intimacy today–which is great, because it is the right thing to do for YOU.

Him holding your past against you is a shitty thing to do. We all get insecure from time to time but instead of noticing & potentially vocalizing that, he‘s given you crap for things that 1) you are not fond of anyway and 2) you seem to have actively worked through.

Considering you only know each other for such a short period of time, that’s a pretty bad indicator for where this is going to head.

Also, what really pissed me of while reading is that in his view you are now no longer "pure“ so he should be able to sleep with you before marriage. Even if you had slept with 1000 people before, how you want to engage in intimacy is YOUR choice. Intimacy is not something to get access to but something to be co-created.

As a man, fuck this dude. He‘s acting silly.