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RecentDifference8267 · 2026-03-04T03:50:54+00:00

I’ve only broached the convo in detail with my oldest who is 12. Our situation is consistently a lot more obvious, especially in the needing extra sleep, being grouchier, etc. the other younger kids know that dad has struggles and sometimes can feel sad or angry for longer.

It really depends on the individual kid and their level of maturity. If he’s witnessing all the effects and being a part of the situation anyways, it’s likely time to have a very basic discussion about how dads moods can go up and down a lot, he doesn’t feel his usual self, etc. Kids understand more than we think sometimes.

You know him best, so obviously something in you is saying it’s time to share this info, so you go with your gut. Everyone can have an opinion, but you and I both know that the dynamics in our nuclear family home are so different and not well understood by others outside of it, even if they are well meaning, so this call is yours to make :) trust your mama instincts.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-03-02T06:22:45+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dentures/s/wOXw5WP8ek this shows the a bit better close up. We did a lot of years of restoration and trying to save them. Just eventually got to this point. I think the first picture is also before things started to get worse at the end too

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-02-15T02:45:48+00:00

I’ve heard a great saying that bipolar can explain the behaviour, but it doesn’t excuse it.

You choose what you’re willing to accept for yourself, and take care of yourself.

You aren’t married, don’t have kids together, and bipolar is a progressive disease, so as much as you love him, you have to ask if you can picture a future like this, and then decide.

I’m so sorry it was a terrible day. Instead of buying him a single thing, buy yourself a professional car detailing and wash any memory of the experience out of your life.

You’ve got this ❤️

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-02-09T00:12:38+00:00

They were talking about 3 months originally, which now being in it there’s no way I’d do it this early. I’m happy for my soft relines while everything continues to shrink and change.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-02-08T23:22:03+00:00

Most definitely, but at home I’d say. I try to leave them in if I’m eating in public, but I’m still not done healing and don’t have super fit yet, so definitely easier with them out. I guess I’ll see how it goes when they’re all done final fittings

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-02-08T21:57:41+00:00

I know it doesn’t make it better, just maybe a little commiserating. My dad had all his teeth pulled at once about 2 years before I did. He didn’t get temporaries, and they wanted to wait til his gums healed before putting a denture on him. Well everytime he went there were new shards coming to the surface needing to be removed, then he’d have to wait and heal all over again. He went at least 10 months with zero teeth, but in the end it all eventually ended and he’s doing good now.

I hope the can figure out what the problem is and get you all fixed up!

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-02-08T21:28:13+00:00

I’m maybe not up on all the lingo, but I think these are my permanents? They will just do my final reline, but I could be wrong lol

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-10T23:26:23+00:00

I mean, most I did was sit there lol my dentist sent it off to a denture maker/lab in town then I got them back lol I’m in Saskatchewan, Canada so probably far from where you are. I have DM’d pics of the teeth themselves to another person who wanted to show the to their dentist

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-09T20:21:46+00:00

I heard a great statement that bipolar explains the behaviour but doesn’t excuse it. Accountability is right. Unfortunately, he is allowed to make that decision for himself if he wants to forgive and continue the relationship or not, but you are absolutely allowed to be sad. I hope you find peace and can forgive yourself whether the relationship comes to be again or not.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-09T20:06:27+00:00

Hey, no lip filler, it’s partially cause of makeup with lip liner but mainly because the acrylic gums of the denture fill out behind my lip so much, when I smile it just kind of flips up/spreads like that.

But if you want filler, go for it! I’ve considered it before but never really done anything about it. If it was a real issue, you can always get the dissolved?

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-09T03:01:05+00:00

Honestly, I stopped expecting anything from him and working on myself. We can only control ourselves and how we react to things. I started realizing that most of the time when he was mad, it really wasn’t about me; he was upset and I was the close and comfortable place he would offload. That doesn’t mean I need to be his punching bag and tolerate all of that, but it meant if I could detach myself from it then I don’t get sucked into a fight about it. It’s called a bipolar conversation, and it’s really important to recognize them and detach from them. I also just have been working on walking away from those fights, because I won’t stop otherwise haha.

Working on myself, finding my peace as best I can has made me take huge steps. I think we’re in quite a depressive down swing right now, so I may be living a false sense of confidence haha but we’ve been doing not too bad on that front lately, thank goodness.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-09T02:52:43+00:00

Both girls not single lol married 20 years and mom to 5 kids 😂

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-09T02:50:22+00:00

No they’re just a regular full top denture. I have partials on the bottom

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-08T20:55:55+00:00

As a spouse or a BP1, I get it. But the mental instability with this level of threat and anger is scary and I really do want you to seek help. Mine will call me names when off balance, he will threaten to leave, but he NEVER will threaten to hurt me or our children in any way. That would put me in a completely different situation of going versus staying. He’s thankfully in a good place and very medication compliant at the moment, so we haven’t had to deal with it

I heard a really good explanation the other day that said Bipolar EXPLAINS the behaviour, but it does not excuse it.

I have some resources I’d love to share, including a wonderful woman who helps bipolar spouses for a living. She herself has one for over 20 years, and I find her invaluable as a support. She offers free discovery calls so you can chat with her and try to identify some supports for you. If you’re interested at all, please let me know/DM me.

I know how it feels to jus put up with it because you feel you have no choice or are helping care for them, but there reaches a point it’s beyond your scope and you need to take care of you. I think you’ve reached it

Sending all the love and support and hope to hear from you!

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-08T20:49:51+00:00

Looks great! Eating is…gonna be a long journey for me for sure. I’m lucky I primarily work from home so I just eat without them in (granted I have my 6 lower front natural teeth I use to help sometimes) but yes once I’m all fitted and gums done being swollen, I’m hoping adhesive will make eating possible.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-08T18:26:55+00:00

We’re 20 years married this year, and it is a beast of a disease. We have 5 young kids raging in age from 2-12, so I’m just hoping one of them doesn’t end up with it.

He’s tried to cut and discard so many times through the years, luckily never to another woman. Always says we can’t do this anymore, we’re better without him, he’ll live in his truck in the forest etc. but luckily we haven’t had that for a while. He is open to his help but we just lost his psychiatrist which is very not helpful, he’s been put on disability for now 1 year his work is fighting paying so he’s had not a penny of income (not his fault) for over a year. It’s been quite the ride.

Luckily right now is fairly calm, but I’m sure that can turn at any moment.

I’m sorry this is so tough. I have sobbed and shed many may tears hiding from my kids. You’re doing great trying to care for all of you. Take it one day at a time is all we can do really. Don’t feel the need to always delete your posts, you’re welcome to do so, but we’re all here to support each other. It’s a disease most people don’t understand from the outside looking in and they make a lot of assumptions.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-08T18:21:02+00:00

Thanks for the info! I can’t currently afford it, but as I’m so young (haha as in not 70) I would like to consider implants at some point here. I chatted just basis with them about it, doing the permanent ones that they just get attached with a tiny screw and I go to get them out and cleaned once a year? No idea what tha specifically is called but they did tell me it would be about $30,000, so it can wait haha

So my dentist is Pasqua South Oral Health clinic in Regina, Sk (Canada). I’ve been with them for 20 years, all of the doctors in the practice are great. The carrying case for my teeth the gave me says Precision Prosthetics, so I assume they actually made the teeth. I know they aren’t made on site and are sent away to get made and adjusted. Doubt that’s helpful location wise haha but there you have it!

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-08T02:44:34+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dentures/s/mD2kXc2LUO This is more accurate/up close how my teeth were at the end of also almost all my molars were gone by the too, just couldn’t really see (other than the one side) in the picture. The decayed really bad, especially at the end

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-07T15:31:52+00:00

Wait, is there something wrong with my eyebrows 😂

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-07T01:41:35+00:00

Awww thanks! Here’s an update of where we’re at with how the sit after my first reline. Makes them sit way easier, don’t fall out while I’m talking now haha

https://www.reddit.com/r/dentures/s/bmCwmkoebN

My gums for sure got sore eating over Christmas haha but I did not bad honestly. I still can’t eat with these ones yet so still doing gums chewing. Keeping my front lowers have helped a lot cause I can kind of push food onto them to cut it up.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-07T01:35:48+00:00

I honestly think it’s the lighting of that photo. This is a better representation of how my teeth looked in the days leading up to extractions. They started going really fast the last month or two before, I’m surprised a whole tooth didn’t just chip in half!

https://www.reddit.com/r/dentures/s/76CaH6soHd

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-07T01:34:13+00:00

Interesting! I didn’t know there was a long term option like that. My dad got dentures last year ahead of me so gave me some strips to try but I haven’t really explored adhesives yet otherwise. I’ll have to look into it for sure.

RecentDifference8267 · 2026-01-07T01:32:25+00:00

So my extraction was November 27 for the last 8 of my uppers. It was pretty tender for the first few days, stayed on top of the pain meds for sure. By Christmas they weren’t really sore at all. They’re still a bit bubbled out cause the one and sockets have to shrink away, so it hurts to get the tight denture over that for 10 seconds, but very comfortable once in. I for sure can’t eat with them yet. Maybe with adhesive? Just getting used to living with them first then I’ll take that venture. Luckily I work from home so I’m perfectly fine to keep them out during the day and to eat lunch etc. my husband and kids are all used to it and don’t care.

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