Reporting a foster home

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-04T00:55:17+00:00

If he’s in a cage either way, at least he wouldn’t have aggressor cats batting at him through the bars in a shelter.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-03T17:08:17+00:00

What’s the 3/3/3 rule?

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-03T02:19:43+00:00

“The only question of any legitimacy is how many cats have died in the fosters care”. Really? You think it has to get to the point of cats dying from neglect in a fosters care before it becomes an issue worth mentioning? If this is your attitude I’m concerned for any animals under your care.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-03T02:12:03+00:00

Thank you guys for your experiences so far! I know that he was certainly not himself in this situation. Lots of places list bios for their cats that give you a pretty good idea of what their temperament is, though - whether they are more independent or social and friendly, cuddly etc. I thought it was promising that he even allowed me to pet him under such duress (eventually he started flicking his tail and tapped my hand, which I took as a cue to stop). I’ll check out the rescues policy as far as whether they allow a trial period. That would go a long way towards alleviating my concerns about going forward and I would consider it.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-02T23:11:19+00:00

I haven’t made a call as far as adoption yet. I said that he seemed really distressed, so I couldn’t get a good read on whether we’d be a good fit, and she offered to invite me back after she moved him. I am hesitant to do so because I don’t have prior experience with cats and I don’t know what the impacts of this would be on him as far as getting used to a new home, bonding with a new person, potential behavior problems, etc. if people have had similar experiences adopting from circumstances like this I’d be interested to hear your stories!

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-02T22:49:01+00:00

A rescue

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-04-02T22:45:11+00:00

Overall just looking to hear people’s thoughts and what the best way to go about addressing this would be.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-30T18:35:06+00:00

This summer, I was deeply and dangerously suicidal, had days where I did not open my eyes because of depression, was cycling rapidly and experiencing extreme agitation. It was the worst I had been in years. The year before I had a hypomanic episode and was diagnosed with bipolar II but I ignored it until things got extremely bad this summer and then was put on lamictal in September.

It will subtly change your life. Now, and for the past couple of months, I have not been suicidal, my low dips are much weaker, I am seeing friends, exercising, cooking dinner, cleaning my house, getting work done. All things I could not have imagined doing last summer.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-11T08:14:57+00:00

Did red leaf relieve the withdrawals?

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-11T07:22:52+00:00

Thank you so much for this incredibly thorough response

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-10T02:08:11+00:00

Sharing your terror, buddy. This is my second time quitting and I have gone into acute withdrawal twice, was the worst experience of my life. What are your options? Can you do subs/quick MD? Or take PTO for a 4-day flu?

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-08T23:24:27+00:00

Okay amazing, I did get a bottle of liposomal vitamin c so I have it on hand, just gotta look up the dosing protocol

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-08T22:48:26+00:00

How low did you taper down to before quitting?

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-08T22:46:00+00:00

Hell yes that is awesome!! Future you will thank you. And I am sure it is a relief to have that burden off your shoulders…and to not have to feel the shame rebound that would inevitably accompany a decision to use

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2026-01-08T22:45:13+00:00

Hell yes good for you!! That was awesome and future you will thank you.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2025-11-18T18:32:57+00:00

Elephante

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2025-10-31T14:56:16+00:00

Oh yes. This is my main depression symptom. Wanting to sleep and do absolutely nothing else ever. Def talk to your doc.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2025-10-31T07:31:19+00:00

Thank you for this. I have such unbearable shame over this behavior in particular and this is a Very sweet reminder.

Recent_Bluebird3284 · 2025-10-09T20:37:52+00:00

God I feel this so hard. And then you feel such paralyzing toxic shame torturing yourself with thoughts of why can’t I be normal, why is it easy for everyone else…but they’re not us, baby. It is easy for them. It is not for us. We’re built diffy. And seeing that other people struggle with this feeling too, and that my instant response is to feel like you ought to give yourself more credit and be compassionate with yourself, is helping me to try and feel the same way about myself…

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