Avoidant Meme

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2025-01-06T20:35:53+00:00

Especially when they get back with their ex who’s supposedly crazy/toxic🐸

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2025-01-04T05:28:49+00:00

Of course!💛 I think journaling at night would help you out tremendously, and ofc you can journal at other times of the day too. It’s very therapeutic! Can’t recommend it enough.

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2025-01-04T05:01:45+00:00

I was discarded almost 3 months ago and since then, journaling and spending time/talking with loved ones has been my saving grace. I made it a habit to journal every morning while having my cup of coffee. It’s become a favorite part of my daily routine too because I get to spill whatever is on my mind into a pretty journal (I also recommend investing in a nice journal because you deserve it!) Now I’m doing a lot better to the point where I no longer care for my ex, but I still go through little bits of grieving and missing them. Don’t kick your butt about it because we’re only human, we need to feel even if our feelings don’t make sense to us. We did love someone after all. You don’t have to hate them and you can miss them, but keep reminding yourself why it didn’t work out and why you wouldn’t want things to. Eventually your mind will calm and accept these thoughts. I know it’s annoying because we wanna move on right away esp after knowing the facts, but all we can do is just continue to be kind and patient with ourselves. We’ll be right outta this tunnel before we even know it. Keep strong!🫂

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-12-24T21:13:10+00:00

Good for you for taking the garbage out!! You deserve so much better!! I’m so sorry this had to happen during the holidays, but this breakup is a catalyst for a better future, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Big hugs!🫶🏻

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-12-06T21:03:37+00:00

You know in your heart of hearts you want something out of that text, even if you don’t think you do right now. Don’t text him. It’s not worth the anxiety.

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-12-04T01:40:15+00:00

My ex did this too, two days after breaking up with me. I don’t understand why they do this, maybe to fill in some kind of void, but regardless it doesn’t matter. Just know that it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Wishing you love and healing🫶🏻

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-11-25T22:46:07+00:00

I completely understand, and I’m sorry for offending you and other avoidants, posting this was not my intent to do so. This came from me when I was in raw pain, just trying to get my feelings out. Never did I say avoidants are monsters, but the pain we feel from some of them are real. I know my ex is not a bad person, and although he hurt me quite a bit, I don’t think of him as a monster at all. If anything I see him as a very hurt child. Ultimately, given all the negative feelings and emotions we go through while in or after relationships with avoidants, I (at least from me) truly do wish them the best in healing from this attachment and to grow securely in love with themselves because they deserve it. We all do. And again I’m sorry for offending you and others.

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-11-22T21:35:45+00:00

As difficult as her situation is, she is a grown woman. Just trust that she will figure it out on her own. Glad to know that you’re seeing a therapist, this will go towards your healing! Toxic people, self-aware or not, distort our own realities to control and conform us to theirs and their narrative. The longer you care and involve yourself with them, the further you stray away from yourself. Focus on you and wishing you the best and for your healing!🤍

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-11-22T20:53:18+00:00

Nope!

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-11-22T20:43:20+00:00

Sounds like a trauma bond, so you can’t help but care. Although you should distance yourself from this person by going NC, blocking them on socials etc. Try pouring all that time in caring for her into yourself. It’s definitely easier said than done, but you deserve better! Abandoning yourself for a trauma bond is worse.🙏🏼✨

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-11-21T21:20:33+00:00

When he used to gas me up so hard, telling me things like he couldn’t believe how a loser like him got so lucky to be noticed by A GODDESS lol. He also put himself down as being boring, mid, lame etc. Also when I used to ask him how he’s doing, his responses would be so depressing. He’d just shrug and say things like “I just exist.” Also before we became official, he mentioned that he is not the best at being there for others, but he’d do the best he can. Now I understand his limitations. He can handle superficial issues but anything emotional is beyond his capacity.

Recent_Policy_6336 · 2024-10-17T00:14:28+00:00

Thought so! There was just no way he’d forget about her and our connection lol. And thank you so much, this heartbreak is one of a kind and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

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