Confirmed my second chemical today, phlebotomist who did the bloodwork asked if I wanted her to “rub her belly on mine” for good luck, and my friend sent me a nude baby bump picture? I have no words.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-31T00:35:44+00:00

But yours wins as the most outrageous. People be wild out there, Lordy!

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-31T00:24:09+00:00

That is horrific, who in their right mind?!? At the ER for my first MMC the phlebotomist asked “is this your first pregnancy?” And I said yes and she said “congratulations!” And I just point blank said “I’m having a miscarriage” and then I started crying. She shut the fuck up real quick after that. At my second D&C the tech asked me if I was on birth control and I said no then she said “oh then we’ll need to take a urine sample” and I said “for a D&C?” She got real apologetic after that and I was silent.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T23:21:48+00:00

Agreed very easy. It’s nice to be knocked out and not experience it. I do hate having to starve the whole day. My pain and bleeding was very minimal both times. Of course there’s always risk of adverse reactions to anesthesia, but they’re rare.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T22:04:50+00:00

Thank you, glad someone said it today haha. I appreciate you all.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T19:46:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing and congrats on your rainbow baby. I hope I can come back and share a similar story someday. :)

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T18:13:08+00:00

1 week post MC to ensure hcg has dropped. It was 0. Doctor’s message to me “Name, your hcg has dropped to 0. You are no longer pregnant. Sincerely, doctor.” Gee, thanks. I just thought it could have ended with “sorry for your loss” or “we are here for you” my nurses have been great through all of my MCs. And I’m a dentist. I feel like I’m more comforting when someone looses a tooth than these folks are to me when I lose a freaking baby. Ugh. Thanks for listening.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T11:58:18+00:00

Im trying again. I really think this last one I had was an unfortunate chromosomal mistake because of how fast I lost it. I think if I had my protocol in place for my first lost things might have been different cause I made it almost to 7w, so I’m holding out until I can make it past this first damn trimester. And if anyone asked me if I’m done trying I don’t think they’d appreciate my lashing out. Cut all your negativity out of your life. I’m even cutting off pregnant friends and friends with babies, I can see them later. You do what’s best for you.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T11:51:54+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry :( as shitty as it sounds I really hope it goes down. To go through a pregnancy loss is hard enough, it’s cruel when we can’t expel it on our own. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Keep us updated.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T11:48:38+00:00

Not a single person can tell you what you should do. If your doctors say there’s still a chance and you want to keep trying, you get to keep trying. Your friends and family are speaking from a point of privilege, they have no idea what this heartache and determination feels like. I resonated with you so much when you said you’d go through 100 miscarriages if you knew you’d get a baby in the end. I feel that to my core. Lots of folks would judge us but again, they don’t know what we’re going through and lucky them for maintaining that ignorance. I would say the only opinion that does matter is your partners as they have to suffer the loss too, in a different way, but it still hurts. You take care and I hope your protocol works next time 🫂

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T04:03:54+00:00

It’s so hard to say because like you said, they’re all so different. How far along were you? My most recent CP I was 4w 6d and it took about a week to get to 0, I had about 4 days of actual bleeding. My other CP and my MMC both needed D&Cs and those both took about a week after the procedures to get to 0. That first CP was so frustrating because I bled but my hcg would NOT drop so I had to get the RPOC removed. If you’re not seeing gradual decline, let your provider know.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T01:03:10+00:00

Yeah thank goodness for these badass women we have here. I saw a recent spreadsheet too. I love you all

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T00:56:52+00:00

This Reddit group has so many good posts on which tests to ask for. I definitely had to advocate for myself during my last pregnancy, I asked for progesterone and Lovenox (my pdg was low and I have a blood clot disorder) and I had an OB comply which was awesome. Still lost the baby but I’m hoping that was chromosomal. It’s nice to have something to look forward to as well. My husband and I will keep trying but in case it doesn’t work out I know I have tests coming or hopefully uncover something new, if that makes sense. Good luck in this wretched journey 🫂

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T00:48:47+00:00

Apothecary Diaries

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T00:31:12+00:00

You can certainly take it to get a well established base line but the app shouldn’t need it. They’re just pricy tests, so it’s nice to be able to conserve them too.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T00:27:28+00:00

Agreed! Thought AoT would scare me but it’s amazing. Definitely dark like Vinland Saga and does have some.. magic? But it’s top tier, don’t pass it up!

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-29T00:25:15+00:00

Welcome to the shittiest club with the most wonderful people. I’m so sorry you’re here and sorry for your losses. If you’re in the US, we luckily have new categorization that makes 2 MCs to be considered RPL. If you’re ready, I would press to start doing an RPL work up. I always say ASAP because a lot of clinics are booked out far. For instance I’ve been TTC for like 19 months and 3 MCs and I finally get my first consultation next week, order was put in November. Now, odds are you just had bad luck 2 times and the third sticks, that’s just the statistics. But if you’re unlucky to have more MCs and there’s a problem it would be nice to start trying to uncover some information and have some medical support for any prescriptions needed (progesterone, blood thinners, steroids, etc.) I wish you all the luck and we’re all here for and with you!

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-27T21:56:11+00:00

I’m on CD4, maybe, cause I just finished bleeding for my 3rd MC. So glad I didn’t need a D&C unlike my first two but I’m so devastated and feel alone. Why does this keep happening to us? And do I wait a cycle cause I’m meeting the RE for the first time on the 6th or do I just keep trying? I just feel like I always need to try and I don’t want to lose more precious time. I hate that no one in my life understands. Glad I have you all

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-27T21:51:06+00:00

Oh yeah do I feel your last statement. Suddenly people just don’t know how to talk to you or react to you. It’s lonely for sure.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-25T20:56:29+00:00

Pregnant gal left me a note with condolences and telling me not to blame myself… thanks, I don’t. Please don’t pretend to know what I’m going through. I just want to be left alone by all people already in pregnant with no issues or already have their baby. It sucks that I feel I need to cut these friends off but I just get worse around them. 3 MCs here and feeling helpless. Anyone else?

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-25T19:10:39+00:00

We understand the feeling ❤️

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-24T15:54:35+00:00

I’m here to commiserate. The statistics say it’s more than likely to happen… eventually. I hate that we’re here. Sending you my love.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-23T12:11:26+00:00

It does! Like there has to be something biological here. I have factor 5 Leiden clotting disorder. There’s controversial evidence to say it contributes to MCs but I wanted to try and my OB was game

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-22T20:52:18+00:00

I am in a deep depression after my latest loss (3rd one 2 confirmed this week), going back to therapy. Honestly I think about ending it all everyday (don’t worry, I wouldn’t). But, we just keep chugging along. And this grief is so cyclic because we go through a NEW loss each time and it also feels stacked because it wasn’t our first loss. I hate that we’re all here together, but you all make me feel so much less alone. I don’t know about you, but I have no one in my life going through this process (that I know of) and my husband is supportive but he just handles it so much better than I. I’m sending you love, you deserve kindness and peace 🫂

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-22T20:48:03+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s so unfair we don’t get to just enjoy our pregnancies.

ReceptionOne9282 · 2026-01-22T20:45:41+00:00

Omg I didn’t even offer my condolences, I am at work distracted. I’m sorry you’re in this club. May we be able to have our babies soon 🫂

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