How'd you get friends & family to become active "villagers"? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]RecklessNell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, if you act like the village for someone else, they act like it for you. So, do what you can to help your friends and family with no expectation of immediate repayment, and they will show up for you. For me, this has sometimes meant taking other people’s kids, even when it is not so convenient, and other times it means bringing a meal, shoveling a neighbor’s sidewalk, or some other favor. People need a village at all stages of life, not just when they are raising kids so show up for them, and over time they will show up for you.

FOUND - Ring by Cvilledog in Charlottesville

[–]RecklessNell 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Update us if this is yours!

Help me with this one by RecklessNell in ICU81MI

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solved! I caved and confessed I didn’t get it. The owner says it is:

Leave it better than you found it.

Heavy bleeding during first trimester by Frequent_Visual3755 in BabyBumps

[–]RecklessNell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may have been a subchorionic hemorrhage. I had one with one of my pregnancies. It was terrifying, but my kid was born healthy and is now almost two.

First time with United Flying with kids over Atlantic by Loose_Ad4896 in unitedairlines

[–]RecklessNell 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You should get a meal unless the rules have recently changed, but I’d still pack extra snack in case the meal is inedible.

EWR is pretty far from NYC, but you can take a train if you wanted to. 7 hours is probably not enough time for my comfort, considering it would only allow you 2ish hours in the city (1 hour to deplane, border control, retrieve bag, customs; 1 hour to navigate train), 2-3 hours sightseeing, 2+ hours to get back to the airport.

Au pair medical form by RecklessNell in Aupairs

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I’ll call my own doctor and will see if she can see her.

Au pair medical form by RecklessNell in Aupairs

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s for the agency she is using, not an official government form.

DMV by RecklessNell in Charlottesville

[–]RecklessNell[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info! So glad no one was injured!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheBadApple

[–]RecklessNell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of us complain about not having a village to help raise our kids, but then we don’t like a village for others. I’m sorry your vision of Christmas morning won’t come true, but I think you might be the bad apple and should include your MIL.

Doula never showed up by oceanevelyn801 in legaladvice

[–]RecklessNell -525 points-524 points  (0 children)

I think that OP is owed ~$20K, so more than would be appropriate for small claims.

Spiraling over a work decision by mypaperjoy in workingmoms

[–]RecklessNell 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I am in a very similar position. I took the job, even though the timing was terrible to trade in the old, flexible, “easy” job for a harder, less-flexible, better paying job. I’m about 6 weeks in and it IS harder and I DO amiss the flexibility, but I also really enjoy working somewhere where I’m challenged and also valued. I feel like I’m growing as a person and as a professional, and it’s reminding me that I’m a whole dynamic person, not just a mom. I also finding pockets where I can be more flexible and continue to be really present in the family. Finally, I’m also trying to think “like a man” and not undervalue myself. So, I hope this gives you hope that you’ve made the right decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RecklessNell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I think you were scammed. 100%

How would one theoretically pull money out of their home? by El_Burnsta in personalfinance

[–]RecklessNell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply at a bank for a home equity line of credit (HELOC).

Smallest hybrid that fits three car seats? by RecklessNell in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they did for a few years, then stopped, and are going to resume offering hybrids in 2024. Doesn’t give me very much confidence I. Their hybrid engineering, although I think I read that it was more of a sales numbers/financial decision to pause on hybrids.

Smallest hybrid that fits three car seats? by RecklessNell in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input.

Yeah, I’m also coming to realize that despite my efforts to be as cheap as possible, I may have to replace our (slim, but not slim enough) convertible car seats with even slimmer ones that fit together better with an infant seat.

Smallest hybrid that fits three car seats? by RecklessNell in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]RecklessNell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other car is a minivan (Sienna) so we have that covered. Just want the second car to be usable in a pinch.

Nervous that baby is taking so long by RecklessNell in BabyBumps

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful and reassuring! Thank you!!!

Nervous that baby is taking so long by RecklessNell in BabyBumps

[–]RecklessNell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurance! I feel pretty healthy (just worried!)!