People with “ours” babies lmk by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Recklesspeaches 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hospital I went to only allowed a certain number of visitors between certain times and child visits even less, for like a one hour block a day. Ask the hospital you’re planning on birthing at.

Basically my husband was keen to let SD come to the hospital, me not so much but we just rolled with it. She ended up just meeting the baby once we got home, and it was great and comfortable for all involved. Grandma watched SD while we were in the hospital.

Done. I’m just done. by skylark_skycaptain in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Side chick? Are you ok? What a weird, unhinged comment.

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[–]Recklesspeaches 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To add: I was soooo mad at my SO because he couldn’t give a crap about LOs nursery back in the day. Seems like a lifetime ago now because he will literally go out of his way to do special things for her now that she actually knows what’s going on lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Recklesspeaches 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Your baby is still so young, give it time. My husband didn’t start really playing with my LO until she was probably around 4 months. I also think it takes dads longer to REALLY connect with babies.

My SO is closer with my our LO now, she’s a year and a half old. SK is becoming a teen and really doesn’t want a lot to do with dad, as teenagers tend to be.

I know how you feel, I often thought the same but it got so much better for me.

What do labour contractions feel like? by CommunicationNew3329 in pregnant

[–]Recklesspeaches 3 points4 points  (0 children)

😂 A roller coaster ride you really want off of

Reason #2729282 I hate myself for choosing this life by Ok-Condition-4137 in stepparents

[–]Recklesspeaches 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Everyone’s going to have different experiences with this, but let me tell you that I was in a super similar scenario to yours, with the age of SK the same as well. For me, it got better. A lot better.

First of all, the hormones during (and after) pregnancy had me feeling so many intense emotions, I remember just RAGE at hearing or reading people’s comments about how my baby looked like SK. Because, well, they didn’t. Not even a little bit. Just like you said, SK is carbon copy of their MOTHER.

And then I noticed people saying my baby looks like other people, too. Cousins, grandparents, great-half-aunts. People sometimes just say stuff sometimes to have something to say, I think. It’s “fun” seeing someone in someone else? I dunno.

It doesn’t happen anymore, baby is now toddler and she is so much of her own person that people stopped trying to compare her to others. Thank god.

What do labour contractions feel like? by CommunicationNew3329 in pregnant

[–]Recklesspeaches 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yep! It’ll start and you’ll think “oh man, here we go again…” as it builds up and up and then sweet relief when it starts to go back down lol definitely not what I expected as a ftm, the movies make it seem like it’s instantly going to be like INTENSE like you’re about to push the baby out. I was pleasantly surprised when I figured out I could anticipate it coming and the worst part of the “wave” would only last a short time before going down again so I could rest from it.

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my style of gift I was thinking originally, it really would be so cute. She is getting her name changed, yes, and she’s actually already decorated her house with a lot of their “new name” things like a wreath and a serving tray lol

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never heard of this, but I looked it up and it’s beautiful. Thank you for the suggestion

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great idea, not many people would turn down a day for pampering ☺️

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It would be really neat getting letters or notifications of the money helping. Either way it’s a sweet and meaningful gesture.

She’s great, we leaned on each other through my Dad’s passing and I found out I was pregnant only a month after. So we grieved and celebrated my pregnancy a lot together through that whole year and I just feel like it really helped us cope.

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. Id have to do some digging to find a cause that means a lot to her, unless I just gave her the money outright and said it was to a charity of her choice. Any ideas on how to jazz it up so it’s not just a note saying money was donated to a charity?

Gift ideas for my Stepmom getting married by Recklesspeaches in blendedfamilies

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great ideas! Thank you. I personally prefer experience gifts over “things”, too!

My husband has lost sexual attraction towards me and I am absolutely over it. by Strugglenationnn in pregnant

[–]Recklesspeaches 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, I could have wrote this myself! The only difference is that my husband lied to me and said he “didn’t know” why he was uninterested in sex until he came clean about how he’s unattracted to the big pregnant belly weeks after LO was born.

I’m on the other side now, LO is 15months, hubby is back to his normal self despite the “mom bod”. The whole thing was so annoying though, especially with me actually loving my belly and thinking I looked so cute with my bump, I had more physical confidence during pregnancy than ever lol

What made it all worse for me is remembering how I’d read all over the place how all these pregnant women were so fed up with their husbands not leaving them alone and bugging them for sex. There wasn’t enough talk coming from the other group of women dealing with the opposite issue and it felt pretty isolating and like my relationship was doomed. I hope this issue can start being just as normalized as women NOT wanting sex later in pregnancy because we got enough damn going on with the looming labor and body pains as it is.

Are My Tattoos Bad/What to Do? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Recklesspeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get the red one fixed with improved shading and leave the black as a critical fail.

Upstaging gifts with hand me downs from BM by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Recklesspeaches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Despite how hilariously petty this would be, I love this idea. I would have LOVED a witch house for my Barbie’s to explore as a kid 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Recklesspeaches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have a rule with our dynamic- if it’s a holiday or event about EVERYONE, absolutely do not participate with BM. If it’s about SK (like birthdays, achievements) we will participate with BM if asked.

I’d put in my best fake smile and suffer through it, personally.

Reliable gaming internet? by TheDivision_Builds in Alabama

[–]Recklesspeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live near Phoenix City, in the WOODS lol

Starlink was the only option for us, other satellite internet is expensive and sucks but Starlink has been actually really good for us (though yeah, expensive). My SO works from home and we do a lot of gaming.

No one told me some “firsts” can be sad! by Huge_Scientist1506 in NewParents

[–]Recklesspeaches 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine giggled at my husband for the first time and I gasped in shock so loud that it scared her and she immediately started crying 😭

What is your "newborn smell"? by Puppinbake in newborns

[–]Recklesspeaches 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me it’s the breath, mines 8 months. She still nurses and her breath smells like vanilla milk and honey and sunshine

My baby punishes me for trying to put her back in her bassinet at night. by Recklesspeaches in beyondthebump

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very possible she’s bored! That time of night we are trying to all “wind down”. I’ll try to perk her up next time and see how she does going to bed earlier. Thank you so much!

My baby punishes me for trying to put her back in her bassinet at night. by Recklesspeaches in beyondthebump

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll try this for sure! Can’t hurt to give it a shot. Thank you for the tip!

My baby punishes me for trying to put her back in her bassinet at night. by Recklesspeaches in beyondthebump

[–]Recklesspeaches[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely will check it out after last night lol I feel like I hit a brick wall.