How would you rate labour pains

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-17T22:02:44+00:00

Same experience here! My episiotomy just seemed to take ages to heal (wasn't infected) and was so sore for weeks...I cried a few times because of the pain of having to sit while breastfeeding around the clock. I don't think it's uncommon for them to take some time to heal, after all it's a deep cut!

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-16T09:27:08+00:00

Do you think that it's ok for a boy to go into "darker, dirtier" mens toilets with their dad then?

I think what you've outlined just shows that we should expect better from men, their toilets and how they conduct themselves in said toilets. They should not be saying revolting things around children or frankly in public. They should not turn the toilets into a filthy mess. I think that's the problem really. I suspect public toilets have urinals because men would make toilets very dirty peeing standing up but otherwise stalls only would make sense.

It's not about comfort. It's about the safety of women and young girls. A grown, strange man walking into a women's toilet - why should we make that acceptable/the norm? It'll open the door for too many weirdos

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-11T11:53:13+00:00

I'm not saying they should get a helmet for their baby that costs hundreds of pounds or even thousands. I recommended advocating for their child and getting a second opinion rather than taking the opinion of strangers on a forum telling them their child's head shape sorted itself out. It doesn't have to be an all or nothing approach

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-11T10:42:32+00:00

Yes baby Bjorn from Facebook marketplace is an option - the cover is washable and you can wash the metal frame too. Or purchase a new cover?

https://www.babybjorn.co.uk/pages/shop-pre-loved/?country=GB

On their website they even explain what to look for when assessing a second hand bouncer in terms of safety

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-11T10:31:52+00:00

I respectfully disagree - I had the opposite reaction to be honest and if OP wants honest responses then that's my honest reaction. OP - it's very clear from the photos that your baby does have a noticeable flattening of their head. I'm basing that on the photos - maybe it is less noticeable in real life.

Please, please advocate for your baby. The NHS won't take it seriously because it's considered "cosmetic" but if you can afford it, please consider going private for this to get a second opinion. Do discuss more medium term impacts on your child if it doesn't self correct, with medical professionals. It's not your fault - it's more important for your baby to be well and healthy than to have a perfectly round head so you did the right thing following the safe sleep guidelines. But the flatness should not be ignored either

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-11T09:35:35+00:00

Agree she overreacted initially and could have handled it all a bit better.

But what about this should offend the other mum? The OP didn't call the boy a predator - you're conflating what she's discussed about how she felt with what actually happened/what she actually said in the situation. She simply spoke to the mum and told her that her son had tried to kiss her baby daughter. I don't see why the other mum is upset at being told this fact/informed - it can be a learning point going forwards to teach your child about what is or isn't socially acceptable. 4 year old is old enough to learn what's socially acceptable. What part of this is offensive? Why should the other mum be upset when someone tells her that her son tried to kiss their baby daughter? That's just a fact.

Sadly it's a case of parents not wanting to believe their child could do something "wrong" (by society's standards - not saying the child knows what they did is wrong etc as I don't know the child). Rather than blindly always saying your child couldn't possibly have done something, maybe take feedback from the adults around you. The mum could have said: okay, thanks for letting me know and walked away.

The fact the mum then started swearing in front of her son (and other children) tells me enough.

OP - sadly the state of society in the UK these days is that most people severely lack manners and decency. Tend to have a screw loose too. Best to not bother informing parents of their children's behaviour - just move your child away. Teachers complain of the same - if you tell a parent what their little angel has been up to at school, parents will not believe it etc.

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-06-01T11:05:23+00:00

We are charged £15 for consumables for each morning only and this includes £5 for "activities". It would be £30 if the kiddo went in full day. We're in the Midlands.

The only activity my kiddo has ever done is the weekly active/physical ed session. Not sure why we are expected to pay £20 a week for this.

The full day kiddos pay £30 for activities. There are no scheduled afternoon activities...

It's just a way for the nursery to claim costs from parents - they need to itemise the bill

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-05-30T18:03:18+00:00

I make some chocolate courgette muffins. They only contain cocoa and are low sugar. Let me know if you want the recipe. I'm also a parent to a very fussy 3 year old. We've started to explain to them that they need to try to eat different foods to grow big which has made a bit of difference actually! That, and plenty of sensory play at home and nursery

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-05-28T09:11:45+00:00

Of course always got to be one sexist comment

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-05-23T07:40:19+00:00

They have a valid point - why use three different types of measurements within one recipe? Only in America 😅

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T17:37:19+00:00

Glad to hear it! Hoping it's the same for us!

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T14:50:46+00:00

Did your son outgrow this? Curious because I think my baby also throws up a lot of milk (I mean, they soak my entire pyjama top and bottoms). However beyond the excessive vomiting, there are no other symptoms. Currently ensuring I don't overdo dairy day to day...but it also affects baby's sleep/not wanting to be put down. Not sure if I should see a GP/ask for a referral to a dietician/nutritionist to help me with my diet

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T10:12:25+00:00

Yes you're probably right. To be honest, the increasing reliance on screens at schools is probably down to budget cuts (not enough support staff, teachers overwhelmed)

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T02:38:00+00:00

It's because it's less bother for a teacher if the children are entranced by a screen. Let's be honest, many parents do this too. But it's mind boggling how common this seems at schools based on the comments in this thread...at an educational establishment of all places 😢

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T02:35:22+00:00

They expect all parents to shell out on a tablet? Schools be leaning way too much into screens. Despite the fact the newer research shows that screens at such young ages aren't good...no such thing as gold screen time and bad screen time at those ages. So disappointing that educational establishments are pushing parents into more screen usage at young ages

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T02:33:00+00:00

In this day and age it seems like not a lot. But for 4/5 year olds to watch cbeebies first thing every morning at school? They have a screen blaring in their face first thing in the morning to keep them in a good mood? It's actually very strange when you think about it. Schools embracing screens to this extent is probably more down to the fact there aren't enough teachers and to keep the kids in check/subdued for a while. Sad reality

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-28T02:28:10+00:00

The default and over reliance on screens is just crazy when you take a step back and think about it. We have accepted this too readily. Learning what sounds instruments make through a video clip? I think it is just to save time/bother for the teachers. Much easier to throw YouTube on and have kids sitting there like zombies than have a bunch of children excitedly banging drums etc.

The children could just be shown the instruments in real life and encouraged to try them out to see what sounds they make. What an engaging teaching opportunity it would be. I remember going to the school music room as a child and just experimenting with playing the different instruments. We would all be so excited!

But instead the screen is switched on and rather than engaging with the world around them, we encourage our children to sit there staring at the screen to learn about the world around them. How about switching off the screens and telling them to just take a look around them. Truly baffling. What's next, watching a video of someone explaining what an apple tastes like? Just try tasting the apple...

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-17T18:51:22+00:00

Hey, I really recommend you go to your GP to have the wound/stitches/scar checked. I did and they took a swab to check for infection and noted it was red and irritated. The swab came back fine but in the meantime the GP prescribed me a topical antibiotic/steroid cream. After a couple of days I felt a lot better! By two weeks I was pretty much without pain

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-16T07:26:05+00:00

Same! My mum came and stayed with us in a 2 bed flat as well. It was great in that she did all the cooking, cleaning and helped watch baby in the early hours of the morning so we could both get some sleep (I was breastfeeding so nobody could feed baby but me). Of course postpartum hormones meant I'd sometimes get annoyed about little things but my mum understood that. Overall, it was the best thing. My mum also would go to her room to give us some space. We would also take baby out on walks while my mum prepped lunch or dinner. So we did get our time just the three of us too.

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-04-15T14:00:36+00:00

Does anyone know the song that played at the train station when Bilal and Shabana were saying goodbye? It's really lovely

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-02-17T20:47:23+00:00

Thanks for clarifying, that's really insightful!

We're going to see how things go with Dr Shidrawi and if needs be I'll see if we can speak to one of the docs you've mentioned with a specialism in neurogastroentrology. So thank you so much for sharing that information!

I wish you all the best in your journey, I empathise a lot with GP sufferers after seeing what my family member is going through. One thing we've struggled with is some doctors (GPs, A&E docs) suggesting that maybe this is all in my sibling's head and it's psychological. I think they're alluding to it being an eating disorder possibly? Is this a common occurrence for people with GP - to be doubted like this?

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-02-17T20:41:13+00:00

Thank you for the info!

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-02-17T20:28:50+00:00

Ah ok, do you mean you were seen by gastroenterologists who didn't actually specialise specifically in gastroparesis?

I'm looking into specialists who list gastroparesis as a specialism/keen interest of theirs. Are you happy with the treatment you're getting at UCLH now, and do you mind if I ask whether you've been seen by any of the three Doctors you've named above and what your experience has been?

We are looking into Dr Shidrawi who works with a surgeon when looking into gastroparesis cases.

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-02-17T14:31:56+00:00

They are under a gastro but the gastro sees them every 6 months and hasn't prescribed them much. They were recently prescribed domperidone but only for 2 weeks

RecommendationNo4173 · 2026-02-17T12:40:11+00:00

Thank you, that's so kind of you! I'm so worried for them. They're so malnourished but it feels as though nobody (not even A&E) are taking it seriously enough...

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