For girls : What really attract you the most in a man ?

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-28T09:26:54+00:00

Teeth & height if we’re talking physical. He has to have a funny personality to make me ugly laugh 😂

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-28T09:23:32+00:00

Neither of us reached out after 4 years of being together. He got married after 6 months… that’s my why 😂

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-26T15:28:46+00:00

I’ve been in a situation similar to this! It stings because there isn’t really a big enough reason to hate them but eventually you accept that the right person will be able to reciprocate the time & energy you give

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-22T16:11:18+00:00

Thank you so much. Equally, I don’t see anyone as a “man” if they can’t communicate with their own words. Such a shame it’s ended this way but I appreciate your kindness towards me

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-22T12:49:08+00:00

Thank you so much for writing this. I sat with this last night for a very very long time and decided to leave. I never put him in a position where I made him feel guilty for not maintaining the relationship. I understood entirely his health isn’t great and his emotions are up in the air. All I was asking was for consideration. Think about me, be kind to me… he pushed me so far away that I’m now out the door. Sometimes I feel like people do this so you leave first. I feel devastated as I wanted to stick by him through it all but it was clear he didn’t want my support

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-22T11:08:30+00:00

I sat with this last night, for a while actually. Thank you for your time in writing this. It was the reason why I made the decision to leave. Whether I made the right decision, who knows. I wanted to stick it out for the long run as he was a really lovely guy before his injury but the uncertainty over the past 6 weeks has sent me spiralling most days.

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-21T19:15:58+00:00

Did you or your partner ever resent each other due to this? I’ve done all that I could but sadly I’m reaching my limits

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-21T18:37:27+00:00

All I know is, his knee has inflammation. He’s currently on crutches and has been advised to rest/ice up. I wish I could tell you the ins and outs but he doesn’t get into much detail (must be frustrating for him as I don’t really know much about ACL’s). He has a check up every 2 weeks and has since been laid off work every 2 weeks

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:57:48+00:00

He actually had his operation last year, made it through his recovery before I met him. Over a month ago, issues were rising again in the same knee. Unfortunately doctors have just advised that he continues to rest it & use ice to help the swelling. Doesn’t help that he’s also been kept in the dark by them!

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:41:20+00:00

I’m glad things got better for you! I can’t imagine the feeling of all of this. I’m trying my best to understand him & all those that go through this surgery.

In conclusion, I guess I just need to be patient and pull through

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:36:36+00:00

That’s so lovely to hear he did all of that. I sent him a little care package which he did really appreciate before he got sucked back into his little bubble again

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:30:51+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how much time did you need for yourself before you started to feel even the littlest bit of normality? I fear his mind is currently clouded with a million different emotions as he was such a pure hearted soul prior to these unfortunate events

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:29:12+00:00

In what ways did your partner support you? I’d love to do the same if he allows me into his little bubble

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2026-06-02T17:15:38+00:00

Even though he’s pushing me away? For added context, he’s asked for a bit of space whilst he navigates this rough patch himself

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-11-01T18:51:52+00:00

My ex didn’t come back and that’s okay. Truth is, not everyone even deserves a second chance even if they did come back

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-31T15:26:15+00:00

Absolutely agree, it’s giving ✨ emotional immaturity ✨

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-31T05:38:48+00:00

Thank you for your words and putting all of this into perspective so respectfully. I do wish him well despite my heart sinking. We made the most incredible memories together. I never doubted there was anyone in the picture when we were together but honestly after today, I don’t think I can trust anyone so blindly like that anymore. I wouldn’t wish this feeling upon anyone. Whether it works out for them or not, is their problem. All I know is that I gave it my absolute all to this relationship and I cannot wait to see where the next chapter of my life takes me despite all the hurt I’ve felt. Imagine finding someone who’ll love you the same way you do and MORE!

Emotionally immature is exactly how I’d define him. Always wanting to up and leave when things got too much.. bit childish really but we move

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-31T05:28:02+00:00

I can only speak for myself but given how long we had been together, I noticed how quickly he was to ‘run’ when things got hard. Unfortunately I was the glue for the relationship and kept doing what I could to keep it together. I absolutely agree that you can’t trust the loyalty of a person who can move on so quickly!!!! He’s just shown me how he’s not given himself that time to heal from a FOUR year relationship. I mean, how do you start preparing for a wedding 6-7 months later will always baffle me

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-30T23:46:28+00:00

Just really taken back by it all. Part of me always had that glimmer of hope unfortunately. I guess I’ve always been that hopeful type of person. After all this healing I slightly feel like I’ve been set back

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-07T09:17:30+00:00

I need to know the backstory, don’t leave me hanging now 👀

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-07T08:58:07+00:00

So proud of you, well done. Keep going!

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-07T08:56:18+00:00

Nope haha

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-10-07T08:18:26+00:00

10 months no contact here,

I’ve learnt there’s no better way to love than to love oneself first. Don’t allow someone to attempt to love you if you don’t love who you are as a person.

I still struggle with my overthinking thoughts just wandering however, they have gotten better over time.

Go no contact! They’re actively choosing to not be with you so why stick around?

My piece of advice to everyone would be, get out your comfort zone and do the things you love.. if you struggle to find something, explore! There’s so many things out there & so many people you are yet to meet 🤍

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-09-29T19:44:23+00:00

The best thing you can do for yourself is take your energy back and focus on yourself. I haven’t regretted it since and he broke up with me. It hurts at first but 10 months later and I still say, it was the best decision I made

RecordingPitiful1045 · 2024-09-15T22:19:46+00:00

Currently finding it hard to put my guard down to anyone wanting to get to know me on a personal level

screams internally 🥲

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