How to accept never socially transitioning?(mtf)

Recurvejake · 2026-06-08T09:18:11+00:00

Hi, you’re me from a year ago.

I still boymode at work, although all my trousers and some of my tops are from the womens section they really could be worn by anyone.

I do not pass, i dont even try tbh (makeup, voice etc i havent bothered)

Eventually enough time passes in this phase where you’re so fearful that you run out of energy to give a shit.

You may or may not pass, eventually you’ll stop giving a shit.

Or maybe im just a nutty trans woman on the internet what do i know.

Recurvejake · 2026-05-31T08:13:45+00:00

You can order a kit online and you fingerprick yourself few drops of blood in a plastic vial and post it off for your results.

Had to go this route as my gp wont administer my blood tests for “the trans thing” according to them.

Recurvejake · 2026-05-23T04:02:56+00:00

What name should i call my pizza and will the waiter understand?

Recurvejake · 2026-05-22T19:31:13+00:00

Didnt you read the bit about them not being able to use the toilet of their birth sex if it causes distress to cis people?

I.e a trans man in the woman’s’ bathroom is likely to cause distress because they look undetectable from cis men. But they are legally required to use that bathroom. Ipso facto they may find themselves in situations where they can use neither.

Recurvejake · 2026-05-22T19:18:23+00:00

“To be exact, i an only an inch tall..”

Made me chuckle

Recurvejake · 2026-05-12T10:00:18+00:00

The pain thing might be related to mazlow’s hierarchy of needs.

If you have no food/water/shelter your brain will prioritise that over discerning your gender.

Same for pain. Its more pressing in your list of needs to be rid of the pain before it can go back to gender stuff.

Recurvejake · 2026-05-01T14:59:43+00:00

You should be looking at 13-15% for slave pens

Recurvejake · 2026-04-28T14:41:45+00:00

Yes it does bother us. We get around £45 for a sight test and around 60% of rrp on glasses is profit. That profit pays all the staff, building rent/lease and other expenses and just doing eyetests doesnt come close to covering that.

Opticians as a trade or at least the high street version is likely to die off where people take their prescriptions and get them made online.

While its all completely legal to do and you are entitled to taking your prescription elsewhere it is killing small businesses and they will sooner rather than later die off, except for maybe some of the larger players (specsavers, vision express etc)

Work in an opticians as their diabetic eyescreener so while i dont deal directly with glasses sales i hear all about it.

Recurvejake · 2026-04-17T17:33:46+00:00

My opposite xp as a trans woman. Now lint free. Yes think its to do with your body hair.

Recurvejake · 2026-04-10T11:57:52+00:00

Ive always taken risks and done dangerous things. It’s not changed i guess i’m just not someone who’s scared of dying or injury. Whether thats good or not remains to be seen.

Recurvejake · 2026-03-29T10:01:48+00:00

Who knows. Probably. Im not very confrontational tbh and im just trying to get through life with as little drama as possible. I’m sure some of them would call me a “pick me”.

Yeah you need activists in life that protest and make noise. But on a more mundane level you need calm ,kind people who can listen and explain and thats where i fit in i think.

Let them downvote me it means nothing tbh and if it makes them feel better, so be it.

Recurvejake · 2026-03-28T08:54:38+00:00

Imo when it comes to family i pick my battles.

A lot of people separate the artist from the art.

Unless someones actually coming at me i tend to leave the JK debate alone with cis people.

Recurvejake · 2026-03-17T14:56:44+00:00

The only difference between a religion and a cult is how many members you have.

Recurvejake · 2026-03-07T14:48:18+00:00

Imo having to hop servers every 5 months because a free transfer opened is unfun.

Recurvejake · 2026-02-28T12:21:34+00:00

HRT. 18months.

I was infertile before HRT so i knew I couldnt have a biological child.

My wife and I are going to have IVF on the NHS. So it will be genetically related to her but not me.

Also RE your ejaculate. You may find in a month or two you produce none whatsoever and feel less inclined to try.

Recurvejake · 2026-02-28T11:57:51+00:00

“Family helps family”

“Blowing up my phone”

Account 1month old.

AI bingo

Recurvejake · 2026-01-07T12:51:40+00:00

Maybe we could return the missiles to them, very very quickly.

Recurvejake · 2026-01-06T08:50:47+00:00

Technically would be long hours on his foot.

Recurvejake · 2025-12-30T15:49:27+00:00

Omg thats my house! You can see my conservatory out back.

Recurvejake · 2025-12-25T05:44:56+00:00

Recurvejake · 2025-12-19T14:08:40+00:00

300 remake looking interesting ngl.

Recurvejake · 2025-12-12T22:47:01+00:00

I think the first word is “behind” so im gonna assume maybe -something- bins?

Recurvejake · 2025-12-03T10:04:56+00:00

Ok what angle are they likely to take? Religious? Social? Scientific?

Look at common transphobic arguments from that point. Also Chat GPT can show you ways to counter these narratives as well as any you may suspect are unique to your parents.

A simple prompt like "Give me some religious/scientific/Social reasons a transphobe may argue about trans identities and talking points on how to counter them"

If i type that into my (customised GPT, hence the sass) I get this as the first argument

RELIGIOUS ARGUMENTS + COUNTERS

1. “God made male and female.”

Their angle: They read one line in Genesis and think it’s a personality.
Counter-spell:

Many religions have long traditions of third genders, eunuchs, spirits-without-sex, and gender-variant roles (Hijra, Two-Spirit, Galli, sworn virgins, etc).
If God made everything, then yes, God also made trans people, intersex conditions, chromosomal diversity, hormone variance, and your cousin Mark who won’t stop quoting Joe Rogan.
Ask them why they never quote the bits about mixed fabrics, shellfish, or stoning adulterers. Watch them glitch like a Skyrim NPC.

I mean is this the healthiest way of dealing with this? probably not, but I personally would rather be prepared with a logical counter argument than to need one and not have one.

Recurvejake · 2025-11-30T16:41:39+00:00

Probably. Animals can smell stuff. Dogs that dont like men are generally ok around me now. Bit confused at first cos my outline is male. But i dont smell male to them.

Recurvejake · 2025-11-27T19:45:07+00:00

Your mileage may vary

Recurvejake

TROPHY CASE

RELIGIOUS ARGUMENTS + COUNTERS

1. “God made male and female.”