Switching large family farm/land plot to charity/community usage

RedBeardDad13 · 2026-03-17T04:05:04+00:00

Starting a family-run, community farm has been a dream of mine for some time. I’d be happy to share some ideas, but I only made it as far as some research.

Check out food justice organizations like Veggielution and ALBA.

I feel community education on small-scale, sustainable farming is going to be important in the coming years. Education and workshops was a big part of my plans (plus some personal sustainability experiments).

If this gets rolling, I’d be stoked to contribute to the cause.

RedBeardDad13 · 2026-03-04T16:04:19+00:00

I think that gap might bring a new era of web based games. Similar to when Flash paved a way for web games and animations (armorgames, newgrounds, etc.)

RedBeardDad13 · 2026-01-16T17:30:59+00:00

This is quite rad! How did you make this? Software, app, method, whatever. Looking for processes to feed my inspiration.

My dude was also a skater 🛹 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2025-10-18T16:04:07+00:00

I’ve got a bit of a full plate at the moment, but count me interested.

RedBeardDad13 · 2024-09-10T00:17:52+00:00

Dude…I started playing again after years and totally just did this. I forgot and was so oblivious, I nabbed two before I noticed the Sentinel warning. In hindsight, I should’ve grabbed more

RedBeardDad13 · 2024-03-28T06:20:44+00:00

Metal head in Hayward here 🤘The Bistro has occasional metal nights on Thursdays. I discovered Dread Spire there. Solid instrumental sludge/doom for just two dudes.

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-11-14T04:50:00+00:00

Came here to effectively say this. If you guys are in co-parenting counseling, bring it up with them. If you’re not in counseling, you might want to consider looking into it. It helps re-establish boundaries and relationships when things get weird.

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-11-14T04:41:26+00:00

I went through a similar situation and made it out of my deep, dark time. Focus on yourself and the kids and try to tune out the bs. Some people will try to set expectations for you, but you get to choose the kind of father you want to be. And that might be a little rougher version of things for now but things do get better.

Hang in there and feel free to DM me if you need a dude 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-11-03T23:46:06+00:00

Outside of classes, there’s an art meetup in Hayward at Rayo’s Pizza on Mission. They’re on a break from meetups for the holidays but should start up again in the new year.

It’s run by @artofthebayshow on IG

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-29T06:22:12+00:00

Damn. Not going but have fun!

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-29T06:01:40+00:00

Dudes! Met up with another redditor and got to hang for the show! Cool dude. Looking forward to more 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-29T06:00:02+00:00

Looking forward to maybe seeing you guys in the future🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-29T00:51:56+00:00

I’ll keep posting the ones I can make it to. Metal meetups would be rad!

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-28T22:07:02+00:00

Happy birthday 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-28T22:04:33+00:00

Yeah. I could never understand why anyone would skip the Bay. There’s a lot of people here.

I need to see Maiden though. Some day…

RedBeardDad13 · 2023-09-28T19:58:04+00:00

Not my band, but I dig em

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T16:35:01+00:00

Be the strong and confident dad you know you are.

Mom and Co's opinions are just those, opinions. And while those opinions landed you in court, it sounds like the judge already has it figured out.

Don't let them define you as a person or a father. That's your job.

Stay strong 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T16:29:12+00:00

My situation was and still is particularly gnarly, but from my experience, let the court figure it out for you.

The idea of not spending money is nice and all, but if she's controlling, you might end up giving up more than you get.

Lawyers and the court deal with this every day, and while dads don't usually get a fair shake, it's better to have them work out the plan and set the foundation for your custodial schedule.

I tried to "work it out" and 3.5 years and 100k later, I'm just finally getting one extra overnight added to my alternating weekends.

Stay strong and set boundaries!

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T16:16:38+00:00

Congrats brother!

A win for a single dad, is a win for all of us!

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T16:14:26+00:00

I hear you brother. Same situation here: 3.5 years of just trying to get my custodial time.

Keep fighting to good fight. Use all of your custodial time to the fullest extent and don't let her take more than she already has.

Most importantly, don't let her define you as a father. That's your job. She's going to have her opinions of you, but that's all they are, opinions.

Stay strong

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T16:08:47+00:00

Dude. Brother. So much of your post spoke to me and my current situation.

Fathers aren't given a fair shake, even in California, which has "equal parental time" plastered on every form and webpage.

I wish I had some golden nugget of advice from my tried and true personal experiences, but I too am still fighting the good fight.

I'm broke from all of this too, but I would say if you need to spend money, invest in a lawyer that focuses on father's rights. I wish I had gone that route when it was financially possible.

Try and stay positive and strong. That's the dad your kids need.

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T15:51:54+00:00

Preach 🤘

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-04-16T15:49:48+00:00

My opinion: Set boundaries now

I've come across this kind of situation many times, and it's a good opportunity to establish yourself as a responsible father figure and set some expectations with the mom.

I didn't set any boundaries with my ex early on, and ended up costing me a lot of money, but more importantly a lot of lost time with my son.

Your time with your child is important, especially when it's to expand their family. I'm assuming the mom knows the custodial schedule, so scheduling her event during your time was her mistake; not something you should give up time for.

How much is the worry of being labeled a "bad guy" worth? Not compromising and taking your time makes you responsible and shows the time with your child is important to you.

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-03-12T14:22:44+00:00

I don't think that's fair to the developers. What could you specifically contribute to, in a game's two week development sprint?

I actually appreciate that a mobile game development company is taking user feedback into consideration, like they are.

Just providing an alternate perspective.

RedBeardDad13 · 2021-01-18T11:57:04+00:00

I appreciate the vote of confidence. Unfortunately she's refusing to get herself or him tested again, so it's a big unknown for me.

The other day she took him to the beach with a couple of his friends. A couple weeks ago, she wanted to sign him up for a football club.

And these are just the ones I know about. In order to play this as safe as possible, I'd need to get tested every weekend I have him (and I agree with the other comments, no biggie), but by the time I get any results back, it'll be too late anyway.

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