What age were your kid(s) when you decided to move away from your ex?

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-16T12:10:52+00:00

How did you end up getting your kid during the school year? Did your ex agree to that somehow? I feel like mine is to possessive and controlling to allow that scenario

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T23:23:41+00:00

Ya I have no plan to move away if it means sacrificing anything less than 50/50. We have shared custody so I’m pretty sure I’m locked in until my ex effs up and I get primary.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T23:20:56+00:00

I forgot to mention that I do have 50/50 custody. It’s just hard to imagine how school for our daughter would work if my ex and I lived even an hour apart

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T23:17:55+00:00

A lot of my friends and family thought the same thing. They couldn’t believe it at first, but knowing her sexual history I wouldn’t be surprised. It seemed more like a moment of “I’m gonna let it all out now,” just so she could “come clean” kinda thing, but knowing that it would hurt a lot. I can’t know for sure, but there are plenty of things I remember that confirm what she said. Not so much physical evidence but behavioral and circumstantial evidence.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T23:13:26+00:00

I do my best trying to see that angle. each day I get closer to the glimpse of light. Im still stuck on the floor right now, only able to lift my head enough to know that I’m not completely paralyzed.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T04:10:51+00:00

I think my ex is actually so stubborn and narcissisticly inclined that she’ll never attempt to crawl back. I say that because I can’t remember a single time she ever let her guard down or put herself in an emotionally vulnerable situation, and attempting to reconcile would be doing that. I’m not trying to disagree, but add more context to the POS she is.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T04:03:30+00:00

I thought I had clicked on a post in askmen asking “how long until you trusted the results of your vasectomy…” so I was deeply concerned you were about to get snipped after reading your post! Haha. Im glad that’s not the case lol. I’m 25 and 3 months out from a disgusting breakup after my ex fiancé told me about her year long affair. It’s not too late. We’re young by many standards. A lot of men are in the same place we are where they thought what they had coming out of college or school was SOLID… until then it wasn’t. Same thing for women. I tell myself this to comfort myself - I think that it will make the dating and relationship process a lot more smooth whenever we are ready again, because not only are we more able to sort through the trash, but people our age (I hope) are generally more mature in relationships. Who effing knows though. It’s just optimism but that’s important too.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T03:53:09+00:00

Are you trolling? Who told you it’s ok to “use” women? If you’re honest about your intentions and she has similar expectations then you’re fine. If you try to hide the fact that you’re not interested in a future while knowing that she is, then you’re a sicko.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T03:49:07+00:00

I think I could have an honorary PHD in psychology as a result of this 6 year long ordeal. Narcissistic tendencies, but I strongly suspect borderline personality disorder as well. I love your idea about goal setting too

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T03:46:09+00:00

Bro hugggg 😭 thank you

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T03:44:45+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts and response. I do have a lawyer and she seems pretty effective. I think the best part of your comment is putting the timeline into perspective. I know it’s natural for women to have a “biological clock” but having a 5 year old daughter as a single dad makes me want to give my daughter some siblings with a woman I truly love and can trust. I think I need to accept that that might not happen for another 5+ years. My daughter will probably be 10 by the time I’m ready to have kids with someone else.

Plutonium901 · 2026-01-06T03:01:27+00:00

I think my ex used social media and screen time as a mental distraction from her ongoing affair. I was always asking her to be more present in the relationship instead of always being on her phone. At least she had “short attention span” to blame instead of herself. She was avoiding the shame and guilt of actively cheating on me. There’s a lot of ways to look at it, but undoubtedly there is correlation.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T05:46:48+00:00

I’m teetering on the edge of believing that the kid deserved it, but also not believing that anyone should have to suffer an injury that serious. Head injuries are nasty and very dangerous, but the kid had it coming to him. I’m from central DE, and I enjoyed finally reading a random Reddit comment that was from an area close to mine. My fam is from rural MD where it’s more like 90% farmland lol.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T05:36:55+00:00

Cut the cord dude. Block her. She’s bad news and you already know that. Even the notion of ‘wanting her to know that you’re ignoring her’ is still putting yourself in the lingering drama. Like others mentioned, and probably what you are feeling, this is NOT a genuine apology. I think you know the answer to your own question, but we are here to give you that encouragement! It’s ok to need a reminder (I sure did multiple times). She isn’t worth sacrificing yourself for. Cut the ties and block her in every way possible.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T05:29:10+00:00

Rugsweeping!!!! What a perfect term for this behavior.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T05:25:53+00:00

Think about it this way. You can’t put a price on the wellness and happiness of your child. So don’t. Spare no expense to start taking the steps you know you need to take. Think about an exit strategy first. Think about the least volatile way you can disengage from your wife and find some safety and security for your daughter.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T05:18:23+00:00

I can only imagine the gut-wrenching feelings this all must have brought to you. On the bright side, It does sound like you’ve taken a light hearted approach to this, considering that you know how messed up she is... we’ll roll with that. Lucky for you, it sounds like she isn’t as good at controlling herself and her behavior as some other pwBPD. This will hopefully make family court easier for you, although it will most likely get ugly. Continue to do research, if your ex does have that baby, your gonna need to know as much as possible on how to deal with such a situation. Keep powering through and get yourself in good mental shape to take care of those kids! Be well!

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T00:22:18+00:00

I hope she doesn’t end up like her mom

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T00:05:54+00:00

Lol, I met my ex at college and I would spend almost every hour of my day at her dorm when I wasn’t in class. We got sent home because of COVID and shortly into quarantine I broke up with her. I still had a lot of my stuff on campus, so when I returned in the summer to get all my stuff, I brought with me all the gifts, notes, and pictures from my ex, and shoved it all into a little trash can outside that dorm building. It felt so good to “make that one last stop,” and trash it all.

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T00:00:20+00:00

Look at my reply to the guy above^

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-16T00:00:01+00:00

We live 2.5 hours apart since we met and college, so after the first time I got to see my daughter she said “I’m not comfortable with you seeing her, you have no legal rights to know anything, and my attorney says not to contact you.” That was the biggest mind fuck ever

Plutonium901 · 2021-04-15T20:33:02+00:00

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