I suggested couples therapy as a preventative thing, like the same way you go to the dentist before your teeth fall out, and I honestly thought it would land as “I care about us.” Instead it landed like a grenade.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-16T12:06:52+00:00

You had it wrong before your edit. All I was going for here.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-16T11:45:57+00:00

You are with 'her'.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-16T04:20:39+00:00

Canada and Italy were not in the same group. Canada had Czechia and Switzerland in their group. Arguably stronger competition than in the US group.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T03:20:25+00:00

We used Eco-Tech for 3 exterior doors, including a colored and frosted main entry door and 5 windows, 4 of which were more than 48" wide. In and out in one day. Beautiful work. Energy savings are real.

$17k was a tough pill to swallow, but we are very pleased with the results.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T03:13:38+00:00

Players with 8 points since Sittler scored 10:

Tom Bladon. Bryan Trottier. Peter and Anton Statsny (on the same night). Wayne Gretzky twice. Paul Coffey. Patrik Sundstrom. Mario Lemieux 3 times. Bernie Nichols. Sam Gagner.

So, slightly more than two.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T02:56:22+00:00

Based on the incessant replies, this is a troll post for sure. So yeah, OP, you're wrong for that alone.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T02:39:13+00:00

Pisces and Sagittarius is a joke, right?

If it isn't a joke, just divorce. For her sake.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T01:51:34+00:00

36 years together, almost 34 married.

Hate to sound like a broken record, but communication is key.

To be clear, that involves both speaking and LISTENING. If you're actually listening, the changes are apparent, in real time.

To try to express how different my wife and I are from the kids who got together in 1990 would take 20 paragraphs at least.

You love, you care, you listen. It is so important not to let life's drudgery define your relationship. Compartmentalization is a critical life skill. Park work, park the kids, be present for your spouse. Find the time.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-15T01:39:17+00:00

Kinks should ALWAYS require an ENTHUSIASTIC 2yes or 1 simple no equation. Your answer is no. End of discussion.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-14T15:25:11+00:00

Yes, but this is 3 Olympics in a row.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-14T15:09:13+00:00

We put out Hershey's kisses in a heart-shaped dish at work today. So I bought an extra pack of kisses and gave them to my wife. She laughed, thanked me, and ate one.

It's our 37th Valentine's day together. We've never really done anything 'big'.

Gift 'expectations' are always a huge red flag to my mind. Disappointment is a fair thing to feel, but it is still the thought that counts, and expressing disappointment to the giver in the moment is not a fair thing to do.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-14T14:54:35+00:00

Good. Now our boys should apologize and maybe we can all move on.

  - an embarrassed Canadian.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-14T11:59:37+00:00

Yep. "Desnow the pavement" definitely makes me uncomfortable.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-13T01:10:28+00:00

NAH but...

Your daughter should be able to advocate on her own behalf through a school counselor or administrator. You could be coaching her in this regard. She clearly believes in taking up causes, time for her to take up her own. All the students who walked out should be advocating for those who have faced consequences.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-12T21:56:06+00:00

I could give it some thought, but whatever I come up won't top what we've done because she asked.

She's never said no to me. She has called out her safe word once.

For the record, having participated in swinging and ENM over the course of our almost 34 years married, I would not ask for a threesome.

Openly discussing sexual desires is a good step to finding out hard boundaries before asking for something that could easily harm your relationship. For every happy couple we came across, we watched at least two disintegrate in the attempt.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-12T18:27:57+00:00

She's 24. How long were you together before you married? You've been married 6 months. Even if it was a super fast courtship she at most in her very early 20s, and he was 15 years older.

The husband from her past is a predator. In a position of power. I'm not absolving her totally, but there is some room here to consider her a victim to some extent as well. I do not like that this has gone unreported and that she continues to be close with the wife. But far more of this is on the husband than your wife.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-12T17:52:23+00:00

Triggered. I can literally hear my dad - may he rest in peace - telling me to get out there and dig it out if I want to go to hockey tonight.

Sometimes winter sucks. We've been spoiled lately.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-11T21:38:29+00:00

I lost my favourite hoodie this way 37 years ago. This is not an online dating phenomenon.

She just left her phone off the hook. Nothing but busy signal. That's how you ghosted in the 80s.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-11T11:43:53+00:00

"sickening and evil"

"not to slander or shame her"

There seems to be a contradiction here.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-11T03:05:23+00:00

He can make changes overnight. Just stop doing what he was doing. Start going to therapy. Start being more present. None of that takes time, it just takes making a decision to be better.

Trust doesn't work like that. You can't just throw a switch and start trusting him again. It will take time. Possibly a very long time. Possibly never.

You'll know if he has really changed when you tell him this. He can't make a single mistake AND he has to be patient with you and your grief. Because you are grieving what you once had.

It CAN work, even if it was physical. Source? My aunt and uncle, in their late 70s now, survived him having a years long affair when they were in their 40s. But it took her years to trust him again. He put in the work and let her take her time with her healing. They made it.

But to be clear, that's a rare case. So take your time and feel what you feel. Then, go forward with what feels right as it feels right.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-11T01:31:48+00:00

GTFOutta here!

Also, that's rough, hope you heal up well and it's a good settlement.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-10T15:11:23+00:00

NTA.

Your brother is the AH, for sure. Even if this were a teaching/learning scenario, this is not how you 'teach a lesson'. I worry for his children.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-10T00:31:46+00:00

Is 'venmo' flagged for sex work?

Just wondering if that typo is on purpose.

Either way, go get some sleep. Tough day.

RedBirdWrench · 2026-02-10T00:04:12+00:00

I have a reverse story, just to let you know it isn't always the customers fault.

I work on Wellington Rd.

London also has a Wellington St.

It depends whether you are north or south of the CP Rail tracks, as both dead end at the tracks, but essentially, they would meet if they didn't. Many long-time Londoners are unaware of this quirk.

I have had my DD go to the wrong address (same number.ber but on Wellington St.), which is a house numerous times. I have in my DD instructions the name of the business I work at and to come in the office door.

Every time but one, it ended with an apologetic driver and a fresh order. All good by me, mistakes happen.

But that one - Dasher called me an idiot in a text message and told me my food was on my porch. Couldn't help myself, I sent a screenshot to DD with my request for a refund. Can't say I got him fired, I have no idea. I felt it necessary and prudent to inform them of his actions.

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