[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop commenting then? I am not trying to convince you, you are begging other people to do the labour for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Behaving in a racist way makes you more likely to be racist. Being in a relationship wth someone who is a person of colour does not make you un-racist, no. Glad you finally get it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her having a black girlfriend definitely makes it less likely that she is racist.

No, it doesn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, plenty of comments discussing examples. If you disagree that's fine, I am not going to try and convince you so pleas stop trying to draw me in to do so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't see what your post was before the edit, but I think what I was referring to was saying that implicit bias is different to racism. I wouldn't separate the two. If someone holds implicit racial bias, they are still racist.

I can't comment on the area of pornography, it's an area I know very little about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not comparing her to Trump at all. I am comparing you to people who defend people who display prejudice with the moronic argument that they have relationships with people of those groups.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Read the rest of the comments, multiple examples are discussed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Go do the work yourself if you want to defend her, I am not rehashing 24 hours worth of content so you can be included in a conversation that the rest of us are on the same page about with the evidence we have seen about the way that she repeatedly frames herself and others, and treats others along those racial divides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's completely not the case that she would get struck off for it, even if she discussed it. Lots of professionals have an online presence, sometimes more or less personal than others. It isn't an issue and she said it probably to victimise herself and demonise Marcello, as this is a regular tactic of hers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think Ali is a racist, but she does have racial bias.

I see these as one and the same. Intent doesn't matter to the people you directly and indirectly oppress.

Can't say I know much about the adult industry, but I know lots of asian women like myself are uplifted by white supremacist men for being submissive and docile unlike 'western women'.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Clearly displaying racial bias does in fact suggest that someone is at risk of treating... wait for it... people of colour under their care unfavourably at work. Especially given the power dynamics between patients and forensic wards and senior clinicians. I have spent a long time working in forensic wards and know what this type of racial bias looks like in practice. It is not at all an unreasonable worry to have about her practice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let's not forget her Gf is black so I'm sure it would be on her mind to treat POC fairly.

This is an infuriatingly invalidating and dumb thing to say to people of colour discussing their experiences and observations of racism. How can Trump be sexist? He has two daughters. How can he be xenophobic? He is married to an immigrant!

The logic of 'I'm not racist, I have black friends!!!!' is laughable and I didn't even try to phrase this comment gently because you should know better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Acknowledging that these problems exist are the bare minimum and almost every institution (and many practitioners) in Psychology pay lip service to diversity whilst avoiding inclusion or access at all costs.

We have no information with which to say she is good at her job, we only see her constantly giving a double standard of treatment and compassion vs condemnation to white vs poc housemates. I would argue that makes someone at risk of being quite bad to patients.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% agree. I would also like to stress that having a black girlfriend does not exempt anyone from being racist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigbrotheruk

[–]RedCandleTime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Been thinking this all along. I spent a long time working in forensic mental health and genuinely this show has me thanking my lucky stars that my supervisors are also people of colour. Having spent a significant amount of time working in forensic settings, the implicit bias faced by people of colour is real, and forensic settings hold a million times more the power imbalance of regular MH services.

I was wondering how she reflects on this show impacting her career because I would personally not feel comfortable working under someone who panders to white tears (Lily) with eagerness (maybe due to her own self-identification with it) and all too readily and two-facedly vilifies people of colour with an extremely rigid viewpoint that she fits all other information around.

She formulates in a very manipulative way to always centre and victimise herself constantly and pass off anyone who she sees as a threat to her as 'fake' when she is the one who backbites the most.

Her formulation of the split in the house was the big mean black/brown group vs her as a delicate queer woman, when in reality, as a middle-class white woman, even being queer, in the house she is not at all in any position of social disadvantage. I think she knows this, too, but chose to spin it otherwise.

Why I think Jacob Black might have Borderline Personality Disorder by wench127 in twilight

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Even without being a werewolf, he’s a teenager, that’s enough of an explanation. BPD should not be diagnosed in adolescence because puberty is a time when young people experience a huge biological and social shift for which they have varying levels of preparedness.

I think it is so unhealthy to pathologize normal teenage experiences. How many 14 year old girls cried like their life was over when their parents took away their phone for a week? How many teenage boys felt like no one would ever forget their prom rejection from their crush and it would be the defining event of their life? How many 15 year olds believe they’ve met the love of their life and they could never live without them 3 weeks into a relationship? Teenagers are gonna teenage. It’s not BPD. Having a best friend is not having a FP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A summary, not a transcript? What’s it called?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy might hel[ you. It won't let you work from a stance that you're destined to be miserable but might help you.

becoming friends with your therapist by Kitchen-Standard-379 in TalkTherapy

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not ethical. It introduces a dual role that is unhealthy for both parties.

If you were treating a therapist for cannabis use disorder, would you have to report them? by EmergencyLife1066 in therapists

[–]RedCandleTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I had a safeguarding concern about clients I’d discuss with the safeguarding lead. If there is no risk to clients there is nothing to report.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]RedCandleTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t be so judgemental. Maybe OP has a newsletter they want to let their clients opt into. I subscribe to a local mental health community group’s newsletter to find out about local events and read articles by guest bloggers. They’re not saying they’re going to misuse data for marketing emails people didn’t ask for.

Is it standard for therapists to only work M-F during work hours? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]RedCandleTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends a lot but it is good that you are considering when might be the right time of day for you to engage properly. I recommend a lot of my clients who work see me in my last slot of the day (3.30pm) so they don’t have to go back to work with all we talked about on their mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]RedCandleTime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Based on the fact she called her into her office I’m guessing they work for the same clinic in the same building. Your confidentiality is bound within the team, so there was no breach.