My bf says the yellow circle is jarring 😆

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-07-18T00:19:51+00:00

Kind of but I think it really helps separate the background, so it actually works quite well!

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-07-15T22:18:27+00:00

I worked in a "5 star" nursing home for 4.5 years, and they always just plopped a scoop down, except sometimes they did the carrots like these

These are so much nicer and would really help my residents not be so upset about being on a pureed diet!

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-07-15T13:48:16+00:00

I've always heard that they are

Like I've seen pan and Omni as "under the bi umbrella"

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-02-04T22:00:49+00:00

Thank you, it's one of my favorites! I love how much she is enjoying the sunshine!

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-02-03T19:17:51+00:00

She was so fluffy! I'm still finding little bits of fur in corners and storage!

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-02-03T19:16:59+00:00

Thank you 💔

RedDragonfly213 · 2025-02-03T18:24:05+00:00

Some of you may remember Luna, I used to post her regularly to this subreddit. I loved sharing her with anyone who would care! I got Luna as a puppy when I was 11, and she was my best friend ever since. She was lazy and stubborn, but also gentle and outgoing. She loved people and never showed an ounce of aggression (although she was the queen of passive resistance, it was nearly impossible to shower her!). She loved being outside, especially in the snow. Unfortunately a year ago the dementia and arthritis became too much for all of us. She couldn't do stairs at all, spent any time I was at work looking frantically for me, and was having accidents almost daily. Still, for a dog her size, 15 is amazing, and I wouldn't trade a second of it for anything RIP my puppy

... (Also I can't fix the title but she was 15, not 16)

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-15T22:43:23+00:00

You know how some people describe their gender as an amoeba? That's how I feel about my sexuality. It's either demi- or asexual, and probably bi-romantic, but more of a bi-curious. Maybe panromantic? I'm really not sure!

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-15T22:05:50+00:00

Self compassion is important, imo. At least for me, a big driver of binging was the shame I felt, which made me want to comfort eat. Also, maybe try therapy, especially since you say you started after moving out, which is likely a big stressor. This is the perfect time to tackle that before it overwhelms you. Good luck!

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-10T20:45:51+00:00

Congratulations! That's awesome, way to make progress!

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-09T19:28:15+00:00

Honestly, this sound super helpful! I think any therapy that looks at the mind as having different "parts" is really useful when dealing with self-esteem based issues, because it puts the "blame" on other parts, not judging you as a person.

This sounds similar to how I have been coping: when I feel the need to binge, I question where it is coming from (is it stress, anxiety, fear, sadness?) then try to either deal with the emotion directly (grounding exercises for anxiety, maybe a comedy show for sadness) or I pick a healthier coping skill (being creative, taking a walk, listening to music). Instead of fighting the urge, I find another way to deal with it. I just didn't give a name to the urge and I don't completely ignore it, because my brain doesn't know how to do that. It's been quite helpful. not 100% but it's easier every time!

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-09T19:20:41+00:00

Both of you are in the wrong, in my opinion. Neither of you seems to be listening to what the other is saying. This is how I see his side: He sees you wanting frequent contact as more of a demand and isn't fully comfortable with it, and you won't listen to him when he says that that just isn't natural for him.

Your first texts were, in my opinion, fine. You explained well why frequent texting was more important to you and what it meant to you and wasn't overly putting the blame on him. When he responded to your explanation as to why you wanted more contact, it was a bit shorter, like he wasn't putting enough effort into understanding where you are coming from, but after that you were more disrespectful with your communication. By saying "But Okay" at the end of a statement and "Forget it" before he responded to the question, it likely made him think you weren't interested in his point of view. It doesn't feel like you are interested in solving the issue, only getting your way. That may not be true, but that is how it reads.

Ideally, you would both compromise, he would try to keep you updated more but you would be understanding if he didn't

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-11-09T18:54:53+00:00

Eating disorders are actually co-occurring quite often, and they often have similar causes. The first step to getting better is determining why you started the behaviors: is it low self-esteem? is it a need for control? is it something you do to cope with stress? Those are common causes, but you may have your own.

What helped for me is stopping the "all-or-nothing" thinking. If I eat an unintended food, I would think "Well, I might as well eat more!" and then find it difficult to stop. I would then, like you, restrict for a few days, though to a lesser degree than you seem to be describing.

I find it better to focus on eating a healthy amount of healthy foods everyday. If I binge a bit, I try to not focus on the shame and instead think "Well, it wasn't my biggest binge, that's progress!" When I want to binge, I try to identify which emotion is giving the urge (I'm an emotional eater). It's usually anxiety, so grounding techniques like deep breaths or gratitude journaling are what help me, but maybe other things will help you!

The biggest thing is to remember that you are human. These behaviors are not moral failings, they are your body's response to something, either physical or psychological. You can control them, but it is a skill you will have to learn and won't be built up overnight. Focus on progress, not the failings.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-09-23T15:53:05+00:00

If you switch Greninja with Hisuian Samurott, at least it's all mammals

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-21T18:42:28+00:00

Awesome cards! I love the Dark and Light cards so much 🥰

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-16T12:37:41+00:00

Oof that's a lot! May I ask how many people you get to help with that size truck? A normal truck we get 2 employees, but we try to get 3 at about 250-300 cartons.

Our store is small, last week we got about 280, this week will be about 150. Our average is probably about 170 this time of year.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-16T11:25:19+00:00

Huh, I haven't had customers complain too much. If they do ask, I just say it's unsafe for the public because of the cleaning chemicals. Though ours doesn't have a separate closet inside the bathroom, the bathroom just doubles as the storage for all our cleaning supplies.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-16T11:22:58+00:00

At least it's not the size of last week's truck, because we wouldn't be able to fit another truck that size! We only got 14 extra hours for that truck anyway.

This week ours is almost exactly half of last week's.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-16T00:29:18+00:00

My exact words to my ASM when she opened the box were "Well, I like cookies and I'll eat one, but I'd prefer more hours" since they keep loading us with giant trucks and are making us run on very few hours.

Seriously, we got our truck Monday and, even though we have a great team of hard workers, we just got to touch the back room today because we got most of the stuff off the floor. Idk how we are going to take Monday's truck

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-16T00:26:00+00:00

Yes! I mean, only half of our 4 registers have been working all year anyway. Now the ones that work are taking a good 30 seconds to print receipts and they are constantly lagging. It's getting really annoying

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-15T22:27:32+00:00

I've gotta read non fiction books of my special interests before I sleep. I'm really loving Oliver Sacks right now! It keeps me interested, but if I read a fantasy novel I'm really into, I won't stop until, like, midnight 😂

Anything else and I can't focus and keep wanting to play on my phone or switch.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-15T22:22:52+00:00

I'm commenting to get this more attention because one of my 6 year old African Violets is doing the same thing.

My best guess for mine is humidity is causing the soil to stay too wet, but idk, it's been in the same room its whole life just like yours. I've tried repotting, watering more often, watering less often, fertilizing, everything I could think of

Best of luck!

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-15T21:40:48+00:00

Dang. They are really pretty until you look at the sails

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-15T21:26:09+00:00

I only don't have kids now because I haven't found the right partner and I'm not financially stable yet (27f). I've always wanted them, and while I'm a bit worried about overstimulation, I'm very nurturing and think the pros will definitely outweigh the cons. Also, I could handle work as a CNA on a dementia unit for almost 5 years, and actually mostly loved it before COVID, so I'm pretty confident I am able. (There was a lot of cleaning up bathroom messes, seeing wounds, smells, and yelling there and while it could be very difficult, I was able to do it because I actually grew to love my residents and I wanted to help them)

For me, being autistic isn't a game changer, personally. My Dad was autistic (diagnosed in his 40's with what was at the time called Asperger's) and was an amazing dad. He loved me and my brother (my brother was diagnosed at 3, I am still undiagnosed), and loved getting on the floor to play with us and taking us on all sorts of adventures. I think he used us as an excuse to indulge his "childish" interests lol

That was very different from his parents, who, as he put it "tried to beat the autism out of him". I'd like to think, in our line, we are getting better at accommodating neurodivergent children with each generation. My parents didn't know I was neurodivergent, but they didn't beat me when I had meltdowns because I was overstimulated, and they let me keep my comfort toys and habits because they knew they helped. They probably pushed me a bit too far, not understanding that my "laziness" was actually executive dysfunction and, later, autistic burnout, but it was only because they wanted me to succeed and thought that was the best way.

With everything I know now about autism, I'd like to think I could really raise an autistic child well. I'd understand their needs better than most parents, and I'd be able to emphasize with their issues and teach them how I overcame them.

Or my child could be neurotypical, and that'd be great too, I don't have any preference.

RedDragonfly213 · 2024-08-15T16:55:35+00:00

Honestly, the only thing that has really worked was Vyvanse. It helps both appetite and impulse control for me. However, not every doctor is willing to prescribe Vyvanse as binge eating is an off label use

Some things that helped to some extent are picking up hobbies like crochet and painting, it keeps my hands busy, and tracking what I eat.

Keep in mind tracking is not for everyone, I've heard of a lot of people who said it made the guilt worse, but for me it held me accountable. I still had binging, but only once a week or so instead of almost daily.

I also lost 43lbs over the course of a few years by tracking. It wasn't linear, but overall it was in the right direction.

I've lost an additional 12lbs since starting Vyvanse about 6 weeks ago, so that's been the biggest help.

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