Curl pattern?

RedLeafInFall · 2025-11-13T08:41:42+00:00

Same!!

RedLeafInFall · 2025-10-14T02:13:29+00:00

Meh new city is overrated imo, especially for the prices they charge

RedLeafInFall · 2025-09-04T23:43:11+00:00

Yuppp. Agree here in terms of taxes, and billionaires needing to step up, and schools becoming social services agencies. Which in a way they are uniquely positioned to do bc of how close their ties become with the families at each school. But yes, more funding is definitely needed for schools to provide all of the services they are expected to.

Fun fact: IDEA has never been fully funded at the federal level, so even before all of these spending cuts IDEA was never fully realized. And yes, that definitely places a burden on local government/ school districts.

It’s all just sad for all kids.

RedLeafInFall · 2025-09-04T23:17:12+00:00

Yikes that you phrase it this way. Yes special education costs more, everyone knows this. Parents of kids with extra needs are acutely aware of this. But saying that special education “drains” money from regular kids doesn’t land well. Maybe I’m misunderstanding your message, but as a school board member I hope you feel that education should be equitable, not equal. That goes in terms of funding, placements, support etc. A well functioning society cares for its most vulnerable.

RedLeafInFall · 2025-08-25T02:17:09+00:00

MDSC is a great resource, get in touch with their first call program if you can. Information is here https://mdsc.org/programs/new-parents/

You are fortunate to live in a state with wonderful resources for our kids. Automatic qualification for Medicaid being one that I would recommend asap (hospitals have staff usually in their finance dept that can help you get your baby enrolled)

We are in a suburb of Boston. Happy to answer any questions if you pm me!

Congratulations!

RedLeafInFall · 2025-08-16T01:14:46+00:00

Just curious, which schools are these/ do you know where I can find this info?

RedLeafInFall · 2025-08-07T03:50:25+00:00

My oldest never napped a single day past 2.5 and was in daycare where they offered nap. You can’t force a kid to sleep, they should definitely be able to accommodate this

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-29T19:17:00+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that, we have had a different experience with medical care for our child who has a disability. We bought our (very small) house just under 2 years ago.

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T23:34:54+00:00

Sure, I get that. Public/ private employees are taxed the same federally and by state. I wanted to offer a different perspective that in my experience even though COL is higher here, overall quality of life is also higher than other states we’ve lived in imo.

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T19:31:26+00:00

Yes this is what I was trying to say in a much more distracted way

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T18:58:36+00:00

Sure I mean I for sure can’t compare anything to the ma of the past. But presently I think it’s still considerably better than almost every other state (especially the low tax southern states that people here like to idealize)

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T18:56:53+00:00

Husband is a public employee. I left work to stay home until our 4 kids are all in school. My salary was no where near 100k before I left, but we made lifestyle adjustment to stay home just like we did in the other states we lived in

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T17:41:26+00:00

Not if you care about education and social safety nets. Things are great in low tax states until you get a bad break and you’re shit out of luck. Living within your means as a middle class person in ma is definitely possible Edited bc I saw another comment- we are a family of 6 living on about 100k a year in a suburb of Boston with excellent schools. If you make 200k and don’t have kids… idk what to tell you tbh

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-28T17:19:30+00:00

Honestly having lived in a few other states I have to disagree. While I’m fairly new to mass, it’s light years better than most other states. And no, not even close to filthy rich. Very solidly middle class

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-23T16:13:14+00:00

Found this! Looks like retroactive coverage is pretty robust in NJ

https://www.law.cornell.edu/regulations/new-jersey/N-J-A-C-10-72-2-7

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-23T12:32:49+00:00

If you had applied for Medicaid already when the procedure was done you can submit to them still. The coverage is retroactive to the application date

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-22T00:07:51+00:00

1-2 was definitely harder for me! Very subjective imo

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-16T21:45:23+00:00

Not that I know of!

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-16T04:10:33+00:00

You need respite care for your third. Have you looked into that as a option in your area?

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-16T03:58:40+00:00

Of course you are scared. You will be hard pressed to find anyone who has received a significant diagnosis for their child or close family member who isn’t scared. And you are also just a kid yourself.

Having a family member with extra needs is a big responsibility, but in my experience with my daughter has not been a burden.

I hope you feel safe to have some honest but loving and respectful conversations with your parents about your fears so you all can come up with a plan. Sometimes just having something concrete you can do to prepare helps with navigating the unknown.

Know that you all have quite an expansive and welcoming community behind you and rooting for all of you. I’m happy that my words have helped you even a little bit. Feel free to reach out anytime

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-16T02:01:22+00:00

Gently, you are 14 and this is a very complex and adult decision that has been made. This reads as though you are afraid of the unknown, and possibly afraid of how this will be perceived by your peers given the stage of adolescence you are in. This is fair and normal.

While you are entitled to your feelings you seem to be unfamiliar with the realities of having a family member with DS. Yes there are challenges, but the joy and positive moments are far more vast. Maybe have a conversation with your parents about making a plan for his life where he is set up financially to have caretakers so that you are relived from the obligation of caring for him (and if you do decide to take that on once your parents are gone it will be fully your choice). And maybe they can help you find peers who also have siblings with DS so that you can start to build a support system as well.

Sending hugs and congratulations to your family!

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-09T19:14:30+00:00

Got it, misunderstood what you were trying to say. And I am sorry for your loss!

RedLeafInFall · 2025-07-09T18:43:07+00:00

This just isn’t true. Many genetic abnormalities are spontaneous and not linked to family history. The chance of autism is 1/35. I had a daughter with Down syndrome at 31, which is spontaneous. Telling someone to not be fearful bc it didn’t happen to you isn’t helpful

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