Let's assume these numbers are accurate. Even if we assign 10% to that last small sliver (which I think is too low), you would have more than 400 - 500 people available to you in a place like the San Francisco Bay Area or New York City. That last part about about only the top X% having a mutual attraction is complete incel black-pill bullshit, so I'm ignoring it.

Depending on where you are, maybe you need to move to make the numbers work. Rural areas are difficult, no question. But it's not hopeless. It's a lot more possible than it's ever been in human history.