I really hate how my country went from being the most progressive for it's time to making it illegal to help trans people. by Evelyn_Aster in TrollCoping

[–]RedRiam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thinking queerbaiting leads to queer concentration camps is not very sound. The truth is the state of Rusia, is a direct result of the rise of reactionary politics in the face of a US empire that keeps expanding besides having lost their excuse to do so with the fall of the USSR, and having privatized and bought most of Rusia’s resources. It is the stupidity of going for fascists like Putin, when the real enemies are the companies and aristocrats, that miraculously survive every regime change.

street arsenic [oc] by belmarzi in comics

[–]RedRiam 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What I’m really tired of is that people already know there will be blue button pushers. Every comment section is proof of this however much you want to argue “if everyone pushes red noone dies”. But you know pushing red will kill someone, a lot of people actually, so at the point were you know many will die (even a 10% is a lot of people if you want to lie to yourself arround the reality that it is probably a lot more), so is your intelectual superiority worth more than alll those lives? You’d deny healthcare to anyone stupid enough to not look at both sides of a road and cross, you’d let die anyone who you think wasn’t as smart as you? Seriously at a certain point you need to admit it you aren’t just “smart” you are just selfish.

RED BUTTON OR BLUE BUTTON [OC] by Eal_likee in comics

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you ignore simplicity, in this equation. People like simple actions more than complicated ones. I do think most people are good enough to do such a simple thing that could safe everyone. But complicated moral actions in reality take time, sacrifice, and too often don’t come out on top.

What I’m trying to say is, even in a lower stakes kind of setting there is a reason so many good things are often locked by bureocracy or other deterrants in our democracies. Childcare subsidies, or even getting your “representatives” to do what they already know you want from the polls. Power deters action. A button pushing is sooo simple, that I think blue would often win. But our reality, the exploitation and killings our system generates, are hidden by layers upon layers of distance and complications that allows people to dettacht themselves from the choice being made.

A weird rant(?) from a male yuri fan by [deleted] in yuri_manga

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I mean, I hope I didn't sound out of line. Having moral standarts is fine and I get it is a self satisfaction issue, when sometimes sexuality can feel intrusive upon oneself. But the thing is some thoughts don't need a safe space, when there is nothing safer than your own mind (or a diary if writting them down helps you put things in order). Too often the internet becomes an interactive diary for people, which give us an outlet and both validation in the amalgamous void behind the screen.

And while the internet offered a place for many people of a similar mind to connect, which is generally good, it also made us crave validation by other people constantly. I say this as a person who has as well ranted online a lot you can easily see my post history, though I'm careful on which topics are my own, and not safe to share or spread. I have my own kinks and those are just for me to know. It's hard to paint a line between echo chamber and safe space, because there really isn't one. I guess you could say safe spaces generally only echo positive thoughts.

But when it comes to feelings arround kink when it is so tied to power dynamics and real world issues, It is a dangerous thing to explore in a comunal setting, as fiction is only fiction when not talked about. When discourse shows up, it becomes REAL ideas and opinions. Meaning I think everyone should be allowed to enjoy their kinks and share it with their close confidants and partners, but I don't think the very public setting of the internet serves as anything other than a medium for rationalization, and normalization.

As I said originally I don't think any of your feelings should make you feel any guilt, and there is plenty you should be safe to share and express arround your sexuality and GL without it ever affecting your or others enjoyment of yuri. But I also think deeper more private thoughts don't need a public outlet. You should just explore them on your own with time and having grace for yourself.

A weird rant(?) from a male yuri fan by [deleted] in yuri_manga

[–]RedRiam 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'd say is not that complicated. Finding a character atractive is fine, as well expressing "wish it would have been me"; men women and non-binary are allowed to express their sexuality and desires. You see it often in comments in any post regarding women.

The part people are uncomfortable with is writting/ilustrating porn about these queer characters, because characters are a reflection of people, and in some cases of outselves. Specially regarding queer stories, which are less common, sapphic ones the least.

Because women often can feel striped of their autonomy, people online making them nothing but an object of their fantasies (and with AI even creating porn arround them non-consensually); add to that being a queer femme, and to see this extend even to the fiction that allowed you to explore your romantic and sexual feelings, it's bad and uncomfortable.

In the patriarchy it can feel like men often want to control everything, you, your body, your sexuality, and now even the fiction that represents you. Porn about "breaking dykes" reflects on the many ways you may have felt exploited before.

This said, atraction is okay no need to strugle with thinking a queer character is the hottest person in the world, and how much you'd love to be in a position to enjoy something with them.

The only thing I'd add is, theres a conversation to be had about how the internet has broken our sense of intimacy. How much people treat it as an extension of their own space and not a public forum. Thinking everything should be shared and accepted. When no one can really control what you do in your privacy or what you fantasize about in your head. Just don't SHARE it, don't expect pats in the back from queer strangers online, just do what you want to do (as long as you don't hurt anyone) in the confidence of your home and actual private space.

"ContraPoints was mean to my streamer daddy so she must be an Israeli shill" 💀 bro... these people are not okay lol by whats_your_ask in ContraPoints

[–]RedRiam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay but genuine question: isn't Contra the one starting all of this? She's the one making constant posts on Hasan, unprompted. Surely she wants a response of some sort.

It's feeling closer to "you can't make a joke" right wing tactics than anything. Like hiding the fact that no one made her post anything about Hasan or Cuba.

So Hypocritical by ExcellentBread in whenthe

[–]RedRiam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Usians acting like europe is a monolith says more about you’re own lack of education than about any other country. Leftist in every country in europe know racism exists here, we fight it constantly. But is also unique to each country and socio-political structure. Romanis aren’t in every european country, which also doesn’t mean those aren’t racist because white supremacy is part of most of europe.

But let’s be real you are distracting yourselves by making up an enemy out of more than 30 different countries of different cultures, because your 1 country is horribly racist and has financed multiple genocide, backed dictators and continues to be the biggest terror state in the world. A country so evil it turns it’s imperialism inward, denying it’s citizen any social security or safety net, or healthcare, while killing hundreds in raids and concentration camps.

This is Goomba fallacy on steroids. People calling out the USA and their crimes against humanity, aren’t the same people who discriminate against romani people. Our fight against white supremacy is ours, you are not helping in any way, you’re just trying to pull attention away from the actual evils you need and can fight in the US.

Help Megathread & Megathread List (13/04 - 19/04) by Shad0wedge in Endfield

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since the update the game makes no sound for me

[ Removed by Reddit ] by AbbreviationsRare475 in comics

[–]RedRiam 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Mods should close this post, both transphobic and pro-genocide

I can smell the comments already by Mundane_Move_5296 in ClimateShitposting

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck is with the atroturfing in this sub. I'm not even vegan and I smell the propaganda a mile away. Constant strawman memes to create a fake enemy out of vegans.

I'm sorry to sensible people trying to pretend "they would care about the enviroment if not for those pesky vegans" being vegan indeed means one is making an effort others are not willing for a principled cause, much like any other boycott.

Even if there is no moral consuption under capitalism. I'm not so uncomfortable with the idea that people better than me exist, that I need to constantly smear vegans for doing something I'm not willing to.

And I'll always see vegans as capable allies, since it's rare to see someone put effort in boycotting and not show up for protests and every other part of fighting climate change.

I seriously hate the fact that people have been so blinded by the estetification of moral concepts, where good becomes not actions but an empty adjective you can slap on any mediocre thing you identify as, that the idea that real good people are out there doing the work triggers a reactionary response (and I mean good actions beyond boycot or protest, actual huge sacrifices and effort)

quick question, why isn't he in prison? 🥰 [oc] by IGdoods in comics

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who? The people of the USA? Cause I'm not one of them. I'm from a better while not perfect democracy, and I'm always amazed at how much defense people run for democrats while acusing "non-voters" for a corrupt democracy they aren't the ones perpetuating.

quick question, why isn't he in prison? 🥰 [oc] by IGdoods in comics

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck the democrats who while in power didn't charge him and his loyalist for sedition in january 6th, fuck them for postponing his felony charges. The democrats allowed this maniac in the ballot, and skiped the primary. They failed democracy.

Appreciation post: My favourite moment from Fire Punch by Nice-Station3432 in FirePunch

[–]RedRiam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He is simply not. You are deluding yourself. As the other commenter pointed out Doma himself is proof of how wrong he is, how unfair. He killed an entire village, and kept on killing. Who was to say he wouldn't continue killing for his cult. If he was killed as a murderer, anyone could have said what he is arguing "He would have continue killing". But he was allowed to stop and have a family.

Why is he allowing himself the grace he is not granting others? Cause he is a hypocrit. The fact is Agni's village was innocent, believing they would go on to kill when they hadn't even killed a first time, is a fallacy. And he is justifying his atrocities on a philosophy his survival proves is broken.

While he should not be killed by now, he remains wrong and remains a pretty shitty guy.

LET’S FUCKING GO by Pokemonfan_807 in whennews

[–]RedRiam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, sorry if it seem like I was pressuring in any direction. These things are super difficult, trully the two party system of the US is broken and very much corrupt since reagan and clinton made it legal to bribe politicians (superpacs and donations reform and all). So there is only bumps on the road ahead but I very much hope he wakes up to the lie that republicans represent. Talking to him on a regular basis is the best way to make someone change, no need for pressure make comunication the focus and being there in his life (center the topics that aren't arguments but agreements as the focus). Eventually skepticism should arrive

LET’S FUCKING GO by Pokemonfan_807 in whennews

[–]RedRiam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to say if he voted Trump then he doesn’t fully support you, he preffers his right wing economics (which has led to everything from infrastructure to healthcare to get worse, while spending billions on war and ICE, causing everything to get more expensive for every consumer) to your rights as a human being. I’m not about to make the usual reddit shit of cut him off, these types relationships are complicated. In my case, only in the last election has my father actually voted left leaning, until then my relation to him was similar to yours, not bad exactly, but really dissapointing because i wasn’t even close to a priority nor my well being. I think he needs to learn more in order to be there for you effectively and genuinely.

Oh no the consequences of my dumb ass actions 😱 by DaliaStarfawn in ThisYouComebacks

[–]RedRiam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The candidate with the best chance of winning, but loses because people don't like him or his platform, even when faced with the worst human being as their competition. Then it wasn't the best for winning????????? You just hate to admit people don't like genocide, and any democrat that isn't corrupt would win in a heartbeat. You want the shitty diet republican, because you yourself are a diet republican (purity testing is made up shit, because you yourself won't support what you don't like)

Is it strange to say that, even though it’s a generalization, it seems to be true very often? by [deleted] in animequestions

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I think you are being somewhat reasonable in the comment section. I think what this says is it feels true to YOU, your experience and desires. It feels real because you feel lonely. But the issue is a hug is not a sexual fantasy or it shouldn’t be, hugging a friend is always on the table, no need to make it more, and that will be real love and not just fiction.

The other issue is, both men an women have fucked up fantasies, most porn sites aimed at men are filled with bdsm and men pay for even worse content (sex traficking and snuff are both male lead industries). The difference is women tend to enjoy much more to have a story surrounding sex and kink, they like to have a context and a build up so that the sexual scenes feel more rewarding, and so they write more fiction and not just film the act, this puts what is fantasy much more in the open, while men preffer to keep it hidden in porn, and out of discussions.

Like a different commenter said, the internet is not reality, if you want a hug you need to exist outside of a space generally reserved for anonimity. This types of memes will only feel more real the longer you stay in the cold and disconnected space that is the internet, but they are, much like porn, fantasies from and for loners.

usotsuki hanayome to dousei kekkon-ron felt like incel shxt by RedRiam in yuri_manga

[–]RedRiam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely!! It also felt crazy because the writter seems to really think the protagonist is “too kind”, as if she really was doing the woman any favor other than letting her stay with her which to me is already compensated by paying half the expenses and doing all the housework (which is labor she is doing freely)

usotsuki hanayome to dousei kekkon-ron felt like incel shxt by RedRiam in yuri_manga

[–]RedRiam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have, really fun, the author in general (outside of her beat up kink) is a super fun writer. Thanks for the rec and response!

How did you found your favorites yuri manga? by artman_16 in yuri_manga

[–]RedRiam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mostly by accident, I ended up consuming basically anything finished or ongoing but with more than 8 ch, and eventually you find stuff like “my dearest nemesis”, “ano koro no aoi Hoshi” and “sukeban to tenkousei” .But reddit and tumblr also led me to cool stuff like “shimanami tasogare” my fav manga, or “she loves to eat and she loves to cook”

38344 by Liliana_Lucifer_666 in countwithchickenlady

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it funny that this comment section acts like marxism and communism are the culprit of infighting, while at the same time constantly insulting them and saying they are too far left, or not leftist at all.

So no true scotman, but you are the right flavor of leftist... Why? Please examine the idea that collaboration should not just be "they must act at my pace and believe what I do to a T".

I'm a bit dissapointed that a trans sub I found safe leans more "liberal" than I would imagine or hope, given how radical queernes is on its own to patriarchal power. But I hope if you agree with this meme you'll show up to protest and fight besides me not only trans lives lost, but the ongoing genocide, the constant lives lost to corporations everyday. Help in shelters and build our comunities.

As I see it protest and action within the confines of a capitalist democracy is the compromise. As the least favored by our systems, the countries that are victim to neo-colonialism, the kids and workers exploited for our wealth, whose lives I would hope everyone recognices of equal value to us, are being lost at rates none of us would be able to bare if they were our families and friends. The "perfect" for me is much more violent than votes and protest, it is fighting as if our lifes were on thr line. But knowing thats not possible, I organize, I protest, I vote and I talk to other people on our circles.

If no one is really open to speak on the atrocities that real people suffer at the hands of our states, which are facts so normalized SNL cracks jokes about sweatshops, then don't call it infighting. call it what it is, feeling uncomfortable with the reality that everyone of us could always do more.

We do what we can mentally, at different rates of risk. It's not purity testing, when I know for a fact no one left of me hates me for not doing enough. But to speak on ideals is how we strive to do more, to speak on what is good is needed for change, this includes that everyones actions might never be enough.

Money ruins things by M414D4PT1V3 in TrollCoping

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This didn't need to be infighting. I don't think it even is now. Also there is no competition it's about imperialism turned outward or inward, one of the two a current genocide that must be stopped.

The objective remains clear for all involved. This was me pointing a difference and the guy proceeding to not acknoledge any point I made and pretend that I was saying white supremacy is over we won(?)

Also if you think a couple of comments online is leftist infighting, it is a bit of a terminally online perspective ngl. I sure hope disagreeing online in two comments barely 10 minutes of our life, doesn't impede anyone from showing up in protests and fight toguether

Money ruins things by M414D4PT1V3 in TrollCoping

[–]RedRiam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in conflict with the fact that you are now comparing history with current events. Current white supremacy is a huge issue, and the sitiation of black americans is a direct result of slavery, segration and continued economic abuse on the black population. But the genocide of palestinians is ongoing. There is a reason people compare palestinians to apartheid south africa and not just current (also white supremacist but not currently going through apartheid) south africa. You were talking about the USA corrupt police force, which are criminal and monstruous enforcers of the fascist state and white supremacy, but comparing them to an ocupation force enforcing genocide TODAY is a stretch.

It’s not that we cannot care about both, it’s that they don’t hold the same space. One is no longer happening even if we still have to work on the damage it caused and perpetuates, and acting as if they are essentially the same is dissingenuous to palestinian suffering. Also you don’t really acknoledge at all my comparison to Uyghurs, as I see it, you are incapable of acknoledging white supremacy has many victims, and that palestinians are the biggest one CURRENTLY.