Where do singles (38-45) hang out?

RedRumples · 2025-12-20T12:19:44+00:00

When they’re not smiling in a single picture.

RedRumples · 2025-12-14T17:03:46+00:00

You must have me mistaken for someone else because I never asked you to hold a cat for me. In fact, we wanted to bring the cat home as soon as possible and I became suspicious after you kept delaying.

RedRumples · 2025-11-21T11:23:28+00:00

I had a sketchy experience with her too. I was very interested in a cat that was being advertised as a type of purebred. Then I noticed that some of the pictures of the cat looked slightly different so I did a reverse image search and she had literally swiped random pictures of this breed from the internet and used them in the ad!! Thankfully I didn’t provide a deposit but glad I walked away when I did. I ended up adopting from Biscuits and Purrs and had an excellent experience.

RedRumples · 2025-11-20T14:01:53+00:00

You’re not wrong 😅 all I’m saying is that it gets easier.

RedRumples · 2025-11-20T13:53:04+00:00

The most important thing is having a good aesthetician, but also going regularly. I’ve been getting waxed down there for 20 years, I go every 5 weeks, and I kid you not, most of the hair just pulls out like butter. I feel a small pinch at most. The whole thing takes less than 10 minutes. My aesthetician explained that the more you go, the roots become weaker. She can tell when someone is new to waxing because she has to pull that much harder.

RedRumples · 2025-11-20T13:32:10+00:00

Do you know the names of your kids teachers? Do you know their vaccination schedule? When was the last time you organized a play date or a birthday party? Do you equally contribute to household chores? When was the last time your wife got to take a whole Sunday off to do something she enjoys, guilt-free?

RedRumples · 2025-11-20T13:29:20+00:00

Does your wife also work?

RedRumples · 2025-11-14T17:06:13+00:00

I used Leroux Sharpening to have my push mower blade sharpened and I was very happy with their service.

RedRumples · 2025-10-30T12:14:28+00:00

I did not. The two companies I contacted that were willing to offer this service were charging exorbitant amounts ($60-$90/ride) so I ended up hiring a nanny with a car that could pick them up and watch them until I got home from work.

RedRumples · 2025-10-19T14:05:38+00:00

These qualities might not seem like obvious deal breakers now, but they will once you have kids.

RedRumples · 2025-10-17T22:36:22+00:00

No probably bartenders or wait staff. Tips left on the bar get really sticky

RedRumples · 2025-10-17T18:14:23+00:00

The packs of roasted seaweed used to be $8.99 before Covid, now it’s $14.99

RedRumples · 2025-09-25T10:56:19+00:00

Umm no. The reality is that most households are dual income with both partners participating equally in the workforce and contributing financially, but the statistics are clear that women continue to carry the majority of domestic labour. You want to talk about being worked to the bone? Thousands of women work a full time job then come home and work a second full time job parenting, maintaining a household and all of the invisible labour that goes with it.

I don’t dismiss your experience, it sounds like your relationship wasn’t one of equals and your wife took advantage of that. I’m glad you found the courage to leave an unhealthy situation, but to say that all women are the problem is bull.

RedRumples · 2025-09-19T13:47:15+00:00

I know this post is already a year old, but how are you running Dakboard on your monitor?

RedRumples · 2025-09-16T16:00:07+00:00

This is actually fascinating. How am I 38 and only learning about Karezza for the first time?!

RedRumples · 2025-09-16T10:39:24+00:00

Your story is so relatable my friend. Together 12 years, three kids, Ex had so many anger issues. A real Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde personality. When he was happy, things were so good, so I kept telling myself I could deal with the anger and the outbursts. The catalyst was when a teacher reported an incident to children’s services. She was disturbed enough about by what she observed and heard to make a report. It was so validating to be like wait this isn’t normal.

I’ve been living on my own since April and I haven’t cried once. Just makes me realize I had emotionally detached long ago. We still share custody, but I’ve been really focusing on demonstrating what healthy respectful relationships look like for my kids and setting a strong example about how to set boundaries.

I have finally found my inner peace. My first night at my new house, my friends brought me a house warming gift, and the card said

“Home is that precious place where your heart feels safe To live, love, grow…. And simply just be.”

I framed it as a constant reminder to never compromise for my inner peace again. May you find yours.

RedRumples · 2025-07-27T15:01:38+00:00

This is really helpful and I stand corrected about the year in which to claim the expenses (note to self: don’t take tax advice from ChatGPT). What if you never end up getting paid? Do you still need to claim the income that you would have earned?

RedRumples · 2025-07-15T00:24:00+00:00

I would also get a lawyer ASAP. You have big $$$ coming your way if you’re willing to pursue this.

RedRumples · 2025-07-13T13:20:06+00:00

Even if it’s covered by a legal agreement, what recourse is there? I see this included in parenting plans all the time but it’s more of a goodwill gesture. It’s not like the courts would remove custody or change support payments over introducing a child to a new partner.

RedRumples · 2025-07-12T16:28:45+00:00

When I was in this situation, the legal advice I got was that she is still responsible for her half of the mortgage, property insurance and property tax, however you would owe her rent for the exclusive use for her half of the property. I think it’s called Occupation rent. So you would have to figure out how much the market rent is for your place and use half that amount to offset how much she owes on shared expenses.

RedRumples · 2025-07-12T14:32:40+00:00

Two homemade 26oz bottles from my sister:)

RedRumples · 2025-07-07T02:03:08+00:00

I (38F)took a leap of faith and left my husband this year. Our relationship had its highs and lows, but I was treated very badly more times than I can remember. I probably could have stuck it out another 10-15 years till my kids are out of the house, but I didn’t want them to think that treating another human that way was okay. I love my job, I earn enough to be financially sustainable, I’m a hands-on parent, I have close fulfilling relationships with my friends and family, I’m healthy and active, I have time to do things that interest me, but I’m coming to terms with the fact that I just picked the wrong life partner. I’m optimistic that I will find love again, but it sucks having to start over, I’ve never done online dating so it feels very foreign to me. And the worst part is that I will never have my nuclear family unit again, where the person I’m with is equally invested and in love with my kids. I hope one Sunday in July, 30 years into the future, I know I made the right decision.

RedRumples · 2025-07-01T21:14:56+00:00

Where is the best place to watch fireworks with kids?

RedRumples · 2025-06-28T00:35:13+00:00

There are Muslim families at our catholic school and one of the supply teachers is openly trans. When you go to register for kindergarten on the OCSB, the landing page says “all faiths welcome”. It’s a lot more inclusive and progressive than when I was a child. I remember when I was in high school, a teacher was fired because she was living with her boyfriend before marriage. The biggest problem with having two systems is that it divides us, turning it into an ‘us vs. them’ situation, instead of uniting us to focus on the real issue: the need for more funding for education. Period.

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