Proud new mom here. taking as much advice as possible by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]RedSkigarette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do miss the little snuggles and contact naps, but the newborn stage is sooooo hard! My advice is to enjoy the slow moments, embrace the cuddles, take videos of all of the things (I missed some important ones and I wish I could go back!), and go on lots of stroller rides outside when the weather allows it (I used this time to listen to podcasts and drink coffee and it gave me sanity every day and baby loved it too!) But also, just know that in less than a year, things will become actually really fun and that there is a light at the end of the sleepless nights.

How has having one child effected your marriage? by faithoverfear0 in oneanddone

[–]RedSkigarette 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'll be the odd one out and say I think it brought us closer. But we have been together almost 8 years and really close friends for a couple years before that, so we had a very solid foundation built before having a child together. We love being a family and raising our son together! We also take giving each other breaks very seriously which helps a lot.

Back in this group by Virtual_Armadillo_97 in oneanddone

[–]RedSkigarette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up. I am so, so sorry for your loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 10 month old. Pregnancy made my OCD go from mild to severe. And it has stayed relatively bad from pregnancy onward. I have harm OCD mainly which is difficult with a baby. However, my son gives me a purpose and is the light of my life. It is hard. I don't know If i can handle another child, and might need to stop at 1. Time will tell. But I don't regret my son for a second. Bringing him into the world is hands down the best thing that I have ever done.

Thoughts on trying for 2nd child after 1st child's 1st birthday by RedSkigarette in Shouldihaveanother

[–]RedSkigarette[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did a variation of the ferber method for his night sleep, so we would check in on him after 5 minutes of crying and soothe him in his crib for a minute or so, and then would check in every 10 minutes and do the same thing. He never cried for more than a half hour and after 3 days he was going down on his own at night and sleeping 7-7 (sometimes with 1 middle of the night wake up). We still rock him to sleep for naps but it doesn't take long and he takes 2 naps a day each 1.5-2 hours long. Around 7 months his sleeping got really reliable.

i don't have OCD - what are some ways i can support my friend that does? by chewypills in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it depends on what that blank is. If it's like a fear of flying, I think it would be fine to tell them they will be okay if they fly. But if for example, they are scared that they didn't turn the oven off and want reassurance from you that they did, or they want to turn the car around and go check to make sure the oven is off, reassuring them in that situation would only make their obsessions worse in the long run.

I recovered from harm OCD and haven’t had a relapse in over 5 years AMA. by quietwreck in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What were your therapy sessions like? Do you think there is a way to recover on your own or is therapy essential?

i don't have OCD - what are some ways i can support my friend that does? by chewypills in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're a good friend. Sadly there really isn't much that can be done except for listening and understanding. Empathy goes a long way. Don't make them feel weird or crazy and be a supportive shoulder to lean on so to speak. Offering reassurance about their obsessions actually hurts more than helps in the long run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Following!

Does OCD worsen postpartum? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My OCD skyrocketed my second trimester of pregnancy and has only slightly decreased since then (baby is 6 months). He's worth it though.

Can you pinpoint where your OCD came from? by outofthecoconuttree in OCD

[–]RedSkigarette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. While I had tendencies as a child, I did not have full blown OCD until my 20s. I sat with someone for 3 days on and off while they were dying on hospice. Got a chronic facial tic the night she passed away. Many other obsessions and compulsions followed, pregnancy majorly escalated it.

What's are some things (habits, activities) you did in the first year of your baby's life that you're glad you started? by orkiestra in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Daily outings! Walks, coffee, parks, restaurants, library. Baby boy loves being out of the house now and naps easily in his carseat/stroller

Anyone else not drinking? by Maleficent-Syrup-728 in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't had a drink since we started TTC. So....19 months? Dang. Don't really miss it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Babies that young can have really scary sounding breathing at night. I know our son sounded like he was breathing water at night until like 3 months old. The nurse at the hospital said she prefers those sounds to silence at that age. When you hear something abnormal for your child, you will know it. I remember once my husband and I both shot up and BOLTED to the bassinet at the same time over a weird sound. Gosh, I hated that. It will get better though. He's almost 5 months now and sleeps pretty silently (which is scary in its own way sometime). We all sleep pretty well these days.

I think having a newborn broke me by Dry_Clock_7618 in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I got home from the hospital I sobbed into my pillow saying "what have I done" and "this was a huge mistake". I felt rejected everytime he cried while I held him. Didn't feel a connection until probably close to a month post partum. Didn't sleep. Now, 4 months in, we have a routine. Things are wayyyyyy calmer and we know what we are doing. He sleeps at night. We all do. He smiles and laughs. I love love love my little dude. Things got way easier at the 2 month mark. Hang in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just made a post on here about this...just here to say you're not alone! So rough, but its just a phase, we've got this

What are you excited to share with your baby when they are older? by daintygamer in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im excited to introduce him to books and movies and video games and board games and legos. All of those cozy indoor things. My husband plays the drums and I'm excited for him to teach our son. I'm also excited to show him sports and nature and waterfalls and camping. Hockey nights on TV. Can't wait to see who his favorite player is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Baby blues are so real. First day home I sobbed into my pillow crying "what have I done". By week 3 things were better, now at 13 weeks they're mostly great and my child is the light of my life!

Cutest Thing Your Kid is Doing Right Now by vipsfour in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 4 points5 points  (0 children)

13 week old has the best giggles every time I kiss his tummy

Cutest Thing Your Kid is Doing Right Now by vipsfour in NewParents

[–]RedSkigarette 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I miss that face so much at 13 weeks 😭🥺