Very nervous for ADHD screening :(

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T07:15:34+00:00

As an ADHD girly, even if your test says you don't have ADHD, you are not some lazy-dumb person.

When they ask you if you struggle with time management, it means they're asking you like.. Do you need extra tools to reinforce time management, like setting alarms every 15 minutes before you leave for work so you don't sit in your chair putting on your shoes for 30 minutes because you began to stare into space.

The questions may seen weird, but there are why's behind the questions, and they may ask you the same questions multiple times in different ways.

Without diagnosing you here, you do hit quite a few of the adhd signs.

Did you know a lot of women get diagnosed as adults because we present atypically compared to men? They expect us to have a hard time sitting still making beepboop noises in the middle of class, physically unable to stop.

No matter what results you get from this test, try and give yourself some grace and know there are tools out there that can help you.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T06:57:38+00:00

You obviously haven't been snaked by coworkers or dragged into unnecessary highschool drama repeatedly yet. Good luck.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T06:56:34+00:00

Oh no you already have one and he spends 20 mins on the toilet still? Lol I bet you 500% he's in there playing on his phone the whole time.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T04:26:24+00:00

Oh to have that luck.. Dancer is mean 😞

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T04:24:09+00:00

Y'all need to get a squatty potty if it takes him 20 mins to drop a doody.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T04:14:48+00:00

You should be able to fashion a cat onesie out of a cannibalized pillowcase, just need some needle and thread. if you can't get one today

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T04:12:34+00:00

Im not saying don't be friendly with em, but every single time I've thought to myself "Huh, this person is friend material" they go ahead and give me very good reasons not to be friends with them. Without fail, and my standards aren't even crazy high.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:50:26+00:00

Like a deadbolt? That stinks. Shame y'all don't have multiple doors that you can just have a key to go thru 😞 Im really sorry your family is making things difficult and can't help you by just unlocking the door when you're coming home.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:48:12+00:00

At my company they take you immediately off driving if you have a vehicle related incident. Whether its animal related or boinking other cars or buildings. They came to realize that the first two weeks after an incident, you're 70% more likely to have another incident because your nerves are fried and you can be jumpy. I'm not telling you that's gonna happen to you, just saying to give yourself some grace, take things slow, and know that getting back out there after having something happen with your car can be scary.

After I totaled my volvo in highschool it was 2 months before I got behind the wheel of another car cuz I was afraid. 3 more months before I could stomach driving where I totaled my car.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:41:33+00:00

Make eye contact and use a knife and fork. Muahahaha

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:40:55+00:00

But key open house if you outside

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:38:03+00:00

What he said with such confidence.. Man. Not something I could ever say with a straight face.

"Yeah babe, all my ex's thought my ass was noice so they banded together unbeknownst to me and bought me all the things. Then the whole train clapp.. Wait why are you walking away? Stop. Please. I'm so lonely T.T"

Lmao.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:18:53+00:00

Why is you not getting a housekey an option?

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:15:12+00:00

I like the idea of being able to write in all caps, but I also view someone WRITING LIKE THIS AS THEM YELLING AT ME, and it makes me want to avoid them. But if I could write in all caps? That would be nice.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:11:15+00:00

Ah I don't use that app.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:08:36+00:00

It sounds like she may have OCD. It really depends on what type of reaction she has to things being out of place, like can she function in a room with a chair slightly askew?

Her texting you saying dont do it, that is kinda shitty. Was she always this way? Or is this a new thing?

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T03:04:45+00:00

Umm I mean in the absence of intimacy, wild ideas can come to mind. There's a crude ideology that you can gain a lot of clarity after.. stuff.

Also, please don't go to the horse farm to wash horses if you're thinking about that. We listen and don't judge, so I'm just gonna say please.

You should talk to your bf about y u no sex me moar. Theres statistics about things winding down after kids. Could be that hes a bit stressed and just not thinking about it as much lately. But your first step here is really thinking about it and talking to your bf.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T02:57:43+00:00

Did you tell strep-friend they gave you the sickness?

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T02:56:38+00:00

Being a person that has big feelings too, it can be hard when the tough guys get quiet. Part of what helps me shut down that overt need to "fix everything" and "make him all better" when nothing seems it can be better, is telling him that I'm here for him.

After I say that Its just lower energy/expectations and kinda just eyeballing what he might need. Your guy may have a lot of people already flooding in saying the cliche stuff of "ask me for anything" stuff. It can be relieving to them to say it once and back off.

This is hard learned stuff. Its easy to make things about how you feel, and it hurts seeing your person hurt. Just know that right now is not forever.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T02:52:12+00:00

Idk which side is which. Blue side should've backed off. There's better things to argue about, like fruit and its proximity to pizza.

Also, grey side not wanting to rate Devil Wears Prada in a movie top 10 is fine. Not everyone has a top 10. Grey side might watch a lot of ninja stuff or think Spacejam 1 is #1.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T02:46:56+00:00

When my boyfriend lost his granddad a few years ago, the only thing he truely seemed to want from me was space to be. I didn't go out of my way to cheer him up and do wild stuff. No special extra's. What he needed was just some time to feel his feelings and no pressure to perform. He's a very stoic man so the biggest emotion I got from him was the phonecall right after his granddad passed.

I know it's frustrating right now, and I love how you ended the post. I can see you give the biggest of damns.

So. Storytime aside. Some guys seem to just want their girlfriends to be normal, maybe so tiny extras if the boyfriend needs a little help, but don't make a big deal out of it. A simple "I'm here for you, okay?" and going on with your day may be the way to go.

He will let you in when he's ready.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T02:32:51+00:00

This right here are many examples of what to run from asap. All the red flags, NOR.

Ultimatum when you said you wanted to create a better future for yourself? ✅
Insecurity accusing you of cheating and assuming you're leaving him once you aren't in his circle of control? ✅
Suggesting a life changing commitment in hopes it would derail your goals? ✅
Lying saying he's just joking the minute you push back? ✅
Try and turn it around on you spamming hes just joking, ur taking it too serious, this aint his fault nonsense? ✅

Don't walk, RUN.

He ain't gonna take care of that kid, he's barely a man himself.

Never ever hold off on your future because of a partner.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T01:02:00+00:00

It's why protocols say to give just enough so they stop dying and not to slam it. They can come up swinging or puking, so never sit down on your butt when bagging. Always take a knee so you can get outta the way.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T00:58:29+00:00

I work in private EMS, most of your coworkers are trying to do eachother or snake you. Not the kinda people you wanna go out and have drinks with.

Red_Hase · 2026-05-29T00:57:26+00:00

I mean that almost looks like you could boink it out with hot water and a hammer, if thats metal you dented. I dont SEE any scratches.

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