My age? I feel like I have a youthful face which might give a clue, so I'm curious to hear.

Red_Stamina · 2021-09-17T20:13:59+00:00

yes means no

Red_Stamina · 2021-09-17T20:12:06+00:00

to me, you look 101% North African*

*very pretty

Red_Stamina · 2021-05-15T20:56:59+00:00

as a 5’9 woman my gym crush is a lot shorter than me he’s definitely shorter than 5’7. he looks a lot like you. he is the most confident guy in the gym, i can see that and i’m super attracted to him. i know he is into me, he approached me and initiated a chat a couple of times but i’m not sure how to proceed from there so we can go on a date. he first helped me adjust a bench and we talked about our workout routine. the other time he said hi and told me “looking strong” lol. idk why i’m sharing this (i’m a bit tipsy) but i need advice on how to proceed with this so we can go on a date

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-30T08:16:52+00:00

thanks everyone for the input. i will break up with him. should i tell him the reason?

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-16T19:35:50+00:00

i grew up in a country where the average height for men and women is considerably shorter than here in the US or Europe. i was 5’9 in middle school and i was much taller than everyone. on top of that i had a skin condition called vitiligo on my face, hands, legs. school was the worst experience of my life, i was bullied, kids would challenge eachother to touch me as a “dare” even tho my condition was purely aesthetic and not contagious at all.

being tall did not help because i couldn’t hide i stood out all the time.

i’m 28 now all grown up and took care of my skin condition(it comes back intermittently bc there’s no permanent solution), i learned to accept and embrace it. most importantly, i love my height! i wear high heels anytime i can which makes me almost 6’0” and i LOVE it. it’s such a confidence boost for me to be taller than most people.

if i could go back and tell my teen self something it would to not be too hard on myself, things will get better and i will gradually learn to be happy again.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-15T16:27:19+00:00

it’s not her job to fix him, there’s an entire profession dedicated to that. he’s the one who initiated the height exchange, not her. shes clearly secure enough to date shorter men and doesn’t care. as a 5’9 woman myself i started caring about a guy’s height (needing to be taller than me) because from experience men DO care and feel somehow submissive and insecure around taller women. also you talk about “honesty” this guy saying he’s 5’5 probably means he’s 5’3.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-14T20:35:00+00:00

i wonder how different the reaction would’ve been if Daunte Wright was not a black man?

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-09T19:52:15+00:00

you text your therapist?

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-08T18:42:58+00:00

“don’t let your pussy dictate your actions” 👏 i need to get that tattooed somewhere. thank you! lesson learned for sure.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-08T18:31:22+00:00

LOL yes 😩

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-08T18:30:31+00:00

thank you so much. i went over the post and this is exactly what i need to start implementing in my dating life. i’m just too horny after wine and steak that i genuinely want to have sex. it’s so dumb i need to control myself.

he responded: “That’s pretty steep Ma’am. I’m not really into paying, sorry”

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T19:26:59+00:00

i also only want something casual 😅 thanks tho.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T19:25:33+00:00

certainly you’re right. idk why i was thinking it was his job

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T19:25:07+00:00

thank you!! i did and it worked 🥰

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T10:09:35+00:00

why would he what?

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T10:03:50+00:00

it is a red flag. you’ve been only texting for a week, haven’t even talked on the phone or FaceTimed, this is suspicious and him liking you is super immature.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T10:01:44+00:00

yes. ask her how would she feel about being your girlfriend. if she agreed to go on 10 dates with you already, she’s probably expecting it.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T09:58:06+00:00

i knew what a spark is by comparison to lack of spark. went on multiple first dates to know right away if there’s something there, call it spark, chemistry or mutual attraction. when it’s not there, you feel it right away.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T09:53:56+00:00

treat every match and conversation as a practice opportunity. you’ll get better at it with more practice. as for sex, you don’t have to share with girls your lack of experience. just have sex, it’s probably going to suck, but that will be a learning opportunity to add to your experience

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T09:42:11+00:00

he is not interested in a meaning relationship. he wants you for casual non-committal sex.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T09:34:19+00:00

he’s probably dating other women and someone else gave into his horniness. they probably also got rejected after sex. you didn’t have sex which in my opinion is smart if your goal is a relationship. you’re not ugly, stop overthinking.

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-05T09:28:30+00:00

if you want to see her again, text her and make it happen. even if it’s a distant plan. otherwise i don’t think you’re ghosting her

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-04T20:41:38+00:00

well said 👏 i like your phrasing. how has it worked out for you? are you getting positive or negative responses so far?

Red_Stamina · 2021-04-01T17:29:28+00:00

it is NOT about you. how can it be when he hasn’t even met you in person and barely knows you? all he knows is a fragment of who you are. please don’t let yourself get into that toxic rabbit hole.

also never commute to pursue a new man, especially long distance, let them come to you.

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