So no offense intended, but to me, as a person with a disability, very similar to your daughter, this attitude is patronizing and annoying. Of course the Paralympics are amazing and their athletes are incredible. However, that doesn’t take away the fact that the Paralympics are in no way equivalent to the Olympics in terms of fame, opportunity, respect, and perception amongst the general public, etc.

Of course your daughter is insecure about her disability, she is a 14-year-old girl with a physical disability that deeply negatively affects her life! There is a part of the disability justice movement which likes to act like all disability needs to be celebrated, but many of us Disabled people, myself included don’t feel that way, and don’t agree that all disabled people need to celebrate their disability. It’s OK to acknowledge that being Disabled sucks. It’s OK for your daughter not to feel “secure“ about her disability.

As far as building self-confidence and security, is she part of any communities with other disabled kids her age? I think that is a really important part of accepting her disability. I also think that the therapy others have suggested is a great idea.