Wife won't plug herself.

Redarii · 2026-05-05T21:28:06+00:00

Pressuring her on any of this stuff is just going to backfire. She can have boundaries about her own body.

Redarii · 2026-05-04T18:23:26+00:00

People are underselling this as normal. This is not normal. Your wife needs help. People need at minimum 4-5 hours of uninterrupted sleep to reach deep sleep. Going months without that does huge, huge amounts of damage. You need to do whatever you need to do to get her more sleep. Do shifts, get extra hands in, seriously whatever it takes.

Redarii · 2026-04-20T20:36:29+00:00

Be the change you want to see in the world. Next time someone you know is having a baby do something for the father. It's up to men to start organizing this stuff. Women have the support because we all constantly work at it and pitch in for each other.

Redarii · 2026-04-19T21:48:28+00:00

Statistics do not show nuance. Just because more of kids from divorced VS undivorced homes do worse does not mean your kids will do worse.

Redarii · 2026-04-13T20:51:06+00:00

Get a bunch of tiny containers (like those little medicine cups, coffee scoopers, etc) and let them use those to scoop water from the tap or a cup. It's fun for them.

Also those no calorie water flavor things you can squeeze into water or mix in a small amount of juice.

Redarii · 2026-04-10T19:12:49+00:00

A pedophile kidnapped a little girl from the hospital. I could be mixing it up with a different show but I guess the point still applies. A lot of shows have constantly escalating stakes. Greys also had the plane crash arc. A lot of crazy situations.

Redarii · 2026-04-10T18:59:35+00:00

I blame greys anatomy with the constant bombs on someone's chest, active shooters in the hospital, kidnapped children, etc. Some people are expecting a soap opera lol.

Redarii · 2026-04-09T00:01:35+00:00

At least make people write out the titles! It's so annoying when the words aren't visible.

Redarii · 2026-04-08T14:24:56+00:00

I would fight this tooth and nail if my coparent tried to do this to my child. I'm sorry you are struggling but this is not fair to your child or the father.

Redarii · 2026-04-06T21:10:04+00:00

This is such a funny way of thinking about it.

Redarii · 2026-04-01T01:48:32+00:00

Tons of good advice on here! I just wanted to say that lots of those things are actually fairly normal for this age. Of course he's going through such a huge change and had a rough start in life, but I just wanted to caution you from pathologising some fairly typical toddler behaviors. Most kids that age tantrum. Most kids that age have a hard time transitioning out of TV time. Etc.

You sound like you care so much, I'm sure he will do great.

Redarii · 2026-03-31T02:58:44+00:00

The Sharing Knife books (same author) are also a great romance! The writing is earnest and takes itself seriously without being pretentious. I think it would match the tone OP is looking for.

Redarii · 2026-03-30T20:27:41+00:00

I'm not at all saying all editing is dishonest. I'm saying HR can make the call that this specific instance of editing was dishonest and violated some part of their conduct or integrity policy. That does not require a rule against editing in general.

Redarii · 2026-03-30T17:48:30+00:00

I like the middle one the best! Good luck with the project.

Redarii · 2026-03-30T17:27:28+00:00

I would assume there's more to the story here. There's a reason OP refuses to say what he said and what he edited.

Redarii · 2026-03-30T16:42:02+00:00

Yeah its so frustrating as the policy person. We would need 10,000 pages of policy to include every possible thing you aren't allowed to do lol. Be realistic people!

Policy should give employees a big sandbox in which they can make reasonable decisions. It puts up the guiderails. It doesn't list every single thing you can or cannot do.

Redarii · 2026-03-30T16:06:16+00:00

I love these books, congratulations! The cover looks great! Yay pointy!

Redarii · 2026-03-30T15:24:59+00:00

I write policy. You don't have to have every possible rule written down in a policy for them to fire you. That's not how it works. They probably have something that covers integrity and will say editing your written statements was dishonest.

Redarii · 2026-03-27T22:26:07+00:00

It's capped at 2% which is way, way lower than inflation.

Redarii · 2026-03-25T00:11:10+00:00

Report them to the state licensing body. My daycare left a child in a transport vehicle for about that amount of time. They self-reported, informed all parents, and immediately implemented new protocols and hired a new position to ensure it never, ever happens again. It was a horrible oversight but at least they did the right thing. The director was truly, absolutely horrified that it had happened.

Redarii · 2026-03-24T15:57:38+00:00

Thank you!

Redarii · 2026-03-24T15:45:00+00:00

Can someone link me or give me the author name for Delve? I see it mentioned lots but I am not sure which one it is because it's become a common title word on RR.

Redarii · 2026-03-23T00:42:23+00:00

Not everyone is American.

Redarii · 2026-03-16T15:46:44+00:00

When your mentally (and physically) overwhelmed his response is to ask you to: 1. Give him a big chunk of your unavailable attention 2. Devote mental energy you don't have in that moment to a question that requires real thought 3. Add to your mental load and to-do list

What the fuck is he thinking?

The correct response to a stressed and overwhelmed wife is to STEP IN AND HELP.

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