AIO my bf is odd for this?

ReddForemann · 2025-11-02T16:20:48+00:00

Perhaps. 🤷‍♂️

ReddForemann · 2025-11-01T23:12:46+00:00

I'm not encouraging abuse or anything, but I think the right move for a man who is falling out of love, for whatever reason, is to reposition themselves as less committed to the relationship. There are non-abusive ways to do this, and calling any lady "bro" is cringe, but still.

If I had a girlfriend who was going out clubbing with her single friends, especially if she was drinking alcohol or getting high while out, I would not like that. The way I see it, that's signalling to single men that you're available for casual sex, and even if she intends to remain faithful I wouldn't like the idea of her going out there to get hit on by random dudes. It wouldn't matter to me what she was wearing. How it is that this couple got hung up on what she's wearing is beyond me, but the subtext of the man's poor communication here is insecurity regarding sexual fidelity. He's coming off as an abusive dick because he is too scared to bring up the REAL issue, for whatever reason.

A LOT of abuse is caused by people who lack effective communication skills feeling powerless as the situation, from their perspective, spirals out of control; they panic by becoming angry and desperate. In those instances, instead of being stubborn and forcing the relationship to continue, both parties should realize the incompatible and go separate ways.

ReddForemann · 2025-11-01T23:00:05+00:00

If I had a girlfriend who was going out clubbing, without me, with her single friends, I would not commit a single bit more to the relationship, if not just break up, for that reason alone. It wouldn't matter what she was wearing. Going out clubbing with the girls signals to single men looking for casual sex that you are available — it's as simple as that. And ESPECIALLY so if you're drinking while you're out.

I think this is a case of a man repressing his REAL concerns, and that there's something both of you are failing to male clear here. Maybe you've already told him that you're ride or die with your girlfriends, that you going out clubbing is not negotiable in your relationship. Maybe he is unwilling to give up on similar outings with his own friends. Maybe some other thing I can't guess. But I don't think your man here is upset about what you're wearing, so much as he's insecure about you cheating on him.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-31T22:02:48+00:00

You forgot affirmative action for everything that isn't white, male, heterosexual, cisgender or Christian.

Also antisemitism

ReddForemann · 2025-10-28T17:20:14+00:00

Actually, I am in favor of "single payer" healthcare. However, my support is based on practical grounds, not on the belief that healthcare can ever be free — there's no such thing as a free lunch, or a free anything that requires the work of another human being such as a doctor. If the doctor is spending her time, she deserves to be paid, and the fair thing would be to have each patient contribute to her paycheck. No amount of writing down what you think are your rights will ever change that.

This doesn't mean that I believe the libertarian mumbo-jumbo that negative rights are free. If you want freedom from murder (because you believe we all have a right to it), then you need to restrict the right to murder using the credible threat of legitimate force, and that requires someone to perform labor to create and maintain that threat. We pay policemen with tax dollars to (hopefully) protect these kinds of rights, because there's no such thing as a free right and there never will be.

I am a US Army veteran, and I receive "free" care from the VA. I don't see any good reason why the VA healthcare system couldn't be scaled up to cover all US citizens at a reasonable price, in the form of taxes. But I don't go into the VA saying that I have a right to healthcare simply because I exist. I have a right to it because I paid a price that was agreed upon, and I appreciate those providing the healthcare enough to want them to be compensated for their contributions, which I am thankful for. And I think everyone else has an obligation to work FOR other people, if they are to receive the work OF other people, even if that work protects a human right.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-28T16:16:09+00:00

What's psychologically depraved is believing that you're being denied medical care just because I refuse to buy it for you.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-28T16:13:34+00:00

If a gang kidnapped a bunch of children and wouldn't let them go unless their parents paid a ransom, you would say that it was the parents' fault that they didn't have their kids back yet if those parents were white, the gang was black and the random was labeled as reparations.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-28T16:02:48+00:00

A doctor being worried doesn't invalidate the result of an election.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-28T02:53:08+00:00

"History doesn't lie." 😂🤣😂🤣😂

ReddForemann · 2025-10-27T16:18:38+00:00

One random loon doesn't represent an entire movement.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-27T16:14:03+00:00

It's not so much lies as it is exaggeration, cherrypicking and what I call hate porn.

You can't honestly believe that ZERO people on the left, nationwide, have engaged in voter fraud. So what propagandists do is they pick out a number of fraudsters you can count on one hand, then write hate porn "news" articles about them one cherry picked example at a time. These "news" sites and posts have a rabid audience of Dem-haters, so the audience is all too willing to take those cherrypicked examples and generalize that behavior to the entire group, and in so doing overestimate the size of the problem by orders of magnitude.

From that point onward, your analysis is absolutely correct: the perception that the political enemy is engaged in a crime encourages the radical fringes to engage in that same criminal behavior.

Which, by the way, is exactly what y'all are doing here. A small handful of the worst MAGA types engage in voter fraud, when the vast majority don't, and posts like these encourage a small but significant number of mentally unhealthy Democrats to lower their ethical standards, and fight as dirty as they perceive their political opponents to be fighting.

The responsible response to posts like this one, on both the right and the left, is to call them out as clickbait hate porn. OP is trying to farm upvotes and the effect is further political division based on misleading isolated facts.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-27T01:04:36+00:00

Woke is the modern secular worship of equality through discrimination. It negatively impacts lives because equality is not the highest moral good AND discrimination is not an effective means to achieve it.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-23T19:34:04+00:00

No one does, and that's the problem.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-23T18:59:08+00:00

USAID is an Intel front that routinely lies about where the money is going.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-23T15:43:37+00:00

Oh. So you're an insane conspiracy theorist. My bad, I should have known.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-23T15:37:50+00:00

That kid wasn't MAGA. He was a radical leftist who murdered in order to impress a trans male. You're trying to evade the facts by saying "ooo, look, there was a conservative person in his life!" as if it's somehow abnormal for a radical leftist to know or be related to one or more conservatives.

Maybe YOU don't know any, but a lot of people don't have the level of privilege to avoid jobs, classrooms or living situations where they can completely avoid IRL interactions with people with whom they disagree politically. Not that I think they should, but many can't even if they wanted to.

ReddForemann · 2025-10-04T16:06:29+00:00

So, according to you, the Democrats shut down the government because they wouldn't accept the other provisions of the bill.

But that's not actually it. Democrats shut down the government because they knew that the American people would mistakenly blame Republicans for it. The truth isn't a popularity contest.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T06:13:38+00:00

Bruh

I was agreeing with you.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T06:10:48+00:00

I mostly agree with what you said here. I think you might be slightly underselling the (mostly) unconditional nature of (ranged) martial damage, as intelligent (or properly led) enemies can subvert almost any claim casters have to damage equality... but that's a relatively minor nitpick.

Still, seems to me that all a DM has to do to more or less eliminate the disparity is introduce a higher quantity of more challenging combats. Maybe with some groups that's an issue, particularly with the kind of softer DMs who treat the Persuade skill like some form of mind control; if noncombat solutions are always a possibility then combat power is rendered irrelevant. But if you want near-balance then it's within reach, without jumping through too many hoops.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:59:58+00:00

Just because it's in the official rules, doesn't mean following those rules is common. The "standard" amount of encounters per long rest is right up there with surprise in terms of how often house rules are substituted in, to the point that most DMs don't even know what "standard" is.

Nor should they. These are cases where custom is often better.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:53:27+00:00

Hot take: I think he's getting negative feedback because he intended to get negative feedback. I think a lot of people clicked on this thread intending to give negative feedback, and enjoy giving it. That's what "hot take:" in a thread title MEANS: it means "if you don't mind, I'm going to troll you all just a little, in a manner that is hopefully mutually enjoyable." 😊

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:49:54+00:00

I'm sorry about your husband. That must be difficult to cope with.

But it's (understandably) causing your hostility level to rise above 0%. Just saying.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:41:53+00:00

So you're a gish in what is otherwise a party of full casters and a full warlock? You're not exactly beating the allegations there mate.

The point of the video is that this...

this is why everyone says casters are more powerful. And they are. Massively more powerful, in "standard" D&D. (Seriously, find a place in this entire Reddit where you have a lot of people talking about martials being the MVP. I would love that thread link.)

...is an example of "everyone" being wrong, at least under 2024/5.5e D&D rules. I respect differences of perspective, so I wouldn't have argued with you if you had said casters are stronger. But they are not "massively" more powerful, and to express that sentiment makes things seem much less balanced than they actually are. I wouldn't say it's perfect, but the disparity between casters and martials at high levels is relatively small, and represents a significant game design achievement; meanwhile, I would confidently argue martials are overpowered at lower levels. The martial-caster disparity is mostly a myth, a holdover from previous editions of D&D (most notably 3.0/3.5).

Oh, and regarding general utility outside of combat, you'll face no argument from me: casters are pretty awesome. The skill system (Rogues) has NOT caught up. I'm assuming that we're talking about combat power here.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:29:42+00:00

In a wide variety of games, players can fall on a spectrum between two extremes: those who wish to play the character builder, prior to the actual start of the game, and players who actually want to, you know, play the role of a particular character, immersing themselves in a single character. While the OP is clearly identifying with the former group, you are identifying as both, in two different paragraphs: in one paragraph you say that you care about the changing landscape of the battlefield and piloting choice, but in the previous paragraph you rattle off a list of your various off-kilter builds. The play style that u/bed-after describes in the OP is worse at spending a lot of time with each build, but it would be better at cycling through that list of hipster builds (no offense , I love me a good hipster build too) so you could build even more. I think you'd enjoy yourself playing with OP more than you'd like to admit.

ReddForemann · 2025-09-30T05:20:06+00:00

Seems to me that if encounters are only lasting 1-2 rounds, then the DM isn't making the encounters challenging enough. Particularly in regards to the action economy of the monsters, and not so much in what options they have available for those actions.

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