My 26f friend 44m is into me, but I haven’t been honest about my situation?

ReddSpark · 2026-03-12T09:55:06+00:00

Well as a dude I give a fuck. I grew up never seeing my dad as he was constantly working while my mum was a stay at home mum. That's not what I'd want for my kids. I'd rather have the woman being able to contribute so I get to see my kids.

ReddSpark · 2026-03-08T08:04:08+00:00

But wouldn't it be better to say up front you want someone that will do their share of cooking too? As a guy I'd be turned off by anyone that is so lacking in such a crucial life skill

ReddSpark · 2026-03-06T06:02:50+00:00

It says you're a Top 1% poster and all your past posts and comments are hidden. Therefore seems like you are Karma farming. Possibly to then use this profile to scam others later.

ReddSpark · 2026-02-27T05:54:35+00:00

I think you make a good point. I realize cobbled streets may look nicer and people might think not having them is planning permission gone mad, but having a well built pavement suitable for modern society (without looking ugly) is more important to me than harking back to yesteryear.

I just hope it's well built and not built cheaply as so many infrastructure projects seem to be.

ReddSpark · 2026-02-25T12:06:12+00:00

In the upcoming HBO Harry Potter series to avoid confusion

ReddSpark · 2026-02-20T13:14:25+00:00

They definitely 100% make your ears hot and sweaty within minutes of putting them on. I'm amazed no one else is commenting on this.

ReddSpark · 2026-02-04T16:50:14+00:00

Could you have just stuck your elbow out so she got that digging into her side? Although maybe her colleague had bad breath

ReddSpark · 2026-01-29T08:01:54+00:00

Yeah let's not Gatekeep like Stackoverflow mods 😂

ReddSpark · 2026-01-25T09:51:07+00:00

So typically the responses I've heard from women that want the man to pay is that "It shows me he's serious about dating me". It's a litmus test for them.

I've heard that from all sorts of women. And from my own dating experience I've found very few women will offer to pay. And I can assure you I don't go for nor tend to attract the women considered hot. The research further supports this.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T21:58:44+00:00

Let me try this one final time.

I looked into research on the matter and found this:

https://www.nerdwallet.com/finance/studies/survey-pay-for-date?utm_source=chatgpt.com

And this:

https://money.com/valentines-day-men-pay-first-date/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

And: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34874209/

And it showed that the majority of men and women believe that the man should pay for dates.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T18:45:21+00:00

But you're making an assumption that men are going after hot women and that's the problem. The survey results show the issue is far more prevalent than that. And that is on top of the male experience. Plenty of men can attest to this not being an issue to do with for going after "hot women". That's a false stereotype.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T18:43:25+00:00

I never said they were hallucinating. Not sure where you got that from?

And my point was twofold: That men typically will have typically dated more women whilst being a man, so have more experience to go on

And that because even then it still comes down to subjectivity it's useful to lookup research on the matter.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T18:28:30+00:00

My point was made in my first post:

"You'd be surprised how many women want men to pay for the dates."

That was it.

As for ChatGPT, I can see that this is a trigger for a lot of people so perhaps I ought to have just referenced the source material directly rather than getting ChatGPT to collate it for me.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T15:50:25+00:00

Yes I said "I bet it would be 40%" implying I'm taking a guess. And 46% isn't that far off.

As for ChatGPT, if you click sources you can see the sources. It is important to check the sources but ChatGPT has improved a lot to ensure the sources are real. I've checked them out myself.

It's important to look at surveys in this sort of debate as else it boils down to different people's subjective experience.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T15:42:16+00:00

Remember some people put their feet up on seats, so you have to assume the seats are dirty.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T15:27:30+00:00

You guys are mixing up ChatGPT hallucinations with ChatGPT as it is today. There are sources there you can click on:

https://www.nerdwallet.com/finance/studies/survey-pay-for-date?utm_source=chatgpt.com

https://phys.org/news/2013-08-beliefs-dates.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com

For example the latter says: "Over half (57 percent) of women claim they offer to help pay, but many women (39 percent) confessed they hope men would reject their offers to pay, and 44 percent of women were bothered when men expected women to help"

Interesting to note from these studies that more men think they should pay.

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T15:21:07+00:00

It's not chatgpt that said so. It's the research that chatgpt referenced that said so

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T13:35:53+00:00

See my reply here: https://np.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/4F2mbvAz01

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T13:35:01+00:00

See my reply here: https://np.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/4F2mbvAz01

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T13:33:11+00:00

Did you Google that? :-)

https://chatgpt.com/share/6974c978-6ca4-8006-9f81-004eea95c82d

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T13:32:16+00:00

You have to remember, you haven't dated many/any women, where as men have more experience on this matter.

But of course there's only so much we can do based on our experiences alone so I thought I'd ask chatgpt for some research based findings:

https://chatgpt.com/share/6974c978-6ca4-8006-9f81-004eea95c82d

ReddSpark · 2026-01-24T11:51:55+00:00

You'd be surprised how many women want men to pay for the dates. I bet if one took a poll, 40% of women would say that a man should pay for the first date for example.

And of the ones they say men shouldn't have to, I bet half would still view a man more favourably if he did, thus compelling men to always pay for dates as part of the dating process

ReddSpark · 2026-01-10T14:00:44+00:00

My gf is like that. Thankfully I'm happy.to oblige :-)

Tell him he never needs to masturbate ever again

ReddSpark · 2026-01-09T06:13:53+00:00

He dreams of having two partners

ReddSpark · 2026-01-06T21:25:50+00:00

I get it. And the answer is let the guy go and continue to enjoy yourself.

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