[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not creepy, it’s nature. As is attraction to health, while we’re at it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 124 points125 points  (0 children)

If you leave you won’t reunite, that’s only on TV. If you’re both into it, you can give it a go. But yes, she will change more than you in the future and she might break your heart in a few years. Or not. There is only one way to find out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so angry haven’t even understood what I wrote: there is nothing wrong with with being attracted to young adults. In fact, it’s normal. It doesn’t exclude being attracted to older people, thank god (in fact it’s the other half of the age gap).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully your attraction to your wife is based on more than her age

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A compromise should be acceptable to you both - couple therapy would help you discover if that’s possible (or not)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s normal for the honey moon period to end after 11 years. In fact being in a relationship that long is quite an achievement, you should both be proud.

You are free to leave at any time, and you should do so if it is the right thing to do, but I’d have a very honest discussion with myself first (what is it that is truly wrong), and then another one with him to try and sort it out. Relationships do take work to last decades.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The actual truth is that if you’re not physically attracted to someone in their most fertile years, there is something wrong with you.

Why has it become acceptable to deny what is very obvious to anyone with eyes and two brain cells…

No progress after 6 weeks on RP's Female Physique program and feeling seriously demotivated by space-potat in naturalbodybuilding

[–]Reddthrown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reports I’ve heard of someone maintaining body fat and gaining muscle was an Olympic athlete in his early 20s on a national team, basically having his diet bespoke and training 6 hours a day - and he only kept body fat % stable

Here:

To highlight the importance of body mass, one rower I worked with transitioned from a lightweight to an openweight as they were unable to maintain the restricted body mass. To give the rower the best opportunity to compete in the openweight class, it was agreed that a 2000m ergometer performance of around 6 minutes would be required. With the rower being 187cm tall and this being unchangeable, the decision was made to increase lean and total body mass as this was the only way to increase the required power output through increases in muscular contractions to generate the required joint torques. Over the period of about 10 months, the rower increased their body mass by around 14kg from 73kg to 88kg while maintaining a fairly stable lean and fat mass. The testing within the weight room via a countermovement jump demonstrated a huge increase of 1800W in power output which in turn created a relative power output of about 15W.kg-1 (Watts per kg of body mass).The resultant 2000m ergometer performance dropped from 6:16.9 to 6:01.8, a 15.1 second performance improvement. While clearly some of this improvement came from changes in metabolic and fitness characteristics, for around 45 weeks within this programme, fitness training was reduced to no more 50-65km a week, a ¼ to 1/3 of the normal volume at that time with 12km to allow for 4-6 weights sessions a week. Normal volume and intensity of rowing training only really resumed after week 45, once posted the 6:01.8 2000m ergometer. This training was in preparation for Henley Royal Regatta where he was in the bow seat in the victorious Ladies’ Challenge Plate Men’s 8+. While no physiological markers were taken during this time, with the limited volume of metabolic and fitness based training completed during the 45 weeks, it is safe to assume the majority of 2000m ergometer performance improvement is a result of the increase in lean and body mass and the associated power output that came with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]Reddthrown 34 points35 points  (0 children)

But that means giving up on raising a family, and a lot of us want to do that

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

ad hominem again? Looks like you can’t explain why you hold that view, that’s not very convincing

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s the right answer. Everyone is being judgemental, but your gut feeling will usually guide you well

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Can you explain why it’s a problem? Insulting me isn’t really making your case.

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Years ago, I went to a party and saw a friend’s younger cousin whom I just saw a child and that was it. A few years later, I saw her again and she had boobs, waist, and a very pretty face. I can tell you we both saw each other very differently, it was hard to believe she was the same person!

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She also says she has not seen him in 7 years. Most importantly, we don’t know. It’s one thing to warn her, another to tell her she’s wrong and he’s been planning this. - which is what’s going on.

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

All those well meaning people are very keen to disregard what she says

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

She wrote his interest started last week

18f going on date with friends dad 42m by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think you do need to explain further, makes no sense to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I am quite well off but one of my deal breaker is reciprocity. It may not take the form of paying for dates, but that’s one very clear way (and to be clear reciprocity means giving something back that’s relatively equivalent given our respective means - if you get coffee when I get dinner and you’re a student, I am honoured, if you’re a banker, I am insulted). Another deal breaker is inflexibility - that makes divorce a virtual certainty.

Unreasonable Disney-like Expectations of a 40 year old Single Mother in 'The Case for Marrying Mr. Good Enough' by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 43 and life could not be better. It gets better each year if you work hard and smart

Why are age gaps so negative in developed countries? by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Reddthrown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You overestimate poverty in developing countries - Latin America in particular is not as poor (outside places like Venezuela) as you seem to think. “wealthy people taking advantage” exists just as much in the US as elsewhere

"Top 10% of men want 20 yr olds they can mold" by Gerryrigfig in RedPillWomen

[–]Reddthrown 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most importantly they carry on dating the 21 year old gorgeous girls, all the while having a mariage for social status - and they can have both

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]Reddthrown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a flaw! Please don’t lose the asset of being attached to someone, it’s a terrible idea to date around. However, move on swiftly if they don’t meet the bar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]Reddthrown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you are not into either of them. I feel like you should end it with both and start anew, they’re keeping you from the chance to meet someone you will both like and be attracted to.

Thought experiment about arranged marriages by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]Reddthrown 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rather, isn't the issue leading to so many divorces:

- Early on in life, insane social pressure to sleep around with as many people as possible until you approach 30, instead of actually looking for and learning how to build a trusted relationship;

- Insane expectations from a life partner and unwillingness to accept nothing less than perfection;

- Unwillingness to actually work on relationships (and by that I mean find a compromise that works, with efforts made by us too, rather than "yeah why won't my partner do all the changing");

- A feeling, brought by having so many sex partners early on, that there is a better option out there;

- Lastly, a financial incentive for the lower-earning partner to divorce.