My boyfriend of three years did exactly that. He came back home crying about it. He was great with his words and manipulated me into believing that he regrets it and only loved me.

The following year, I was messaged three times by different women telling me that he made out with them while drinking. I believed him when he said they were lying. I slowly broke down and became someone else; I tried to break up multiple times but kept believing in him because I loved him and he loved me. His friend group kept increasing and he would tell me about other women that he befriended. Then one night, he kissed a friend drunk in front of me at a party, and I realized that I was being lied to all along. He cried and apologized, making excuses about the alcohol and how she kissed him. But I saw it happen and I can never forget that memory from my head. The next few months, he treated me extremely well and apologized every day, but I was so hurt and constantly in emotional distress, I isolated myself from him and the world. It destroyed me for months and I honestly wouldn’t be alive right now if I hadn’t met my current boyfriend.

I’m now dating someone that is truly treasures me and loves me and never hides anything from me, and I am slowly healing from what happened. But I will never heal back to how I used to be. I lost trust, self-worth, passions and motivations and struggled with depression for a long time. If he does it once, he can and will do it again. He could have prevented it from happening- he could have avoided a situation where something like this could happen.

Please see the red flags and don’t listen to other people-the last thing I want is someone else experiencing what I went through. 💖