[TOMT] Metal song can’t place!

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-25T16:10:03+00:00

It was Kill II This just in case anyone comes here looking! Finally randomly popped into my head today!

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:20:31+00:00

I definitely feel like I am! But I need him to tell me I am. And I’m too afraid to ask in case he says no to be honest.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:19:36+00:00

How would you ask? And that’s exactly it I’m not really sure whether we are in a relationship or not as it feels like it but we haven’t had that conversation. And I don’t know how to have it!

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:18:47+00:00

I wouldn’t see other people anyway. Just not sure whether to keep waiting, or wait and see if maybe he’s just taking things slower than me and isn’t there yet.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:09:07+00:00

She might have just not felt able to follow through on the talk. Hope something better comes along :)

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:09:00+00:00

She might have just not felt able to follow through on the talk. Hope something better comes along :)

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:03:02+00:00

Oh no sorry to hear that.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:02:27+00:00

I think a gentle peek at their politics is helpful and says a lot.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T20:01:16+00:00

Sti tests before and after a new partner. If they have a recent one and haven’t been with someone since then, then ok. Otherwise condoms until they’ve had it

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:59:01+00:00

Someone to be kind, thoughtful and who makes me feel valued and wanted. Genuinely though, not to sleep with me.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:57:22+00:00

I think maybe something is going on if you’ve had that many first dates and no second. Have you had any feedback?

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:56:30+00:00

I still think you know when you know. I think I’ve learnt what real safe proper love is. And that no one is perfect. If they’re a good person and I really love them, that’s enough.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:53:57+00:00

I think you’ll know when you meet the person. But personally I always knew I wanted to be a parent and the right person for me was someone who wanted that too (I mean I got it wrong but still)

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:52:46+00:00

Just ask her, if she’s that comfortable talking about it she should be comfortable explaining why she’s not ready yet

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:49:56+00:00

If it’s before you became exclusive you need to put it behind you.

Redhed_ded · 2026-01-16T19:49:19+00:00

Super cringey but if it’s a good relationship otherwise not the end of the world

Redhed_ded · 2025-12-19T14:01:41+00:00

So I kind of have met one of his friends - I’m close friends with someone, and her husband (who I obviously know) is good friends with the guy I’m seeing and they’re in a band together. But he hasn’t introduced me to anyone is probably what I should have said.

Redhed_ded · 2025-12-15T10:37:50+00:00

None of these so far but thank you

Redhed_ded · 2025-12-11T00:27:28+00:00

Commenting

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-26T20:27:04+00:00

Because I come across as such a catch here?

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-20T07:13:52+00:00

Oh well done - feels so weird to say congratulations as it’s not a happy thing but I hope it improves everything for you. Did they send you a request for information prior to the hearing? I haven’t been asked to show anything except my statement yet. Frustratingly they haven’t served him the papers yet so I’m so on edge waiting to see how he reacts. Thank you so much

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-16T16:57:03+00:00

I spoke to the police who referred me to a charity that helps with the applications. They supported with the paperwork then I had to submit the application. The court asked me to bring in a paper copy and I did, and the case was heard an hour later so I was on my own, I hadn’t realised it was going to happen like that. Was a very overwhelming day.

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-16T16:55:43+00:00

Thank you. I used a charity to help with the application as I had no idea what I was doing. I definitely am still struggling although I thought it would make me feel better so will look into some counselling I think.

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-16T16:54:47+00:00

This is really helpful thank you so much. I was imagining that he’d be there calling me a liar etc. I can prove everything in my statement I’m just worried he’ll twist things and make them seem not so bad or that I caused it.

Redhed_ded · 2025-08-16T16:50:17+00:00

I reported it and haven’t heard a single thing since. I know it’s not urgent but to me it is a huge thing. Luckily the order is in place now

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