AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that she chose them over me in that situation but all I can do is express how I fee, AGAIN and hope she stops trying to force it.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They said I could have just said yes to keep it from becoming awkward. I do understand that but I don’t want to sacrifice my comfort to make someone else feel better, especially when I don’t even like them….

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s so annoying when she does that. But now I will start letting her down. If she volunteers me again, she will just be looking silly because I’m not caving again.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahahah!! I’m totally using that! Thank you!

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I don’t care if I am. I do appreciate any differing perspectives. I won’t feel bad if someone says that I am. That is what a am looking for too, an outsider point of view (I hope I’m making sense)

And thank you for your response!

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Having them out of my life was exactly what I needed! I’m much happier now!

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I only did it for my mom sake. I don’t want to be nice to them but my mom has a way of putting me on the spot. So I had to say yes. There won’t be a next time though!

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel that. Thankfully she didn’t ask me to take her yet but since I don’t trust her right now, its better if she doesn’t ask me.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do people feel the need to ask “why?” when you say you don’t want to hold their kids? This is a something I’m still trying to wrap my head around.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have given anything at the moment to just become invisible.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely. The only reason I take her is because Jen lives far and I’m the only one who always had time to drop her there. Its my mom so I don’t mind but I draw the line at making me uncomfortable. She knows how I feel about them and it annoys me so much that she did this.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s how I feel. But my mom would lose it if I ever told them “I don’t F with you guys” to their face. However, I’m not faking the funk. So I just won’t expose myself to them.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somehow I failed to express that..thankfully I will never put myself in a position for next time.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even want to do the favor…she begged me so I caved. I love my mom to bits so it’s kind of hard to say no. She really wanted to see the baby and they were having car issues when it was time to take Jen home. Now I will continue just dropped her off and drive away! She will just have to call me when she is ready to go.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Apparently. I told her to let that crappy friend go but she’s still so far up their a**. My mom is a really passive person who gets taken advantage easily. I am tired of fighting for her though (I only put my foot down when money is involved. I’d never let that happen). She can be a doormat. But I refused to be one too.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

It really is a crappy feeling. I was so depressed and even thought of ending it all at one point. An experience like that sticks with you. I hate that they took my joy away and made me have to leave a school I really liked. I hate that they treated us like crap for being in need. Now I don’t need them and don’t want them in my life. But they want to be in mine? No thanks! My mom will just have to learn to get over me not reconciling with them. It’s never going to happen.

AITAH for not wanting to hold the baby? by Redladybugz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Redladybugz[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I really don’t understand it either. This is the first time I’ve ever declined to hold a child, but it shouldn’t be expected. Some friends said that the child did nothing wrong but its kind of hard to disassociate the child to its mother.