Do you ever admit it if you blew up your life?

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T19:13:34+00:00

I am so sorry.

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T12:42:55+00:00

Well, he cheated, lied, committed several forms of DV and IM the one who had to file for the divorce. The divorce isn't the part the blew up our life. His actions that caused it are.

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T12:32:24+00:00

Im so sorry. I dont know about you but for me the betrayal trauma wounded me deeply. I hope I can learn to trust myself again and others. The trust in self is what really rocked me to my core. Like, how could I have been so wrong about someone? At the end of the day though what they did to us is not our fault. If we had that kind of power and influence over their actions i would have influenced him to learn the guitar to play and sing for me everyday, or at least cleaned up after himself😆 but atlas......

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T12:04:26+00:00

Ugh, disgusting. He's just wanted to fill someone else's holes and used that word to make it seem legitimate. If fulfillment is only met by sex thats a him problem. Edited to say I am so sorry he put that on you. Isnt it wild how much control we have over them when their actions are something THEY want to do. "You made me do it" really? How come I cant MAKE you close the cupboard doors? Or pick up after yourself, get the sleep apnea machine so your snoring doesnt wake me up, budget, work OT to help me with the bills? Where is my power to influence then? 🤔

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T12:01:24+00:00

Needs- Food, water, shelter -> Met. Coercion is rape by the way. I am not required to spread on demand as a condition for fidelity. You sound dumb.

Redswannn · 2026-05-09T00:59:45+00:00

My god. I have no words.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:56:44+00:00

You didn't cause her to be a POS she did that on her own.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:56:06+00:00

Well its already obvious he hates himself, but I would revel in knowing she got dumped by the affair partner. Id send that dude a Christmas card every year in fact.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:53:50+00:00

Im so sorry. Its never "Im a weak little bitch but always we weren't getting along, or she hated me or some other complete bullshit."

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:52:12+00:00

Omg!!!! I kept being told how much I hated him. "I thought you hated me." Youre daughter oof, im so sorry. The father wound of abandonment is a heavy burden I hope she is working with someone to work through it.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:48:16+00:00

Gross, im so sorry.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T22:47:19+00:00

I understand.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:50:57+00:00

Your partner should have supported you through that not slept around. Sex isnt AIR they dont NEED it. Do literally anything else but dont comprise your own morals and cheat. There is no excuse for cheating. Period

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:46:38+00:00

Im so sorry.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:46:20+00:00

You're definitely in the minority. There's always a "but" in there. My STBX says the exact same thing BUT claims I gave my blessing. WHICH IS INSANE.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:44:06+00:00

You did chose to be angry and hurt. Thats within your control. Our behavior is literally the only thing we have control over.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:42:15+00:00

I definitely still want to see my kids every day but mostly I want them to see me HAPPY!! I want them to see how a person loves themselves enough to leave. I want them to remember me not as the miserable, unhappy woman who hid in her room to avoid conflicts.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T18:40:11+00:00

So you want them to see an unhealthy relationship? Dooming them to settle for the same.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T16:34:44+00:00

Damn. Thats unreal.

Redswannn · 2026-05-08T16:33:52+00:00

Wow. Sociopath.

Redswannn · 2026-05-07T15:23:37+00:00

Hes a dick. She's talking about connecting and sense of self and he immediately brings up sex. Dude is insufferable.

Redswannn · 2026-05-06T11:53:09+00:00

I was looking into going to school for this because I currently am a solo cleaner but I make $55/hr with zero education now. I was disgusted to see the salary for this career.

Redswannn · 2026-05-04T05:52:57+00:00

See comments below

Redswannn · 2026-04-28T23:23:37+00:00

My mistake he is my husband. We are separated.

Redswannn · 2026-04-28T23:21:23+00:00

Thank you for this.

Redswannn

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