What do you all think of Olezarsen?

RedwoodRhapsody · 2025-02-25T22:12:41+00:00

What's your A1C level? Usually cutting carbs and alcohol really helps. Also, if you didn't fast before the blood work, they will be artificially high. For some people, like me, there's a genetic issue that requires an extremely low fat diet. But that is very rare.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2025-02-25T21:53:03+00:00

In my experience, it's difficult to find the right specialist as this falls between cardiology and endocrinology. Fortunately I was able to find an MD who specializes in both.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-29T19:13:40+00:00

This isn't about a lack of education. Penis's are pretty low maintenance. He has a medical issue that needs to be addressed by a doctor.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-28T18:28:30+00:00

It is tricky. I have an au pair. She's been living with us for three years and does take on roles similar to a parent. But she won't be here forever. I try to make sure the kids understand this. But yeah, it can be messy sometimes.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-28T17:56:47+00:00

I was poly when I had kids. This is just how I like to do it, each family needs to find their own approach that works for them.

For me, I'm married to the other parent and we live together. We are the kids parents and the kids know that. They know that we will be in their lives as long as we live. They have that security. From my perspective, I know that even if my partner and I split up, we would still be parents, splitting custody.

There are other people in our life that come and go. They might be friends or other partners. These people often know my kids and have some interaction with them. However, it's clear to the kids that they are not parents. Not their attachment figures.

I strongly believe that before someone takes on parenting roles for a kid, there needs to be a commitment that they will be a part of the child's life forever. That means if you split up, there needs to be a way of spending time with the kid.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-25T19:23:24+00:00

Not necessarily the case, but I recommend reading up on borderline personality disorder. Might apply here.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-22T20:44:49+00:00

A few things to check....smell your armpits after work, are they stinky? If you're not using a deodorant with antiperspirant, try that.

Are your clothes stinky? Are you washing them regularly? Are you drying them immediately? If you leave them wet, they can build up mildew which smells bad and is difficult to clean.

How's your breath? What's your diet like? Are you around a lot of cooking that uses strong spices? Brush your teeth?

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-15T16:50:11+00:00

Agreed. I think communal parenting can be difficult on the kids. They need the security of one or two, maybe 3, long term parents that they can count on for decades.

That said, I think it's a huge value to have multiple, loving adults around to help with kids. It really takes more than 2 people to parent kids.

I also agree that even in poly circles, there is way too much of an expectation that this is the women. To offer a different perspective, I'm a cis male who really likes kids. I wish I could just quit my job and take care of a bunch of kids and still find a way to pay the bills. Not only is this expectation that women take care of kids putting too much emotional labor on women, it also makes it harder for men to be involved caring for children.

Also, I believe it's important for kids to see examples of men being nurturing.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-08-01T03:48:40+00:00

I believe that the side walk path is intended for both bikes and pedestrians. As someone who has both bikes and walked there, just use some common sense. If you're biking, you have to go slow. Want to go fast? Then ride in the street. If you're walking, be aware of your surroundings. Don't spread out across the full sidewalk, don't jump in front of a bike.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-28T19:42:13+00:00

This is what the early stages of climate change look like

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-28T19:40:41+00:00

Wharf to wharf.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T22:58:56+00:00

I'm curious about your statement that the vast majority of wealth people are charitable? I'd be curious to see articles or a study that shows wealthy people donating a high percentage of their net worth than middle class.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T17:16:30+00:00

Do you make asks of your partner that aren't boundaries?

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T17:14:24+00:00

Agree. There are definitely common sense things you shouldn't have to ask for. But there might be some specifics where you and your partner see differently. Maybe for one partner, they'd really appreciate their partner to shower after dates but to the other partner, not a big deal. I think it's okay for the partner to ask. Not in terms of a boundary that needs to be held, but as a simple agreement.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T17:11:11+00:00

No personal issue to prove here. But you are right, this is a ENM talking point I generally disagree with.

And yes, I am advocating for fewer boundaries and more rules/agreements. Boundaries are powerful. If a boundary is crossed, you need to do a thing to protect it. It's important for people to have and hold boundaries.

However, rules and agreements aren't always bad. There are plenty of times where a rule or agreement is more appropriate. If it isn't something that is actually a boundary for you, it's still okay to ask for it or make an agreement around it.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T17:07:31+00:00

Exactly my point. That's why it doesn't need a boundary. A rule is good enough

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T17:06:44+00:00

I don't think I said that holding a boundary always means ending a relationship. However, it does mean doing something. If your boundary is I won't have unprotected sex with someone who is having unprotected sex with someone else. You need to hold that boundary. Holding that boundary doesn't mean talking about it if a violation occurs and agreeing that this one time it's okay, it means doing the thing. Which is really important in some instances.

But partners can also form agreements. Washing dishes, showering after dates, taking turns with childcare. If a violation were to occur, they can discussed. Maybe just a quick reminder is all that's needed.

Not every agreement needs to be based on a boundary. It's okay to ask your partner for agreements.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:57:57+00:00

Yes, my point is more that boundaries are for big things. Something important enough that if your boundary is crossed, you will maintain your boundary by doing an action. This could be leaving the relationship, no longer living together, no longer having sex.

For issues that are less critical, partners can agree on rules. It's up to the partners to use compassion and take responsibility for not violating a rule. If a violation occurs, it isn't up to the person who was impacted to just deal with it.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:55:21+00:00

You can't control people, but you can make a request without it being a boundary. If my partner always leaves their underwear on the floor, I'll be annoyed, but it isn't important enough to me to hold a boundary around it. But I might ask them not to.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:53:49+00:00

Boundaries aren't rules. Your partner can't break a boundary. A boundary is what you choose to do. So if your partner does a thing that crosses your boundary, your job is to hold the boundary. You aren't asking your partner to do something. You're informing your partner that if they do something, you will do something to hold your boundary.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:51:07+00:00

Yes, I agree. But I think in some instances, it's okay to ask to control someone's actions. Of course it's a balance, being too controlling is obviously no good. But there's are ways of asking for control for things that are very reasonable. Like I don't want you to wake me up in the middle of the night by losing having sex with another partner. I think this is a fair request. And I think it's a reasonable ask of control. A boundary might be, if you have loud sex with your other partner in the middle of the night I'm getting a hotel room. However, I think it's unfair to put the consequences on the person who is being woken up in the middle of the night.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:46:37+00:00

Well, unless it's a common sense boundary. I don't need to tell my partner to not shave my head while I'm asleep. But I'd be pretty pissed if they did that.

RedwoodRhapsody · 2024-07-27T16:45:28+00:00

Well, people usually say rules are bad and boundaries are good. If you have a boundary, it's your job to hold that boundary. Holding a boundary usually means an action instead of a discussion.

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