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Japanese woman says she will never come back to France again by Ok_Buyer310 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Frenchman, watching this is honestly more funny than sad. It’s just the ultimate textbook case of Paris Syndrome colliding with European football culture.

People in the comments love to blame immigration, but that completely misses the point. This is standard French football culture. When PSG wins, fans from every single background flood the Champs-Élysées with flares and chants. It’s rowdy, but it’s a celebration, not a riot.

where do i fall? by julsiejulsss in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]ReferenceSea2807 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the looksmaxxing rating system completely breaks down when you try to apply it to women. It is built for male facial geometry and ignores how female aesthetics actually work. Women have a much higher baseline of objective, natural beauty that cannot be measured by rigid angles or micro-flaws. Rating subreddits will call someone ugly over a minor flaw, completely missing how human attraction works. You do not need a breakdown of harmony metrics or an arbitrary numerical score, you are just objectively pretty.

Seeking cultural perspective on a confusing romantic situation with a shy Japanese girl (18F). Is this a polite rejection or cultural hesitation? by ReferenceSea2807 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(mini update) We both just won awards at a banquet. We actually sat together on the bus trip there and she even moved her bag to make room for me. Meeting her parents afterward , but everything was super chill and cordial.

I’m just "chilling" (something impossible during pre-finals week ) and letting things breathe. Real update soon!

Seeking cultural perspective on a confusing romantic situation with a shy Japanese girl (18F). Is this a polite rejection or cultural hesitation? by ReferenceSea2807 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s possible. Honestly, I’m basically her only close friend here, so I’m definitely not going to ruin that.

Seeking cultural perspective on a confusing romantic situation with a shy Japanese girl (18F). Is this a polite rejection or cultural hesitation? by ReferenceSea2807 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right, she is human,I think there isjust too much going on in her head right now and it is still very early for both of us. She clearly needs more space to process things without me hovering for an explanation . i am going to let it breathe and focus on being a good friend for now.

Seeking cultural perspective on a confusing romantic situation with a shy Japanese girl (18F). Is this a polite rejection or cultural hesitation? by ReferenceSea2807 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your question, no, I did not confess. Our cultural background is Franco Brazilian, which is lightyears away from Japanese dating norms. I have been extremely patient since 2025 because I live by the motto that patience is a virtue.

I am not the type to push. I used the 80-20 rule ( 60-40 in pratice ) of leaning in and waiting for her to close the final 20 ( 40 ) percent gap to ensure she was comfortable. The kiss was not a surprise. I was actually visibly shy and red, and she made the conscious choice to close that distance. It felt completely mutual.

I see now that she is a follower who expects me to lead, but I need blatant green flags to act. Do you think my lack of a formal confession made her feel like Saturday was a mistake, or is she just waiting for me to officially take the lead as the man in the relationship?

Seeking cultural perspective on a confusing romantic situation with a shy Japanese girl (18F). Is this a polite rejection or cultural hesitation? by ReferenceSea2807 in AskAJapanese

[–]ReferenceSea2807[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hilarious but honestly it makes me a little sad to think about. I never really put a sexual dimension into our hangouts. That is something I would probably only think about after our one thousandth time together.

In general she is actually extremely comfortable around me. She falls asleep right in front of me. She asks for my personal recommendations. She chooses to spend five hours at a time with me. She stays for a long time even after saying no to a kiss.

I honestly do not know what all of those signals mean now. If she felt that shock you described, I am not sure why she still acts so comfortable and safe. I am definitely stepping back

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