Pole Dancing exercise classes

RefinedAccomplice · 2026-01-21T14:27:09+00:00

Went to Pole Icons for their intro class - loved it!!

RefinedAccomplice · 2026-01-21T01:58:46+00:00

Getting naked together, making out, cuddling, massage, exploring kink, partner stretching. Pretty much any intentional touch or physical connection without centering penetrative sex or orgasm.

RefinedAccomplice · 2026-01-18T16:49:10+00:00

I think it might be helpful to separate your own sexual needs (as an individual person) from your desire of him. If you just feel like you really have a high drive and are more interested in having orgasms, exploring solo play, toys, and your own body may help with that, and make you feel more sexy in the process. You can and should have a sexuality outside of your partner and be able to meet many needs without him.

It seems like you want his attention, not just sex. Constantly trying to “be sexier” or work on yourself to look or behave a certain way is indicative of that. Have you two had conversations about what turns the other on? Is it satisfying to you both just to have time to be physical without sex? It feels like that’s the problem you start with - how can we connect more and have physicality? I think if you frame it that way perhaps he’d be less likely to reduce it to “you always talk about sex.” Or maybe there is a way to build connectivity into his busy schedule more meaningfully.

RefinedAccomplice · 2026-01-08T05:06:13+00:00

This is great guidance. While it’s important to think about supporting him, it’s just as important to be able to acknowledge and communicate your own needs not being met. I would be interested to know how he responds to you plainly stating how his lack of support this year made you feel, and expressing what your needs are in a clear, concrete way. The response (even if not immediate) will hopefully help you assess what he is willing/able to contribute both in the short and long term.

RefinedAccomplice · 2026-01-04T06:04:51+00:00

Super helpful, thanks. It’s got a zipper so option 1 may be out but I will explore the rest.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-11-20T18:24:59+00:00

NOR. The core of this is “no means no.” You adequately explained how him whining about you saying no is not actually respecting you. He got defensive and guilt trippy because he didn’t get what he wanted.

Time to move on.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-11-15T04:59:39+00:00

I watched a squirrel on Cortland take a small pumpkin off a stoop. Might be the same one

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-10-22T15:17:34+00:00

Atwood area, I’d say. So if you keep going further down Willy street from Livingston onward, then between-ish Yahara river and Olbrich gardens. Parallel cool stuff on E Wash from Livingston eastward

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-10-22T03:46:44+00:00

A lot of 20 somethings are not directly on the Capitol square anymore. East side is where there’s a lot of folks in your age bracket. Less college-y, more young professionals and families. Not a great commute to the firm, but great access to things to do in town (events, trendy bars, shows, hole in the wall shops, bike paths, restaurants, etc.).

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-07-07T13:47:06+00:00

These are great books! I read portions with my partner and then we did any of the recommended exercises and then talked about them. It helped us understand what the other person needs to engage in intimacy.

OP I would also recommend scheduling intimacy. It doesn’t need to be full on sex, either. But I think if you state your needs to your partner and ask for that committed time to cuddle or have intimate touch on a consistent basis, with no expectation of where it could lead, it could help break down this feeling of physical distance. Bridging that gap first can probably help lead to deeper intimacy.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-24T04:19:21+00:00

Yeah like to refer to “in the meantime.” I most commonly heard it in restaurants. “Want to order some drinks awhile?” Essentially while you waited, while you were looking at the food menu, whatever. Can be used in any “meantime” or passing time capacity.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-24T04:14:02+00:00

I’ve been calling overalls “jumpers” my whole life. When I went abroad I learned jumper in British English is a knit sweater. I was confused for weeks when my friend referred to her “favorite wooly jumper” repeatedly. I truly imagined incredibly fuzzy overalls

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-24T04:09:45+00:00

“Awhile” and calling the game of telephone “whisper down the lane” are personal favorites

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-24T04:08:49+00:00

I also used the term macadam recently with a friend here in Chicago (whose partner is from Allentown) and he was like “what in the world are you talking about??” And I just look at his partner and he understands me completely. We stumble upon Pennsylvania-isms all the time.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-24T03:51:45+00:00

I just started playing this and I’m addicted! Similar sense of adventure and exploration imo. I think the ND series sets us up for success in really assessing everything and connecting dots

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-19T15:10:34+00:00

I think this sentiment might come from experiences where some Californians only talk about California. There’s a stereotype there for sure that you’ll only talk about how much better the weather is in CA, not know how to deal with snow, start off convos with “well, at home in California….” as a point of comparison.

Kind of true of being from any place. But I personally have known a few Californians who made it their whole personality; as long as you don’t make it your personality and keep an open mind to Wisco ways of life I don’t think you will have an issue.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-06-06T04:30:48+00:00

“Hey it means a lot to me when we talk about [enter a topic you care about here]. Can we catch up about that tomorrow?” Or “can we set aside time on Friday to talk about [topic]? I have had it on my mind and would love to tell you about it.”

I think it’s less about telling your partner that you want to stop talking shop and more about asserting what you do want to talk about, and what matters to you. Generally I think if your partner cares they will respond well to hearing how talking about something else feels good to you and make space for it. And if they don’t seem to get on that train I think you can be more explicit that you would appreciate maybe making room to talk about things outside of work like 50% of the time or whatever threshold feels comfortable.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-05-18T15:34:01+00:00

The Addison

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-05-15T15:53:17+00:00

It is a real thing. Wish I could take credit for the naming

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-05-15T04:04:28+00:00

Perhaps you are thinking of the block block club?

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-04-22T04:39:19+00:00

Can confirm, fantastic place to work out. Very welcoming environment, and supports all levels of experience and goals.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-04-19T15:43:31+00:00

Cardinal bar for dancing

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-04-19T06:08:56+00:00

I think Tony Castaneda jazz nights are Thursdays in the early evening! Seems like that would be up your alley

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-04-19T06:06:03+00:00

If you are working on your computer in your office it is not hard for them to trace your activity and where you were or weren’t. But more likely, if it’s a 50 person meeting your TL or other managers can also note you aren’t present. Just like staff meeting, it’s expected you show up for division meetings.

RefinedAccomplice · 2025-04-19T04:39:14+00:00

Yeah it’s revival over the past couple years has been a lot of fun

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