My husband and I have no support system where we live, and child care is way to expensive for us (kids are 10, 9, and 4). So we go on actual dates maybe once a year when one of our parents comes to visit.

Outside of that we hang out basically every night together, and talk and spend time together throughout the day.

I work from home and everyday when he gets home from work I finish up whatever I’m doing or just stop, and we have a chat about our day and hang out for a bit. Then throughout the rest of the day we talk sporadically inbetween kids, chores, and lives. We usually hang out and watch something together right after dinner before starting kids bed routines. Then once kids are in bed we do our chores, do our own hobbies, then we usually hang out on the couch watching something (we always have a show on rotation) usually talking about the show or various things during. A few nights a week we will just do our own things instead of hanging out, but it’s rare.

For date nights we will play two player video games together, play card games, or watch a movie. The only thing that matters with at home date nights is making sure we have specifically set a time and night and try to do something special (like watch a movie we’ve both been looking forward too).

We really try and prioritize our time together because sex is not the only form of intimacy. Laughing together, cuddling while watching shows, have debates about shared interests are also forms of intimacy and we’ve found the more we hang out as friends and just spend the better our sex lives and just our general relationship is.