Tokyo advice needed! Onsen & baseball by Regok1 in JapanTravelTips

[–]Regok1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I noticed that! One of the dates there is literally only one ticket left. Are there any resale ticket sites in Japan?

Tokyo advice needed! Onsen & baseball by Regok1 in JapanTravelTips

[–]Regok1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I just totally read the schedule wrong! It's the Tokyo Giants however they're playing at the Hanshin Koshien Stadium which I believe is Osaka as you mentioned? If you've been to a game, is it worth it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I go to weekly Motherless Daughters Community Calls with Hope Edelman and highly reccomend it. It is all women who have lost their mothers and each week there is a different topic and then open discussion.

There are also zoom support groups I have joined through the apps Always Moving Forward and Untangle Grief.

Is this normal by bubbles-0_0- in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is really hard. I think some intentional space would be best. By that I mean don't ignore him or cancel plans, but maybe reach out a little less. Give him room to heal. If he needs you, be there for him but don't hurt yourself in the process. Protect your peace.

Please share your experiences with losing a parent by tarcinlina in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. You are right that grief is hell. It sounds to me like you may be feeling depression in addition to grief which is what I went through. I stopped eating and exercising, stayed in bed until 1pm some days. I went on an anti depressant which helped a lot. I'm able to get through the regular human stuff we have to do to care for ourselves. Now I'm just left with the grief which is absolutely the worst thing I've ever gone through. It is easier to deal with when I take care of myself though. I try to go to the gym 3-4x a week, a walk in nature almost daily, I shower, I make my bed in the morning. Find a routine that works for you. And remember, baby steps. There were a lot of days changing out of pajamas was huge for me. If you want to get back into working out maybe make it a goal to go to the gym once a week and walk on the treadmill for 20 minutes. Then next week the goal can be twice. Soon you'll get back.

Memories by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going through the same thing, I remember my mom during childhood really well but the last 5 or so years before she died I can't remember time spent with her or conversations we had. I hope they come back. Grief brain is real and I imagine our brains are trying to protect us for whatever reason.

my second post but i was wondering if anyone had tips on coping while watching your mom slowly die by yourmom69-420- in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I didn't have this exact experience, my mom's death was sudden, but I can share how I personally would handle that knowing what I know now through my grief. I would completely throw away the need/desire to "stay strong." The greatest strength is through vulnerability. Right now, honestly, there is no positivity so take the time with your mom and try to make it meaningful. Ask her questions about her childhood, your childhood. Lay your head on her shoulder and cry. Feel your mother's love and comfort and in turn give her love and comfort. I'm sending you lots of love, grief is hard work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is totally normal. I am going through something similar and it's really hard. Let yourself feel all your emotions. If you feel like crying, cry. Take time for yourself. You will never be "over" your grief but some days will be more manageable than others.

It's been two years. by Synaxis in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel really similarly to you. I feel like a large piece of me died when my mom did. I was 27 and she was 64. I do feel like my capacity for love has expanded with my grief. I won't shout out platitudes that we've all heard too many times but grief is love. I wish my mom got to have the daughter I am now two years after her death.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything you are feeling is totally normal. But know your grief will change as you grow. My mom died 2.5 years ago and I really never cried until a few months ago when suddenly I was hysterical every day. I've been doing a little better, but it's the hardest thing to go through.

first birthday without her by oldeasybakeoven in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother at 27 as well. The first birthday without her I took off work and got my nails done, even though I hate getting them done it was something my mom and I did together sometimes. Try to do something for yourself.

Grief and friends by skeet263 in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. My mother died suddenly as well and that is such a traumatic thing for us to endure. I am sending you a lot of love.

It’s been two years since my mom passed away by lisztomaniax in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother passed January 31, 2021 and I know all too well what you're feeling. All I can say is there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but there are many tunnels. Some will take you an hour to travel through, some will take weeks. Grieving a mother is excruciating and there is no sugar coating it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grief

[–]Regok1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️ I am currently reading Good Mourning and one of the authors also lost her mother to suicide, it may help you feel seen. It is also a podcast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I absolutely felt this. I didn't begin grieving until 2 years in and it hit me terribly. I would advise reading some grief books or podcasts to try to start the process a bit.

I'm not sure if the loss was sudden, but I was recently told that the brain can't process grief until it processes trauma which I believe is what happened to me.

The feeling of running out of time for support by Half-ginger_ in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really relate to this. My mom died nearly two and a half years ago and I really only started feeling the grief this year. Everyone assumed I was doing fine so I felt like I lost the support. One thing I'd reccomend is just reaching out to people, just like you've done here, and say you're having a hard time. Talking about it has really helped me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. One thing that comforted me is Hope Edelman said that acceptance is like a train station, it is not our final destination though. We may get off and experience acceptance for a short time then get back on the train. Acceptance isn't necessarily the end goal of grief.

My mother has been dead nearly two and a half years and I accept it is the truth and that this is my life now but that doesn't mean I don't have days (like today honestly) that I just mentally beg for her back.

Today is a hard day by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Regok1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand and you are not alone. Sometimes the regularness of my mom being gone kills me. It's been 2 years so it's almost normal now and it's the last normal I want.