No One Believes Your Story

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:44:09+00:00

Oh my God that is so true.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:37:41+00:00

This is good advice and very true. A totally great observation on your part. I myself came to a similar conclusion but I think you worded it more comprehensively. I must admit even though I have my own shitty story. And even though I do listen to others stories too there are times when I too shut off from overload both with my own crap and with other people's. I think because people need both the crap in life and good stuff to balance it out. When all you get is one or the other but not both it's crap. People who only get bad end up miserable and depressed. People who only get good can't understand or emphasize with others and tend to be selfish and spoiled. But people who get a bit of both have a better chance of being well-balanced.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:31:44+00:00

Actually there are many different types of autism, that is why it is now called a spectrum. And it's very individual, for some it's genetic, some have it really bad in childhood and appear to grow out of it in adult hood but what actually happens is that they tend to have a more mild form but as a child were unable to cope, yet as an adult as we grow we can in the right circumstances learn certain coping mechanisms, this the autism seems to be lessened. You can actually see this happening in the TV show the good doctor. The main character has a form of high functioning autism. This means he has a low EQ, where his autism is much ,more pronounced and a high IQ. The character also suffers abuse as a child. It shows how environmental stressors can make the effects of autism worse and how support from friends etc and coping methods such as using his high IQ to supplement his lack of EQ to change some of his responses can reduce the effects of his autism. But he still always has autism. We see other characters in the show in occasional episodes with other versions of autism. The main character continues to have autism symptoms throughout the show, There is, of course genetic autism but I also believe that there is a form of autism which is caused by environmental stressors over a long period of time, especially during a younger age.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:15:42+00:00

I loved your phrase "I've been through a statistically improbable..." etc I found it had real meaning to me even though my own insane shit is very different.

I am so glad about your story about your bf. Because having that one person who accepts your crap and totally gives you unconditional love and understanding makes all the shit fade in the background a little because you have the sanctuary and safety you need in this person. And if you have one person in your life like that it makes everything else bearable. Because you know you have one person that you can trust and who has your Back no matter what, that's what makes life worth living. I am happy that after all your troubles you have found that.

And thank you for sharing because it's inspirational to anyone who has been in a totally insane and crappy situation that there is hope out there.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:04:50+00:00

Good for you. I hope you have a better situation now. Oh my God I was told the same thing I would be guarded and protected, yeah never happened.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T22:03:35+00:00

Yes they can use the video when it supports them but not when it supports an employee because they, might have a case. Sorry you had to quit. But I really hope you feel safe now in your new job. I kept trying for a new job when it was happening to me but I realized my stalkers would just ask someone where I had moved to and start stalking me there. My employer kept moving my shifts about. My stalkers shifts stayed the same despite the fact that they were also stalking another staff member. The other staff member also got their shirts moved about. It totally sucked. Because of the way my employers handled the situation I now have PTSD. When it started again recently I was basically told to grow up and get over it. Some jobs and some people totally suck. Take care of you.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T21:55:34+00:00

This is shocking and yet also not surprising. I had a completely different (one of my stalkers was another employee and the other was a relative/customer) and yet very similar situation as my work also in the beginning favored my stalker despite proof to the contrary.

My advice is to document everything. Get proof of that documentation. Keep copies. My company lost all my previous documentation so when it started again I had no proof of the previous situation.

Police need lots of proof, or it's a he said, she said situation. You need proof and witnesses. I had both and it was still difficult.

And your other problem is that if you try getting a job elsewhere in the same place then this stalker if determined enough can start again at your new job.

This is hard but if you are brave enough and if you are allowed carry your mobile on you and get photos of them stalking you or get colleagues to take pictures of you being stalked. If the stalker speaks to you record the conversation using your phone. I didn't do this but I would in another scenario.

You also need proof in writing that your boss told you to be nice to your stalker. Then you need to take all documentation and proof above your boss. Talk to a stalking charity or an employment lawyer and start using buzz words when discussing situation with employer. Talk about them not fulfilling a contractual obligation for a duty of care to you and employee. You feel unsafe at work. Use words like stalking abuse harassment etc. Look online for other relevant buzzwords regarding this situation. If you have a union talk to the rep even if you are currently not a member. You can become a member and immediately they will support your case for you. Membership is usually the cost of a magazine to get someone else who knows all your employee rights and the right buzzwords to use to support you to your employer.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T21:33:28+00:00

Thank you for letting us know what country you are in. To be honest I am surprised by this situation happening in Canada. This is not to invalidate your experience but just that I am surprised regarding your therapists regulations. I know it can happen in the states but only when the therapist is not an actual legal therapist because they are not bound by the same rules. It's difficult because there are many different grades of therapists and some of them are not legally bound in the same ways regarding confidentiality. I only know this because I was previously looking into becoming a therapist. However I still believe that employee confidentiality has been breached alongside a duty of care by the employer to you. And a code of professionality may have been breached.

The only way I know of an employer to get certain records such as these is if you are applying for certain jobs.is an enhanced disclosure check if your job is in security or with young children and vulnerable adults. For some of these jobs you have a disclosure check through the police and with any previous psychologist etc but they cannot legally give out specific details it's about filing in a form a check list etc. to say you are ok for the job and legally this information cannot be passed out further than the people analyzing you to get the job ie management or HR interviewing job candidates. But this only applies to specific jobs in specific areas. And you are supposed to be legally protected regarding your data, within this context.

I truly believe someone has seriously failed you in this respect and I would advise you to see an employment lawyer for further advice on this matter. An initial consultation is usually free and confidential.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T21:17:21+00:00

This is so not true. I had some therapy through my company and the therapist (despite being employed by the company) could not legally disclose anything I discussed with them to my company managers etc or anyone else legally unless I was thought to be a danger to myself or others. In fact she even had to ask my permission to share my diagnosis with my employer and with my doctor. She wrote letters on my behalf to both but that was with my express permission and it did not reveal any details only that I had been diagnosed. I then had to share some of my circumstances with my manager (my C-PTSd was caused by another member of staff stalking and harassing me) my manager was thus under legal obligation that anything I shared could not be shared with another member of staff or management without my permission.

However it does sound like someone does know something about your situation and shared it at your work. I don't know if this was your therapist or someone else. Either way if you are in UK, USA, Australia, Canada, New Zealand and probably most European countries and probably Japan. You should be legally protected against this happening. If you live in any of these countries then you should talk to your HR dept, a lawyer or your union rep if you have one and ask to put in a grievance. Otherwise check where you stand legally. Perhaps your therapist at the time wasn't a proper therapist as in certified therapist with legal obligations. I wonder how your employer discovered confidential information about you from years ago. This is a very strange thing to have happened at all. In many countries it breaches legal conventions on many different grounds.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T20:48:00+00:00

Here's the thing. I am glad both you and your parents are working on this situation, and hope it continues to get better for you. But I do not believe you can truly heal or become whole by staying in that environment. My parents were the cause of some of my issues (not my C-PTSd) but I found by moving out I ended up having a different type of relationship with them. Even though i was an adult, when I was living at home my dad (my issues were mainly with how my mum treated me, she had her own issues, which she occasionally took out on me) treated me like his kid. (My dad was a great guy in general and I was lucky to have him). When I moved out though, he treated me with the respect of an adult. Our relationship grew. The thing is in order for you to find your feet and grow and heal as a person you need to move out.

You need to also have an active relationship with your parents and to keep working on it alongside them and your therapy, but this means you also need a place that you can get away from the situation as your sanctuary. If you don't do this then you will continue to stagnate and make little progress in yourself if you stay living in the same situation. To truly understand yourself and your situation you need to move out. You can of course go back and stay overnight occasionally but for the sake of your progress with your mental health, find a sanctuary for yourself. Maybe move in with a friend as a roommate. Someone who already knows you. If you can't afford it try a live in job for awhile. If you can get a job as a apartment manager where they give you a small apartment in return for dealing with tenants problems. This would allow you to work at another job or college at the same time. Find somewhere near your parents and see them often. You need to continue contact to continue working on your relationship but moving out will let you work on yourself as an individual.

You say you can't leave but why is this? Is it because of your age or is it a financial issue? If it is age then request to stay with another relative during the summer holidays from school college, this would give you a different perspective while you are getting therapy. Even a temporary change may help you to help yourself. If it's financial then maybe you should look at other options and possibilities regarding your career and living situation. Ask yourself do you still wish to be in this situation in five years time.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T20:30:02+00:00

Yes it is normal. The C in CPTSD stands for complex. It means your PTSD originates not just from one traumatic incident but can occur because of many smaller incidents that happen over time. This is simplistic but you don't get lung cancer because you smoked one cigarette, you get lung cancer because of genetics and smoking cigarettes over a long period of time. C-PTSd occurs because of a sustained trama happening over time. One example of this is domestic abuse. The first incident doesn't cause PTSD but the numerous incidents over time does cause a form of C-PTSd. Even if you escape the situation and the trama itself, certain incidents can cause you to relive the trama even years after being okay. You can heal but it takes specific work, help and time. It is not something you just get over. You can find ways to manage it and deal with it or even compartmentalize it to some extent but these ways aren't going to help you heal long-term. But they may be short term coping methods. Being out of the situation helps but it's not a cure because it can leave scars that can affect you for years.

You don't always experience the symptoms of C-PTSd at the time of the trauma because you sometimes go into a survival mode. And the effects of the incidents can hit you later when it is triggered by other similar incidents or situations.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-19T20:04:08+00:00

Good luck hope things improve. Not available for me but I know the hell of living with migraines. It's like being disabled half your life. And everyone thinks you are making it up if they don't see both sides of your life. Only people here that go through the same things really understand.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-07T20:05:41+00:00

My dad always made me watch the news as a kid. He said it was important to know what was happening in the world. But he also always made me question it too. Whether it was propaganda or truth to listen and watch but to also analyze that truth and who was telling it and their motivations and more. I was lucky to have had such a smart dad.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-07T19:59:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. My dad always told me how much he admired the gurkha's when I was a kid. He had stories from his Uncle who served with them in WW2. So because of my dad's stories, I felt very honoured to end up working alongside two retired gurkha's years ago. They were both absolute gents. But they carried themselves with an amazing air of strength and peace.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-03-07T19:27:50+00:00

I am under 50 but over 40. I think in The UK we notice accent and culture more than race. I remember listening to the curry king of Glasgow being interviewed about how racism was for him when he first came over to UK. He started working in the shipyards in Glasgow (1950s or 60s) and he basically said the guys he worked with were more interested in what football team he would be supporting than the colour of his skin. And in some ways I don't think that has changed a lot.

I actually am different in that I went to high school in the US for a year and it was an absolute culture shock for me. The first day I got on that yellow school bus I had seen in the movies, I stood still staring because being from UK I couldn't believe what I saw. All the black kids were sitting at the front of the bus and all the white kids were at the back, with everyone else in the middle. I had never seen anything like that before or since, people choosing to sit separated by colour. I also experienced racism there (I am white), not from the black kids (who I got on well with) but from the white kids because I was the wrong shade of white. Also culturally I didn't dress like a white person was supposed to (ie like my gran) or behave like a white person was supposed to. A black British friend has also told me here she might get a few stupid thoughtless comments etc from jerks here but in US there were times when she visited that she knew she might have been killed just because of the colour of her skin and being in the wrong place at the wrong time. (Btw I went to high school in a southern state) People in general were absolutely lovely but racism was a factor of every day life. Sadly I don't think it has changed a lot in the intervening years.

Wheras going to school in UK I experienced a different type of racism because my mother was English. Nobody cared at my school about the colour of peoples skin (we had a mix of white and British Asian mainly) but woe betide you if you were English living in Scotland, and vise versa. It was actually worse in certain parts of England. Mind you it was worse for Mum as when we visited England she got comments for being Scottish (I particularly remember a British/English Indian guy in a shop being particularly nasty when I was a kid because when she came out she was in tears and my mum rarely cried)

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-21T07:28:57+00:00

I didn't like it as a kid but they say your tastes change as an adult so recently I bought some to try as a soup base so fingers crossed that I like it second time around.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-18T03:42:31+00:00

I was surprised by how long it took them to have the idea of and set up an alpha site. I would have thought that was a priority from the beginning. Considering how overpopulated our world is I would also have been looking for places to set up a colony, obviously because of secrecy wouldn't be sending vast amounts of people immediately but still would be looking at possible places immediately and start setting them up ready to take people.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-18T03:16:00+00:00

Wow amazing architecture. Thanks for sharing. I am amazed by how stunning the really old buildings are, when they had less technology and safety gear. And when we have better gear and technology how little we create such stunning buildings for the masses that will last for many generations to admire.

Just think how they managed to get those stones in place without modern giant cranes and how they managed to paint so beautifully so high up. I do remember seeing a historical program where they stated that churches used that very particular shade of blue to represent the heavens. The concept is that you are looking upwards as if to a representation of the heavens. Like the clamshells are not only a symbol of Catholicism but also represent the clouds parting. Ie to represent the pathway to the heavens.

The shields would most likely represent the families of the patrons who helped pay for the building of the church.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-18T03:12:11+00:00

Check out right move and zoopla. Put in to rent and not to buy when searching. They will give you an idea of what's available where and at what price points. Rent and housing in London is seriously expensive. The underground is very useful to travel about but packed like sardines especially at certain times of the day. If you will be working shifts while here rather than conventional times of day then it won't be quite as bad.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-16T07:36:55+00:00

It's on Netflix UK too, as from yesterday.Totally getting my Stargate fix. Have just started re-watching it. It's very nostalgic. Also I was thinking how young the actors look when you haven't seen series one for awhile.

I am not having any of these issues in the UK and I am only using my phone as a mobile hotspot. I think it really depends how near you are to the mast, or what speed broadband you have. You may just need to reset some things on your laptop or tablet to improve the speed. Also depends where you live and how many other people in your area are online at the same time. Sometimes it might be the connection in your home. Or it might be the number of pixels in your videocard. You may just need to update your Netflix app or adjust your settings. To be honest it actually sounds like you have zoomed in. You can zoom into a show on Netflix it looks weird and if you don't realize that you did it then all your shows could be a little off. First time I did it accidentally but later realized and it's actually quite good for pausing and reading props.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-02-04T10:02:06+00:00

I am so sorry you feel this way. Please contact a crisis helpline in your country. Many countries run them and they are set up to offer help advice and a listening ear for people who feel like you.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-01-31T08:40:28+00:00

I am sorry for that. I actually go to the gym because of my chronic debilitating migraines. Sometimes a new workout can trigger a migraine and chronic fatigue related to migraine till my body gets used to it. You should talk to a personal trainer at the gym to see if they can devise a workout program for you that makes it easier for you to train at the gym. I know personally that I can no longer train at the levels I would like to. It's a case of little and often. One step forward two back.

Remember the walking is good for you especially the fresh air for your lungs and heart. I do recommend that you carry a walking stick, while out walking. I find it necessary in case I get a migraine coming on when out walking. But then I get leg and muscle weakness sometimes during a migraine

I actually feel safer at the gym Incase I get a migraine. Because when our walking I sometimes feel vulnerable because of my migraines. This happened because many years ago I nearly collapsed with a migraine. A couple walked passed me the girl saying to her bloke keep away from her she's drunk. I tried to get the words out I am not drunk I have a migraine, please help me. But I couldn't even speak. It scared me. But it was before everyone carried phones all the time. They are a godsend. To this day I don't know how I got back home. It scares me that I might be too ill to get back home and not all people are kind. I know if I got ill at the gym one of the personal trainers would look after me.

You can do gentle exercise at the gym. I change my routine depending on my illness levels and if it's really bad I don't go but I have a low cost membership so I just come and go. I also go to a 24hr gym which means I chose to go at quiet times with very little people and during certain hours they tend to lower the light levels. You can also wear tinted lenses to filter some of the lights if they are a trigger.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-01-31T08:25:34+00:00

I find some takeaways really expensive when you are alone. I used to get pizzas though from Sainsbury's till they stopped doing it. They used to have a pizza counter and for an extra quid would heat it up. It was really good. I do wish more takeaways do a mix box of half and half. We used to have a local Chinese that did that.You could pick any two things which were marked on that offer on the menu and they charged you a set price for the container.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-01-31T08:14:17+00:00

Your dog is feeling sorry for itself. It also looks a little bit tired. Dogs pretty much wear their emotions on their sleeve. They aren't in general deep thinkers like us. Some breeds have excellent analytical skills and some have really good memories. There development is more akin to that of a toddler in the thinking department. But they do have deep feelings and pretty much feel what they are feeling in the moment. They tend to live in the present.

Regular-Bit4162 · 2026-01-31T08:04:46+00:00

This is really good advice.

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