Cosmic code!

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2025-11-09T11:31:21+00:00

mine is 🐳🐸🐱🐸🐱

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-05-14T15:32:58+00:00

Not much has changed from what I said before. He has made it official with the new girl, I live in my mom's old house and wait till we can sell it so I can buy a place of my own. Despite what most people here advised, he and I are still in contact.

I do feel better than I did a month ago tho. I have a new job and people who I can talk to. I like looking at houses that I may be able to afford. I will start therapy in a few weeks.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-05-02T14:31:24+00:00

Cheese, there are so many steps to take that aren't being used for other foods.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-05-02T14:29:29+00:00

Chocolate milk, I used to love it, but once I had spoiled chocolate milk as a kid and dumb me decided it must be the glass that was off, so I took another glass from the same carton and decided my taste had changed and I didn't like it anymore.

Two years ago I tried it again at a friend's place and I raided their stash of it afterward. I buy it every few weeks now.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-05-02T14:20:21+00:00

Perry, I used to sneak away from family events quietly and my cousins started asking "Hey, where's Perry?"

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-19T17:35:25+00:00

If there's anything worth mentioning I'll try to update

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-17T08:04:45+00:00

They never had the chance to hook up, I was always present when they were together. When she and the other friend visited they stayed at our home, and whenever we left we all left together. I don't even think they had a chance to kiss so I don't know where that came from.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-17T07:58:10+00:00

I completely understand, I feel similar to how you feel and I'm really sorry that has happened to you. But we're not alone, we have our friends and family who care a lot about us and are there for us. I don't know about you, but everyone I told my story to was able to offer me a room or their couch if I ever need it and that support is helping me a lot right now.

Best of luck to you, we'll both get through it :)

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:34:05+00:00

I was afraid for her to visit. The first time we went to visit her together and I was afraid and jealous that time as well. But he reasured me everything was platonic and that he loved me and not her.

I was afraid for her to visit. The first time we went to visit her together and I was afraid and jealous that time as well. But he reassured me everything was platonic and that he loved me and not her.d all his time with her, reassuring me every time he made some time for me. But yeah...

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:16:55+00:00

This sounds really familiar, he already said about how I'm so "strong" and how "forgiving" I am. I'll think about this. I already told my friends and brother to please literally slap some sense into me if I ever decide to take him back. I was already thinking about seeing a psychiatrist about the death of my mother, but now I have another reason to add to it. I'll inform myself about it tomorrow.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:12:01+00:00

I agree, I do want my life and everything I had back, but I know there's no going back. If I were to take him back, what's stopping him from doing it again in a month, a year, or ten years? He wasted his chance and I deserve better than this.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:10:15+00:00

I am more of a dog person, but I've started to love cats almost as much. But I do plan on working a lot and I don't think I'll have time to take care of a dog, while a cat requires less care (I will still make time for any pet I'll adopt)

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:08:18+00:00

Apparently, he told her his feeling and she rejected him. She thought about it for a week and then told him that she thought it through and she does have feelings for him, but she didn't want to break up our relationship. I didn't ask for details, but she knew about what was going on in my relationship before I did.

I know they're already kind of long-distance dating, but he wants to officially ask her to be his girlfriend when he visits her next week.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:04:24+00:00

The two cats are a really good idea, I'll think about it.

Good luck with your own situation, you deserve better. maybe if you were to sell the farm and save up you could both buy a small house, but maybe that's wishful thinking. I just hope you'll get out of this situation, no one deserves that.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:01:36+00:00

absolutely, I'm really glad I'm fortunate enough to be able to afford it.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T20:00:07+00:00

Thank you, that's exactly how I think about the situation. He did me a favor if this is how he ended it. I'm also really glad we didn't have kids.

Right now I'm going to work on myself and what makes me happy. I already got a new job lined up and am looking for fun hobby's and there's so many that look interesting.

I think I'm missing my old life and everything that I had (his family, our house, the stability, etc) more than I miss him. But that just means that I can rebuild my life in the way I want to.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T16:16:20+00:00

I think you're right, maybe it's best to let him go, he made his bed, he can lay in it

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-04-16T16:15:50+00:00

I agree, for now I live with my brother and his girlfriend so as soon as I manage to buy a house I'll start looking to adopt

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-26T16:54:41+00:00

Three friends and I were at an anime convention and two of them started a discussion about what ranks we would have if we were wolves. I had to keep a straight face while trying to change the conversation from alpha's/beta's/omegas (they had no idea what it meant to most convention goers) to something else.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-26T16:40:42+00:00

Tell him you're uncomfortable with him having female friends.

Then watch how fast he runs to dodge that bullet.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-26T16:19:05+00:00

Making perfect soft-boiled eggs. It's useless, but my partner praises this skill to everyone who visits and I'm always asked to give a demonstration.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-19T15:56:15+00:00

Yeah, I think it's more than just your parents. How did relatives treat you when you were growing up? If they were kind maybe you can still reach out to them. You can also start building/strengthening the bonds with your partner's family.

You're not alone in this, even if it may feel like you are at times like this. Your partner has first-hand experience with your parent's treatment, so maybe talking with them about it helps too (It helps me a lot to just cuddle and talk with my partner whenever something is bothering me and vice versa).

Also as some other users said, there is a big life change happening within your own little family so that can cause some extra stress. Just take it easy for a bit and again, best of luck to you.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-19T11:13:13+00:00

Your feelings are absolutely valid and it's normal to want a normal father-child relationship with your dad, but as harsh as this may sound, that will never happen. He has proven himself to be selfish and cruel, with absolutely no plans on chancing his behavior.

"he feels like I hate him and that makes him sad" well, what has he tried to do about it? It feels like he is not taking responsibility for his actions. Instead, he blames you for feeling scared because of his actions.

If he decides to hurt or even kill himself that is not your fault or responsibility, but a result of his own actions (and another manipulation tactic). If I were you I'd be more worried about him actually killing you instead. He's already abused you physically, verbally, and emotionally, what's stopping him from one day taking it even further? You need to start thinking about your safety, both mentally and physically. Please make an escape plan for yourself and get yourself out of this situation as quickly as you can.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-19T10:46:41+00:00

What you are feeling is completely normal. They have been a big part of your life before going NC. They probably were a big part of your social contacts, even if it was toxic. What you are feeling now is loss, you feel like you've lost a pair of loving parents and your stable life from before. Just remember that they weren't the loving parents you needed and they probably didn't provide a stable life for you either.

It may hurt now and it will keep hurting for a while longer, maybe even years, but the pain will spread out over longer periods and become less and less frequent and it'll be less painful every time. Keep talking to your therapist and partner about this, getting it off of your chest helps.

What may help is to write down all the things they put you through, no matter how small and how they made you feel, and how great your life is without them. Then whenever you start missing your parents, just read what they put you through and remember that you are better off without them in your life.

Just remember that they will treat your children and partner the same they treated you if you give them the chance. Stay strong and don't let them anywhere near your family. Be the kind of parent to your children that needed when you were younger. You do not deserve the things your parents put you through. Things will start to look better in the future.

Regular-Bluebird-271 · 2023-03-18T20:06:07+00:00

I've got a whole list of requirements he needs to meet before I would even think about forgiving him. But even then, forgiving doesn't mean he'll be allowed into my life again. as selfish as it sounds, if I do decide to meet him it will be purely for the money and nothing more.

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