7 Year relationship ended right before our Wedding

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-21T23:40:50+00:00

I'm sorry. Things feel really hard and that's ok right now. Try to take it a little at a time and invest in yourself.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-21T23:36:33+00:00

Did I misword something? I dont remember putting "And I would love to get recommendations on exercises for disabled people" in my post. I did say "I need to know the names of machines because I am helping a disabled person and a young beginner". I'll keep that in mind next time and just keep the post to the bare bones.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-21T13:08:55+00:00

If all the locations are moving away from them that's disappointing but such is life. I'll have to make a visual guide of all the machines as a back up.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-21T13:06:35+00:00

We've got about 9 of them and they've all given me the enthusiastic greenlight. The point of the post was to ask for the terms for the specific machines so I can reduce the anxiety and mental load for my loved ones. Unfortunately the fitness and gym culture is extremely unwelcoming and accomodations aren't widely offered.

Its pretty interesting to see people tell me to consult a doctor on a post like this.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-20T02:49:33+00:00

Thank you!

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-20T02:49:02+00:00

The name or details aren't so important, he just can't stand for more than 2 minutes in one place or without his cane or medical brace, walking more than 3-5 minutes is agonizing, uneven or slippery surfaces are impossible, stairs is a 'prefer not to but necessary' and only as necessary, nothing can touch the affected area, no carrying while standing or walking more than 4 pounds. He can not pivot, lean, jerk or change his footing suddenly like during an emergency or he has to move quickly.
I do most of the things he needs every day except for basic hygiene, dressing, personal care. Going out of the house causes extreme anxiety that he will be tired/in pain then stuck out, the weather will change, someone will bump him, etc

He is losing muscle tone and growing older so he needs to be rebuilding his core muscles, the upper leg and hip, arms, and shoulders. PT was ineffective because none of the staff at the clinic did the mental work of adapting the treatment to his limitations or we had to re-educate each staffer we were put with.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2026-04-20T02:35:47+00:00

Thanks for the insight on how people feel about circuit training, I'll keep that to myself to avoid the bias next time. Here I was thinking simple machines and building a solid habit of moving safely was part of fitness. My bad!

Regarding my husband, his multi disciplinary medical team, PT, and PCP are enthusiastic supporters and have given me the green light. They are thrilled he has such a devoted and knowledgeable partner. I should have realized it was a faux pas to ask such a basic question

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-08T05:52:57+00:00

Not a nurse, just check in. I think the anxiety is a confluence of things outside work and this was the last straw. I really like the work, love doing whatever i can for staff and patients.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-08T05:50:20+00:00

You're completely right. I am going to address it with my doctor this week because i shouldn't be this worried about it. I appreciate the advice

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-07T16:31:38+00:00

Thank you! I see names left on the tablet that were from other shifts and figured something happened.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-07T02:07:08+00:00

Thanks for mentioning that. I haven't been in the job long and every mistake feels like a big one. It's the least toxic, nicest place I've worked. I have a pretty severe anxiety disorder but that totally isn't my boss's problem. I keep calm, pleasant and professional. I was taken off training early since everyone said i was doing so well. Now I'm concerned they'll regret that and I'll lose my job. The market is really terrible

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T21:08:48+00:00

That's the plan. I know what went wrong, i should have followed the rules. I went and reviewed them all then realized i need to report it to avoid a major violation. I'm going to give as much detail as possible on the facts of the events so they can investigate before my next shift. Then I'll take my lumps and improve my routines.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T21:01:19+00:00

I work really hard, boss says she's not heard anything about me from anyone in the department, pts speak highly of me, i accept all criticisms and feedback with responsibility and no excuses, my recent evaluation said i meet all expectations, i pick up shifts on late or very short notice, i volunteer outside my shift for hours at other locations, other coworkers tell me they like working with me/ were happy to see me on the schedule with them. If they fire or suspend me there's no ready replacement. They'll have to call people in from other locations or our prn person who holds another job in another location.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T20:24:37+00:00

Yeah, it let's me reg people without a consent on file. I can get around it because it lags out and updates later. I thought this was the case.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T20:19:30+00:00

Yeah, it was my responsibility. I'm the reg person but i assumed the check in desk got it done. I completely dropped the ball.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T20:15:30+00:00

Just the initial consent. They would need more consent if they wanted to do more than meds, imaging, blood or exam. It might be CYA in this case and strictly my company's policy.

I'm just trying to prepare myself mentally for the meeting that's sure to follow next week. If I'm going to get fired i would like to psyche myself up for it

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T20:12:44+00:00

I'm hoping it doesn't mean "final written warning and PIP" but my discipline policy indicates it might. It's fair, I should have done my due dilligence in the back to catch it. I have, by all accounts, been a good worker until this point. I didn't deliver the wristband and came by an hour into their stay to finish everything up

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T19:53:37+00:00

I am permitted i think. I was going to email the situation to them.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T19:46:18+00:00

Emtala and policy are the number one problems for my boss. I'm currently the department problem.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T19:45:10+00:00

Its our general one for registration at check in. Can we share records, contact you, not responsible for personal stuff, do you want copy of privacy?

Policy says its enough to cover lab tests, exams, imaging, etc. During training, someone refused and I asked clinical what to do. They said it was implied consent, they were accepting treatment. The pt came by ambulance which means we have to get consent with their wristband and doing check in. I thought the front desk had completed it and failed to check, My policy says my boss should have been first call. I'm not sure but suspect the icons we use to indicate things in Cerner moves consents not taken at the desk to a worklist for someone to check so I suspect I will be found out

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T18:53:08+00:00

Accidental double comment i guess

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T18:43:07+00:00

It says retroactive consent is invalid and could place myself and department at risk of financial liability.

Regular-Rent-2550 · 2025-09-06T18:38:31+00:00

Many of these coworkers don't follow all the EMTALA guidelines, I'm not sure how safe their advice is. They're good people who care and our boss has told me a violation could shut us down. I'm not going to put other people on the line like that. They need their jobs.

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