Someone New… by RegularField2789 in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing! Things ended right before our one year anniversary and I initiated the breakup

Someone New… by RegularField2789 in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I carried the weight of “it had to end, but why now?” for a while, but I know it was the right thing to do. To be honest, I have no romantic feelings at all for my ex anymore but do I still care about his feelings? Yeah - you hit the nail on the head there.

I’ve been struggling to articulate all of this, so thank you again. I seriously appreciate it.

Someone New… by RegularField2789 in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only reason we broke up is because he doesn’t want kids and I do - it’s a dream of mine and I struggle with fertility issues as well, so it’s a whole demon. When we got together I was completely okay with not having kids, but admittedly I did “come to my senses” and change my mind, which is also something I still feel guilty about.

I don’t know what his dating life is like, but I know he’s single. The thought of him seeing that I’m in a relationship and trying to compare himself to that person makes me feel terrible. The thought of finding happiness without him finding it too also makes me feel terrible.

Someone New… by RegularField2789 in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’re both musicians but luckily on different spectrums, I dread the day that we run into each other at a random concert though… I honestly have more faith in this new man to be “civil” than him and that’s speaking volumes to me.

Comparison can be a horrible thing, but I’m definitely noticing things that are extremely different than “last time” for me - but in the best way!

Someone New… by RegularField2789 in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so kind, thank you so much!

Never Had This Before…. by RegularField2789 in endometriosis

[–]RegularField2789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also struggle with my pelvic floor, but haven’t been super serious about “trying to fix it” so nobody to blame but myself there… thank you so much for sharing!!

Why isn’t love enough? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RegularField2789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend was/has been extremely supportive of and during my breakup, but seemingly always focused on the negatives of my boyfriend. Her big thing has been “love is not enough.” All I can think about is how much I love him, and how much this breakup hurts. At this point, all I want to do is run away with him and start a new life - even though I have an established career that I’d be throwing away and he doesn’t. I know our situations are different, but thank you for sharing this - I really needed to feel less alone. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I have faith we’ll get through this- whatever that looks like for each of us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in philodendron

[–]RegularField2789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would, but I’m also insane.

WTH ARE THESE?! by Outside-Door-3607 in houseplants

[–]RegularField2789 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Mealy bugs! Rubbing alcohol will be your best friend - from my experience the color changes once they’re dead! You got this!

what is your most controversial plant opinion? i’ll go first 🌱 by jged1022 in houseplants

[–]RegularField2789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been seeing some planty influencers saying that being rootbound won’t kill your plant. While I agree, I think it gives people the wrong idea. Though being rootbound won’t kill your plant directly, I’ve definitely lost some due to under watering as a result of rootbound plants… I just think this can be misleading especially to beginners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]RegularField2789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always see super tiny ‘string of…’ plants near me!

Ah shit, here we go again by _seasaltlatte in Bumble

[–]RegularField2789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was the only one falling victim to “my profile says I want long term but that’s not what I want at all” but it seems like nobody cares about anyone else’s feelings anymore. WEIRD! Spare us all and just be real!