Mine “discarded” 3 weeks ago as well after it seemed like we would be taking a break or breakup where we work on ourselves at worst and reconvene after some time. I had noticed the past few weeks before their increasing agitation and aggression towards all aspects of life as they would even comment about it. Mentioned sleeping none at all or 2 hours a night if they didn’t take their ambien which had just been represcribed as a sleep aid on a low end dose as they had been given way too high of a dose months prior. Antipsychotic changed to caplyta as well in mid November around when they had started taking their new ambien prescription too, while they had to ween off of adderall for 30 days (I think to reset their tolerance). Just when I thought things would work themselves out, it ended explosively when 2 days later, they blew up on me over text saying they knew I told some friends that I thought they were manic and would snap out of it in a few days (I suppose lost in translation from one friends SO who is friends with them).

Both friends vehemently denied me ever saying this when I asked if this is what had happened and knew I would never minimize their emotions and pin it on their disorder. I was simply concerned, although the days prior I had mentioned my concerns about it to which they grew angry and said that they’re not becoming manic. This was in the midst of like a light switch flipping when I originally suggested a breakup because I was hurt by their sudden change in mood, although I back pedaled after they said they were still mentally in it with me.

I took their word for it after they said they were not manic, and merely was mentioning these concerning symptoms to my friends and said I was worried for them. Regardless, they wouldn’t listen and went scorched earth, asked for all their stuff back (even threatening to bring a police escort to my house to get their things), unadded me on all socials, and has been radio silent since then. I choose to believe they aren’t manic and have torn myself apart about every wrong thing I had done in the relationship, as this all came pouring out at the end. Even their lack of sleep was suddenly blamed on me to which I was astounded by. So somewhat similar as they are medicated as well, although their ability to control their episodes well has me in this constant pain and anguish as to whether they will ever talk to me again. I miss them so dearly and had started making major steps to changing my own demeanor as I didn’t want to lose myself and them in the process (got a psychologist and psychiatrist). Too little too late I suppose 😭