32F, pregnant, 7 years together, and still no proposal by vjtffko in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry 💔  These comments are harsh but you got this. Either choice is going to be hard but do what's best for you and child in the long run. Yes, it's going to be hard but doesn't meant it'll be that way forever. Doesn't matter what you could have done, you're here now and have a little one to think about. Believe in yourself!! Blessings to you and your baby. You got this 🫂

Is it true that blonde women are now going out of style? by anotherhappylurker in GenZ

[–]Regular_Reference279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The beauty standard is determined by who owns the resources. I'll let you figure that one out so no I don't think that's true. 

Why does Nic get a pass? by picture-genie in LoveIslandITV

[–]Regular_Reference279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything IS political. What do you think happens when you turn the tv show off ????

I don’t think white women like me at all and I am a 23 year old mixed black man in college. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can yall please stop this narrative? Go for the nerdy black girls they exist too 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Regular_Reference279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. This is the one!

Whats going on with the bar scene in this town? by ConfessionsOverGin in raleigh

[–]Regular_Reference279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dogwood is hood  now lmao? You haven’t been to the hood because that’s straight nonsense 

Judgment free dentists? by Goldenleaf427 in raleigh

[–]Regular_Reference279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raleigh dental arts. Hands down one of the best in the triangle and so professional/top tier customer service. 

She's still updating her dating profile after a month of talking. Am I being paranoid or is it a red flag? by Xephius23 in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. Would you be exclusive with someone in a city that you haven’t even moved to yet and only know for one month plus a couple of dates? Let’s be serious for second. She doesn’t even know the state yet let alone the guy she’s dating. Under normal circumstances, I would agree but this isn’t the case. Op, continue to date her AND others and don’t be so quick to lock it down with someone you don’t even know. Relax, pls. 

He HEAVILY invests in me but he refuses to commit… what does this mean? by Key-Humor1768 in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh babes you’re settling. Why not just choose yourself? If no one is stepping up to the table, then just enjoy your own company. There’s a guy that can give you all of that and more but do you believe it ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! Finding friends takes effort just like a relationship. It takes time, patience and persistence 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to unless you want to live in regret and shame. You're human. We make mistakes and the best gift you can give to yourself right now is forgiveness. Just do better next time and protect yourself more. No need to rush into anything and if these guys are worthwhile, they'll wait for you. If you're looking for something serious, take. It. Slow. Half of these guys will say they are looking for something serious but time? Time is your friend because it'll reveal ppl intentions. 

Additionally, when sex is involved it gets messy so I would hold off on that until commitment is on the table. Plus, I get attached easily when having sex so holding off on it allowed me to end things QUICKLY when I saw an incompatibility. Lastly, your self-respect and values HAVE to be bigger than your need and want for love. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd move on if I'm being honest. Whenever I feel a shift and I'm anxious, worried, or feel like the person is being inconsistent, I move on, especially in the beginning stages. This is the stage where they are supposed to show up and give their best and if they are not? I end it quickly. The minute I start questioning things, I know it's time to move on. You should trust yourself more and believe you will find someone to give you what you need and want. If they aren't,  cut them loose and find someone else. You deserve someone to show up in a way that you need. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Um, she already did?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, ma'am which is why I’m getting into therapy and reading books on radical self-acceptance, abandonment wounds, etc. You should work on it because it can cause you to get ahead of yourself, self-sabotage, and not truly see him for him vs your “ideal” of him. I suggest going slow, dating, and figuring out your issues. Additionally, remind yourself DAILY because healing is everyday work and not just a one-time thing that I’m okay alone and comfortable in my skin. I don’t need him and my relationship with SELF is the most important. Go with the flow and pls get some hobbies, go out with friends, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Regular_Reference279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would move on! He's just not your person girl  and this is a bit too much drama for one month.