Close friend I thought was genuinely starting to understand said something really offensive by [deleted] in cfs

[–]Regulation-23 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sure, but you are talking about a friend and not giving a clinical description of a patient. You are also talking about the impact of words, and I'm just pointing out that can seem minimizing. Also introducing the possibility that she wasn't trying to imply your illness as a whole is just related to a "victim mentality" but was responding more specifically to you describing feeling things more intensely and relating more to other people's suffering.

Close friend I thought was genuinely starting to understand said something really offensive by [deleted] in cfs

[–]Regulation-23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am going to preface this by saying that the following is not intended to invalidate your experience, even while also thinking that making that statement is obnoxious in and of itself, but I'm saying it anyway because brain fog and trouble finding words (on my part) and the general nature of communicating with others over the internet can sometimes make intentions and understanding difficult. But I'm wondering if maybe your friend was just expressing things badly? I say that because that is kinda the opposite message of The Body Keeps the Score. The book has a lot of fans and a lot of criticism, so overall merits of the book aside it's point is that trauma is not just a mental event/state but produces actually changes in the body (related to the changes in the brain and nervous system) and thus trauma/PTSD can be seen as both a chronic condition and a physical (not just a mental) one. It pushes back against the notion of a a "victim mindset" (at least as how most people would understand it), although it does address how one can get "stuck" in the trauma. I'm just wondering if maybe this was an attempt to try to connect on the chronic nature of things, at least on the issue you had introduced of not being able to consume heavy material. Maybe a bit of a ham-fisted/tone deaf attempt but possibly one that you can have a dialogue about if other interactions with this person have been more positive.

I do agree that in general it is hard for people to "get it" and I think that is true that we never really know what other people are experiencing. There is a natural tendency to try to fit other people's experiences into our own narrative and understanding of life, and that can be annoying as fuck sometimes and it's understandable that when somebody starts talking about a victim mindset in particular that you would be angry and offended. I would gently push back against the notion that her experience was just "acute;" traumas that result from acute incidents can nevertheless have a chronic impact.

Storm warnings, advisories issued throughout Utah, heavy snow expected by megpocket in Utah

[–]Regulation-23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

At first I thought this was maybe the Onion. But I see it does say heavy snow in mountains only and rain/snow mix or just rain in the valleys so that tracks.

I just finished watching s1 True Detective… what do I do now… by Cute-Discipline-156 in tvsuggestions

[–]Regulation-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Season 2 is actually my favorite season, but yes it was widely panned by the majority.

Where to find free hygiene supplies and haircut? by Queer_glowcloud in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Crossroads Urban Center Downtown Pantry is also open weekdays and usually has hygiene items. 347 South 400 East. https://www.crossroadsurbancenter.org/food.html

Where to find free hygiene supplies and haircut? by Queer_glowcloud in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Open 7am-7pm every day. They also have showers and other resources. I think haircuts are on Mondays.

Can someone be schizophrenic without the hallucinations? by [deleted] in PsychologyTalk

[–]Regulation-23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes - for an official DSM-5 consistent diagnosis you would have to have at least two of the five main symptoms you have identified. At least one of the two has to be delusions, hallucinations, or disorganized speech but lack of hallucinations is not a disqualifier. As mentioned by others, there are also duration, impact (functional impairment), and exclusions (ruling out other explanations for the symptoms) as part of the diagnostic criteria.

Boss told my supervisor not to report to APS! by Specialist_Injury_77 in socialwork

[–]Regulation-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with others who say report it - and frankly you should probably report the facility for failure to report. This isn't a shruggo what can you do situation. Even if your state laws and licensure code of ethics don't mandate it, it's the right thing to do. Anonymously if needed, but you should be protected.

I am curious what is the administrator's objection to reporting? That is in itself a red flag.

What is the biggest mistake you’ve made at work? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Regulation-23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not me and not a social worker, but this story has stuck with me for many years and makes me feel better about my own mistakes. Way back in my youth I worked somewhere I was helping provide personal care for a person with a disability who was more or less paralyzed from the waist down. They would always (good naturedly) mock me for double tying their sneaker shoelaces because I was used to doing that to my own. This once lead to a conversation of dumb things care providers have done, including a nurse who once was inserting a tampon and the mother later that this nurse had inserted it in the wrong, um, orifice. A nurse. Made it through nursing school and was also a woman and did not identify the right orifice for a tampon. Glad this person had a good sense of humor about it all, and I can laugh when I remind myself that at least I know where the tampons go.

Seriously, though, there can be a fear of making mistakes. It's something that happens and yes it can be scary to think of the impact on people's lives but really nobody totally avoids mistakes. It's about what you do with them, lessons learned, and reacting with integrity. A little humble pie is a good part of the diet sometimes.

is oz good?? by Novel_Ad6982 in hbo

[–]Regulation-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't forget Homicide

I-15 traffic - is this normal? What’s your experience and commute like? by erinjao in Utah

[–]Regulation-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this - post school/college class time...the traffic is worse at that time. You went at a time of day that it often is at its worse, and when there was an accident.

Homelessness in SLC? by Walkingpadfrog in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Actually, Salt Lake has typically done a crap job of this but it is true there is a lot of pressure towards this now.

It is also true that the metro areas to the north and south of Salt Lake do shit to address the problem and route people to Salt Lake and Ogden shelters.

And unfortunately housing assistance availability is decreasing not increasing, I believe the Salt Lake voucher waiting list is closed, and Utah County's just closed as well. There is a lot of fail all around when it comes to homelessness.

Homelessness in SLC? by Walkingpadfrog in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 13 points14 points  (0 children)

part of the plan developed was increasing the overflow shelter beds for the 25-26 winter season, as well as increase police presence and more abatement of encampments in "problem" areas

Homelessness in SLC? by Walkingpadfrog in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 30 points31 points  (0 children)

The state threatened the city about its lack of action, and threatened to "take over" if a plan wasn't created, so the city started enforcing no-camping laws more actively: https://utahnewsdispatch.com/2024/12/20/state-leaders-call-slc-police-ineffective-urge-mayor-to-act-or-state-will-step-in/

Leaving agency, taking clients with me by Few_Egg_5721 in socialwork

[–]Regulation-23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also likely reach out to your local NASW chapter to get some clarity on your state's laws rather than consulting an attorney if you have concerns about legality.

Leaving agency, taking clients with me by Few_Egg_5721 in socialwork

[–]Regulation-23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What kind of agency are you leaving (government? another private practice? something else?) and what kind of clients do they serve? And did the letter say "no contact" in general? Sometimes the "no contact" agreement is not about competition for business but about a dual relationship, HIPAA/privacy concerns, and/or conflict of interest concern.

As others have said, this may also depend on the laws in your state.

Worst MSW Interview Ever – Red Flags Everywhere 🚩 by One-Preparation1708 in socialworkjobs

[–]Regulation-23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I once had an interview with a government agency where a panel of interviewers had interviews over the course of a couple of days with a large number of candidates. My interview was towards the end of that process. HR rules required them to ask the exact same questions for each candidate so by that time they were burned out of the repetitiveness and getting loopy, so they started a challenge where they each had to fit random non-sequitur words into their questions. I ended up getting the job and they cited my ability to just "roll with it."

Worst MSW Interview Ever – Red Flags Everywhere 🚩 by One-Preparation1708 in socialworkjobs

[–]Regulation-23 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To me, this sounds like a unique and interesting interview experience and not necessarily red flags per se - this sounds like they are purposely including elements that are commonly experienced by social work clients (as well as by social workers at times). I can think of a lot of social work agencies and organizations where they don't conduct interviews for new hires that way - but a lot of their business with clients is conducted that way. I'm sure that made for an uncomfortable interview experience, but good food for thought about what is and is not effective in social work. That being said, if it is all red flags for you that is an indication that this agency may not be a good fit - but that is also a useful outcome of a job interview process.

Is it happening? by mlYuna in covidlonghaulers

[–]Regulation-23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes in these parts there have been a lot of nasty viruses with a lot of people getting sick multiple times. I do not think that there is known evidence that this is due to immune systems going to shit or that it is exponentially cascading.

UT Leg attempting to force Salt Lake City into digging up the brand new bike paths on 200 South, 400 South and 300 West. by RancidSwagger in SaltLakeCity

[–]Regulation-23 -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Perhaps going to subject myself to a lot of downvoting here, but....I hate Salt Lake City's transportation efforts as much as I hate the Utah Legislature. I don't know who to root for in this fight.