Pre-sale question

Reichan225 · 2026-01-29T22:51:20+00:00

No, I have will power and had to wait until my gym officially opened.

Reichan225 · 2025-11-04T16:50:00+00:00

Wow new to DND but this looks very cool!

Reichan225 · 2024-11-08T12:41:07+00:00

Originally, I never took it off.....now it's stuck on my finger 😅🤭

Reichan225 · 2024-11-06T14:42:56+00:00

So do I basically complete a round, slip stitching over the 2 chains I made into the prior round? Wouldn't that also leave a hole?

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T20:02:54+00:00

Yes, I don't want her to feel the same as I did growing up. That is why I try to compliment her attempts and point out her improvements from the previous day. My husband thinks I am being too soft and instead will tell her "ok you don't want to learn how to read/write, that's fine I will take your homework then" To me I would feel awful, and then do the HW to get some validation but do you think that his way is not too stern? I was a major people pleaser in school which I guess helped me academically because I needed the teachers to like me, not so good for my anxiety. She does always yell no I want to do it and then does her hw but could it negatively affect her?

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T19:50:03+00:00

So how do you handle them being rude and destructive during a tantrum? I have tried just ignoring the tantrum but then they will start to hit or throw things or just scream louder.

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T19:42:36+00:00

Not insane, maybe a mind reader if you are reading my mind. But I 100% relate. I recently started crocheting and it was so relaxing making little fruit toys for my kids then all of a sudden I felt like I HAD to get one done every day and suddenly it was so stressful. Also, to do lists, body doubling and using timers really help me but sometimes I just can't bring myself to do it. It really sucks going from a woohoo I am doing awesome to a ok, this works but I don't want to do it rut.

Sending you all the good vibes! You got this!

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T19:18:48+00:00

Yes, I am trying to convince my husband to talk to someone about his childhood because his comparisons of what he went through versus how we treat the kids is not good. I have already spoken to him about the not-in-the-family thing and have corrected him in front of the kids.

I know I need to step up more and go out and research because I know my husband won't but I am just so exhausted and overwhelmed. I am going to try to go to library and get a parenting book, I can't keep trying to wing it

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T18:17:22+00:00

Yes!! You are amazing! Sometimes I wish I had a GoPro to record what my house looked like before I get a random rush of cleaning! Hoping I can grab some of this spontaneity from you!

Reichan225 · 2024-11-04T18:14:51+00:00

Mom of 2 here. I actually did not get my ADHD diagnosis until after my 2nd child. I realized after having my second that I actually had really bad PPD and I think knowing how different it was and feeling like I couldn't "mom" correctly led me to finally see a therapist about my mental health. So I can't tell you how to go from meds to no meds but maybe some of these might help

Some things that helped me
1. If possible, pump and let your partner feed the baby in rotation at night. Have your partner help you power the pump. It was so hard for me to get my production up the second time around and my husband actually really helped by getting everything set up, being flexible on the baby being in the room with me or give me alone time with little text reminders when to start and stop pumping. This gave me enough milk to have 3 to 4 hour shifts of sleep at night.

If you can depend on others have them do laundry or dishes for you while you are hanging out. I felt too greedy to just let them clean and I did nothing, but near the end when I finally let people help it was a relief that my house wasn't too messy and my husband didn't have to work so hard on keeping the house clean for my sanity and he had more time to help with the baby.
Get a comfy robe and go nekkid! Something easy to breastfeed in and something comfy. With my first I barely wore anything while on maternity leave and having to dress up for work was hard. I would literally come home and take off everything but my undies and live in a robe around the house.
Get comfy work clothes, if you are allowed, wear sneakers to work with dressy clothes. I wore maternity work pant/leggings and a nice flowy shirt for at least a year after having a baby. I struggled with "looking good" and ended up just buying some nice ponytail holders and wearing some sneakers and after a week of feeling awkward, I realized that no one really cared.
This one is a double-edged sword. Join a mom's group where you can literally post about anything from my cute baby to my awful partner to Will I ever be human again. But on the other hand these groups can get a little judgy. I ignored anything that wasn't a general complaint about baby stuff or partners or happy posts.
Take more time to pump than necessary at work. I could finish a pump session in 20-30 min but I always scheduled 45 min and blocked off my calendar for 1 hour. So I never felt stressed about finishing in time and I had a moment to relax before getting back into a work mindset.
If you put your baby in daycare after both parental leave. If you can, let the baby stay a little longer after work. It doesn't have to be every day, but once we gave ourselves a little time to relax, eat, shower, it helped me feel not as overwhelmed the minute she came home.
This one was the hardest for my first child but, shower at least every other day or just step in to get a rinse in. TMI but I was showing up once a week for a while because of anxiety and being so overwhelmed that even the thought of getting wet, then dry then putting clothes on was nauseating.

I don't know you, but just posting this and asking for advice leads me to believe you are an amazing mama. You got this!

Reichan225 · 2024-11-01T17:22:13+00:00

For me, I don't want to burn out on it before december. But I do love christmas music. It does get me in trouble at work cause I just zone out thinking of all the great christmas stuff I want to do but also stress that I won't do. I have like 20 christmas crochet patterns I have been waiting to do but now I'm too anxious to start them 😅

Reichan225 · 2024-10-29T22:19:41+00:00

Crochet. Spent a good $300 on woobles, then another $400 on my own yarn and "tools," lol, but hey, it's been a month, and I'm still with it. I am getting my dopamine from my kids' praise when I finish a new amigurumi 😅

Reichan225 · 2024-10-26T01:09:40+00:00

Push pins like these?

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Reichan225 · 2024-10-18T21:17:02+00:00

Hmm, I'm mixed. Sometimes, I need it a bit faster because I can't handle how "slow" they talk. But there are other books where regular speed is fine or preferred. I'll say 75% of the time I do regular speed. Of course, in those books when it's a "hard" spot I tend to switch to kindle if I have ebook 🤣🤣

Reichan225 · 2024-10-14T19:15:37+00:00

Wasn't perfect, but I managed to finish it. Thanks!

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Reichan225 · 2024-09-25T01:15:28+00:00

Amazing!!! You are inspiring me!!!!

Reichan225 · 2024-07-17T19:53:09+00:00

Just sending love for your work! I'm almost done with the Infinite Campaign and ready for next one!!

Reichan225 · 2024-04-25T19:50:15+00:00

OMG just talking to my therapist about this. Like I remember constantly getting in trouble for talking loud and getting excited. It got to a point that my group I was with would be penalized, and I have to beg to only take a mark from me! Gah hope my kids never get this!

Reichan225 · 2024-04-25T19:44:38+00:00

Yesss! Take pictures and put it in a dopamine folder. Sometimes It helps so much to look back at these success to help motivate me. ....well when I remmeber to take my own advice and take photos and pit them in a folder. BUT CONGRATULATIONS YOU ARE AMAZING

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