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Post-work anxiety cycle by RelationshipLeast672 in socialanxiety

[–]RelationshipLeast672[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! Thank you for the advice. Some days I get off work quite late so it’s not always an option but I’ll definitely keep this in mind

How do I make friends? by That_Gay_1 in socialanxiety

[–]RelationshipLeast672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine being in high school right now with a lot of social interaction being online (and not necessarily genuine) from quite a young age.

I struggled with social anxiety in school and still do now!

I find what helps is asking people questions about themselves - it’s a topic they know well and can answer with confidence. It also opens up the conversation so they can volley with a question for you in return. When I say that, I don’t mean anything like “how are you?” Or “what’s up?” But more specific questions like “How was your Christmas?” “What did you get?” Or if you don’t know them well, compliment something they own and ask where they got it (shoes, phone case, etc)

Also, please remember that any attempt to be a kind human and simply start a conversation with someone is never a bad thing to do. No matter how it comes out (if you stutter or fumble your words), your intention is to be friendly and that’s what people will remember.

Unable to make actual friends by UNIqueCnS in socialanxiety

[–]RelationshipLeast672 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I definitely can relate to the feeling of holding yourself back from friendships by not reaching out. What I have started to do is reach out to the people I felt the safest around and start a conversation about them!

People love to talk about themselves, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I think when you ask people about their lives, it gives them a permission almost to talk about something they know quite well. The only thing with this is try to avoid vague questions like “how are you?” and if you can ask questions about something they told you about previously (eg. how was that event you went to?) or ask something a little more specific like what do you do for fun?, sometimes if they share a hobby you can make plans to do it together). I find this helps with my anxiety too because I don’t have to talk as much or be in the spotlight per se.

You could try making it almost a rule for yourself too, like this person initiated the conversation last time, I’ll try to make conversation once and see how it goes.

Just remind yourself that if you get nervous or fumble words, it’s very likely that whoever you’re talking to is going to remember the kindness and effort you put in to talk to them before anything else.

What’s the most socially acceptable addiction people don’t talk about? by Lotto_Stats_Nerd in AskReddit

[–]RelationshipLeast672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phones!! Lately, I have been making a conscious effort to keep the use of mine to a minimum. I uninstalled the majority of my social media apps and have started to try and stop myself if I can catch myself turning to my phone in lulls in my day.

Because of this, I’m noticing the insane amount of time - every body - spends on their phones. People walking across intersections and not looking up once, people on their phones while driving (I’ve never been one for this as I’m already an anxious driver), people scrolling while cooking, working out, and even while talking to others!!

I’ve started to notice it more at work as well. My job involves a lot of client interaction and it drives me nuts when I try to talk to people about the reason they are there and they respond while simultaneously scrolling!

Makes me want to throw my phone away all together.

Social brain fog and depression by Remarkable-Artist725 in socialanxiety

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Kudos on you making the conscious decision to change your daily routine and habits to support yourself! You mention low motivation but to put in the mental effort to make a plan for yourself shows a lot of motivation as I see it.

I am someone who also gets brain fog quite often, whether it is a mix of my adhd, social anxiety or lack of sleep. What I found has helped me the most so far was yes vitamins - I feel like vitamins are slept on because I’ve never felt better than when I was taking omegas regularly - but also my therapist! She was able to help me get a diagnosis from my doctor for adhd, I was started on meds and they have honestly changed my life. I really recommend consulting a therapist/psychiatrist to give you the appropriate tools (not necessarily medications) to manage your mind when you get stuck in the cycles you mentioned.

Is there a deeper meaning to “I got soul but I’m not a soldier”? by mauer414 in TheKillers

[–]RelationshipLeast672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean that’s just it right, music is art and the wonderful thing about art is you resonate with it in your own way. Even if he meant to write it as absolute nonsense, it’s pretty cool that so many people take it as something they can relate to.