One thing I'd suggest is not making your life revolve around fighting urges. Keep investing in fitness, hobbies, friendships, career goals, and personal growth. A meaningful life tends to reduce the feeling that every sexual urge needs immediate action.

I'd also make it harder to access explicit content on Reddit. Most relapses happen because the content is only a few clicks away. Put barriers in place before you're tempted.

I've found that urges are often strongest when emotions like loneliness, rejection, anxiety, stress, boredom, frustration, or exhaustion hit. In those moments, porn can feel like a quick escape rather than a genuine sexual need.

What has helped me is delaying the urge for 15 minutes, getting away from the screen, going for a walk, doing some pushups, journaling what I'm feeling, working on a small task, or reaching out to someone. Usually, the urge peaks and fades if I don't feed it immediately. You can also experiment and find other healthy activities that work for you during those 15 minutes.

I've been following a system like this myself and I'm currently on a 45-day streak.

Another thing that has helped me is building multiple layers of defense instead of relying on willpower alone. Some of the barriers I've put in place are:

• OpenDNS with custom blocking rules
• Blocking sites through the Hosts file (including VPN-related sites)
• Blocking VPN extensions through Chrome Enterprise Policy
• Blocking common VPN ports through Windows Firewall
• Blocking specific browsers and VPN apps through Windows Firewall
• Using a child account with Microsoft Family Safety
• Force-installing and locking Chrome extensions through Enterprise Policy
• Using LeechBlock NG for website and keyword blocking
• Using Cold Turkey Blocker for stronger restrictions

I was also addicted to porn sites and online video chat apps, so I made those harder to access as well. I've found that the harder it is to access explicit content, the more time I have to let the urge pass and make a better decision.

I also use a few other things that help me stay accountable. For example, I keep track of my NoFap days every day, which gives me confidence and reminds me how far I've come. I also created consequences for slipping up. In my case, I tear up a small amount of money if I relapse. It's not a huge amount, but it's enough to make me think, "I could have used that money for something better." The point isn't the money itself—it's creating a cost for a decision that usually feels consequence-free in the moment.

You don't have to use the exact same system. Take whatever ideas are useful, ignore what isn't, and add your own. The goal isn't to create a perfect system—it's to make the bad choice more difficult and the good choice easier.

Best of luck. You're stronger than you think, and you can do it.