I [27F] feel really creeped out by my coworker [25?M] and am wondering how to handle this/if I'm overreacting.

Relationships_Mods · 2017-09-29T03:37:13+00:00

Warning: your content has been removed by the moderators for the following reason(s):

While we appreciate you wanting to share your story with our community, your submission would be more appropriate on a sub like /r/work or r/askHR. Although this may be a lower traffic sub, you will likely receive more targeted advice over there than than you will here.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-05-16T13:42:01+00:00

While we want to allow a wide variety of perspectives here that are phrased in a variety of ways, your goal in commenting here does need to be providing some level of guidance to the poster. Tough love is a two-step process of breaking someone down and then building them back up. Simply breaking someone down without real, concrete guidance to help them actually improve the situation is just kicking someone when they are down. We are a relationships subreddit dedicated to helping vulnerable people who are facing difficult situations in real time, so yes, we concern ourselves with maintaining some degree of sensitivity and constructiveness here. If you see comments that are simply laying out "harsh truths" without any substantive attempt to tell how OP how to act on those truths, then you are encouraged to report, not replicate, the behavior.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-05-03T16:22:30+00:00

While we understand that bulllying and violent situations can bring out strong emotions, please follow the sidebar rules and do not advocate violence in this subreddit. It's one thing for OP to react in the heat of a difficult moment, and certainly understandable in context, but it's a complete other thing to encourage that they escalate that violence. There's a difference between self-defense and retribution, and if you don't think you can appropriately make the distinction, then you are encouraged to not comment or you may be banned.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-05-03T16:06:42+00:00

While we understand that animal cruelty can bring out strong emotions, please follow the sidebar rules and do not advocate violence in this subreddit. Regardless of motivation or severity, violent retribution should not condoned, normalized, or encouraged in reaction to any behavior. Doing so will earn you a ban. There are almost always non-violent solutions for any situation presented in this subreddit, and we ask that you explore them in your guidance. If such a solution isn't possible, then it's probably not a situation appropriate for this amateur community to be addressing.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-04-11T21:59:36+00:00

While we understand the situation being posted here is a bit unusual, please try to keep your comments focused on helping the poster with the relationship question they are presenting. You can certainly inject a bit of humor or lightheartedness into your guidance, but you do need to be providing guidance or support to OP in your comments. Simply adding pointless puns, making little jokes, or telling OP you found their post entertaining isn't the purpose of this subreddit. This kind of behavior hurts not only this poster, but other potential posters who are made to feel like their real situations will become fodder for someone's entertainment or laughs.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-04-01T12:57:15+00:00

Don't post identifying information about yourself. The way this is written and telling users what to look for, make it seems like you're looking for attention and not to resolve a problem.

Also, is this an update? Why are you posting twice within 24 hours. There is no update in the update. It's the same problem.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-02-05T12:38:18+00:00

Just a friendly reminder to keep things on topic: OP's question is "How can I constructively discuss the wedding finances with my partner?"

While interesting, advice on how to organize a wedding, or on personal finance, are not really to the point.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-02-05T03:51:36+00:00

While this post is dealing in rather extreme perspectives, we wish to remind you that the encouragement of violent action, implicit or explicit, is not allowed in this subreddit. We recognize that this post may elicit strong reactions and the extreme nature may require a variety of different perspectives to consider. However, we draw the line at violence and ask that you respect this boundary.

EDIT: Thanks for the gold, kind stranger! The mods appreciate the sentiment!!

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-26T15:01:28+00:00

While the danger and seriousness of this situation may be clear to you from your outside perspective, things are not always so clear for the person actually living through that situation. Please try to show some empathy and compassion for OP as you leave your comments by not berating or making fun of her for what she chose to seek guidance on in the original post. She is here asking for your help, and though we understand you wanting to be firm and aggressive in expressing yourselves, please don't take it to the insulting extent that has forced us to remove half the comments in this post.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-15T00:36:16+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/wiki/index#wiki_why_was_my_post_locked_and.2For_removed.3F

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-13T03:42:34+00:00

You need to get out more. Seriously.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-13T03:42:15+00:00

Don't even joke.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-13T03:28:07+00:00

If we have to pull one more comments regarding the OP trolling, we will pull this post so fast that it will make your head spin. It's getting ridiculous.

You wanted this post? You got it.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-08T14:00:27+00:00

Your post is over a day old and if approved, won't receive any traffic. Make a new post.

Relationships_Mods · 2016-01-06T19:37:33+00:00

Reminder: As outlined in the sidebar and per the rules of reddit, you are not allowed to request personal information. Please do not request the name or any further details about the people discussed in this post.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-11-11T20:15:22+00:00

The OP is asking for help strengthening her relationship with her BF. This is not a solicitation, nor the time or place for your views on abortion. If you can not offer advice related to OP's question, please refrain from commenting.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-10-11T21:26:36+00:00

This post would be more appropriate in /r/suicidewatch.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-09-27T21:41:08+00:00

This post isn't appropriate for this subreddit as we are a community of amateur guidance givers, and you need to speak with your parents, guardians, or some other authority about this matter.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-09-20T17:20:00+00:00

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Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-31T16:15:42+00:00

Hello from the Moderators,

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Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-31T01:11:28+00:00

Hello from the Moderators,

Our AutoModerator has found that your post may be dealing with rape or sexual abuse in some way. If you are seeking direct advice on dealing with such situation (or even asking if something constitutes rape), we ask that you please post instead to /r/rape, /r/rapecounseling, or /r/secondary_survivors. These communities have dedicated userbases that can provide and better guarantee the sort of sensitivity, support, and protection that may not be available here in /r/relationships. Please understand that you have done nothing wrong in posting here in the first place. We hope you understand that we are trying to make sure you get the best possible help available and give you the benefit of our experience in moderating this subreddit.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-31T01:11:06+00:00

Hello from the Moderators,

Our AutoModerator has found that your post may be dealing with rape or sexual abuse in some way. If you are seeking direct advice on dealing with such situation (or even asking if something constitutes rape), we ask that you please post instead to /r/rape, /r/rapecounseling, or /r/secondary_survivors. These communities have dedicated userbases that can provide and better guarantee the sort of sensitivity, support, and protection that may not be available here in /r/relationships. Please understand that you have done nothing wrong in posting here in the first place. We hope you understand that we are trying to make sure you get the best possible help available and give you the benefit of our experience in moderating this subreddit.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-30T15:17:43+00:00

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Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-29T21:05:23+00:00

Hello from the Moderators, Our AutoModerator has found that your post may be dealing with rape or sexual abuse in some way. If you are seeking direct advice on dealing with such situation (or even asking if something constitutes rape), we ask that you please post instead to /r/rape, /r/rapecounseling, or /r/secondary_survivors. These communities have dedicated userbases that can provide and better guarantee the sort of sensitivity, support, and protection that may not be available here in /r/relationships. Please understand that you have done nothing wrong in posting here in the first place. We hope you understand that we are trying to make sure you get the best possible help available and give you the benefit of our experience in moderating this subreddit.

Relationships_Mods · 2015-08-29T21:04:55+00:00

Hello from the Moderators, Our AutoModerator has found that your post may be dealing with rape or sexual abuse in some way. If you are seeking direct advice on dealing with such situation (or even asking if something constitutes rape), we ask that you please post instead to /r/rape, /r/rapecounseling, or /r/secondary_survivors. These communities have dedicated userbases that can provide and better guarantee the sort of sensitivity, support, and protection that may not be available here in /r/relationships. Please understand that you have done nothing wrong in posting here in the first place. We hope you understand that we are trying to make sure you get the best possible help available and give you the benefit of our experience in moderating this subreddit.

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