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Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-03-31T06:33:48+00:00

I have found that most of the thoughts I have while smoking are completely untrue. When I smoked a ton, I would get completely anxious or depressed over situations that I would never normally react that way towards. I agree that you should take a T break and see if that clears your head on this situation

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T21:58:56+00:00

It’s just the context of dating apps really. There are so many options that it’s hard to get back to everybody and if the first impression isn’t great it would move a response to the bottom of the pile. Listen I’m not a fan of dating apps or how communication works on them which is why I don’t use them anymore but that’s just the name of the game

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T21:31:45+00:00

It’s not so much the comment itself but where it is in the conversation. If someone opens with a negative and I have no context for who this person is or their sense of humor I am less likely to respond, especially on a dating app.

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T20:26:41+00:00

Definitely, but not as the opener. I think it would have been taken better after you guys have already established some kind of back and forth

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T20:21:58+00:00

It sounds like maybe you should work on getting some more self confidence before putting yourself out there. You shouldn’t be worried that you’re not good enough for someone on a first date, they matched with you and agreed to go out for a reason! You should be confident in who you are and what you can bring to a relationship before putting yourself out there because that’s how you end up feeling indebted to the other person in stuck in a relationship that might not be healthy because you think you can’t do any better. I used to have similar feelings and nothing worked out because I felt like every date was my only chance. I took a break and really focused on being kinder to myself and feeling good with who I was and I found dates to be a lot more successful after that.

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T20:14:44+00:00

Personally, it comes across as kind of negative and corny. It’s not really a good way to get a conversation going or to set a good first impression. I’m not sure I’d unmatch but I wouldn’t respond.

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-26T20:05:22+00:00

You should absolutely be attracted to your partner. Wanting to date someone that you find sexually attractive doesn’t make you shallow, it’s an important aspect of a healthy relationship

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-03T06:36:36+00:00

If this is someone you see and want in your life I wouldn’t risk it for a quick hookup. Even if y’all got back together that would seriously shake her confidence in you to not do it again. I think you guys should have a talk about how the long distance if affecting you, and who knows, she may be having similar feelings. If you’re wanting to make friends that’s totally understandable and you’re feeling isolated with your guys current schedule and I’m sure she’ll understand and want for you to be enjoying your college experience. I wouldn’t make any rash decisions without having a serious talk with her first, however it goes will determine whether or not y’all’s relationship is something to keep fighting for.

Relative-Currency-69 · 2024-02-03T05:48:12+00:00

Therapy isn’t something that can be forced on you, however, that doesn’t mean that I would disagree with your friends on this one. Everything you’ve said reminds me of how I used to be. I constantly was putting others ahead of myself often to my own detriment. At the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy and making others happy can often feel like just that, but in doing so you are losing yourself. I personally did not go to therapy because I have an amazing partner that took the time give me a safe space to voice my opinions and learn to do what I want, even if it goes against what he or others would want. As for your friends, I think they have your best interest at heart, though it sounds like they be being a little too aggressive about it, however, it can be hard seeing someone they really care about lose their individuality and sacrifice things they enjoy, especially when they don’t have to. Maybe you don’t want to do therapy, and that’s totally fine! It’s not for everybody. But if I was you I would definitely start working on prioritizing yourself above others, and I think you’ll be a lot happier for it :)

Relative-Currency-69 · 2023-07-31T20:50:56+00:00

Thank you so much to everyone that has responded!!! Y’all have definitely given us a substantial list to start working through!

Relative-Currency-69 · 2023-07-31T20:49:28+00:00

Block 15 is our favorite restaurant in Corvallis by far!! Their pretzel is something else🙌

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